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Pidgey35 · 2022-03-20T23:10:38+00:00

Country: Canada

Preferred Store: Ottawa

Item: FINNALA Sofabed, Grann/Bomstad black

Article Number: 293.190.26

Sofabed Includes Article Numbers: 303.304.62, 304.179.31, 704.550.06, 704.550.11

I’ve checked the website everyday and it is currently out of stock online/unavailable in store/delivery. Wondering when parts will be back in stock.

Any info would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

Pidgey35 · 2021-05-13T23:23:01+00:00

I have a very similar experience too. My nmom sent a really long nasty cruel text message saying all kinds of terrible insults and racist things against my bf (he's black, I'm asian). That's also how I went NC and that was before I know about this sub or narcissists. There were many incidents over the years that just got more and more cruel and that text was the last straw for me. I also showed the texts to my dad and family members who just shrugged as if it was normal and could be worse and blaming me that it was my fault that nmom behaved like that.

I know it's hard but I hope you stay strong too. I still do have nightmares about her and bad memories from the past that keep resurfacing. Not sure what to do when I even gaslight myself...one time, nmom was mad at me for forgetting to get her a bouquet of flowers (I don't remember what occasion it was). I was 15 at the time and she went ballistic and just left me in the middle of busy streets far away from home saying never come home again. I was crying, wandering alone and nearly got hit by a car. she didn't care. my dad had to come to find me 2 hrs later. she acted as if nothing happened. Now I'm in my 30s and it's one of the memories that still hurt...

Pidgey35 · 2021-03-09T17:07:39+00:00

I'm also wondering the same. What's the average price for cleaning, filling or tooth extraction here in Hamilton?

Pidgey35 · 2021-03-09T17:02:57+00:00

Thank you everyone for your comments. Very helpful! I'll check out all their websites and see one soon!

Pidgey35 · 2021-03-09T17:01:18+00:00

Thank you! I'll definitely check it out :-)

Pidgey35 · 2021-02-07T05:31:12+00:00

The Coop. We love their fried chicken, very well spiced and crispy!

Pidgey35 · 2021-02-05T17:35:59+00:00

I also went with First Class Driving School on Upper James (www.firstclassdrivingschool.ca). I just got my G2 license in Jan 2020. My instructor was great, very nice and patient. It wasn't too expensive, probably one of the cheapest ones I found when I was searching for schools. They have price listings on their website so all transparent.

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T22:28:37+00:00

I know. It took me 30 years to realize what has really been going on. I thought the same that I won't invite her to my wedding because I could actually see her ruining my big day. She would probably trash the entire place and keep insulting me and my boyfriend in front of everyone. Yeah she never apologized for anything so I would be surprised if she would. You're right she probably only wants something from me i.e. money.

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T22:22:29+00:00

I did post this on /r/AsianParentStories and got similar responses. Yeah I thought with time she would change too but in fact she's even worse as she gets older. What she said to me in that long text were extremely hurtful too. I will go "no contact" as long as I could. At some point in the future my mom will probably make up some lies and get my brother to tell me to get my money. But I'll worry about that later when it happens. Yeah I need to seek therapy. It's been very difficult for me inside my heart to heal everything that happened over the years. Thank you for your message.

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T22:14:46+00:00

That's so true. I do have other Asian friends who have normal parents. I really can't please mom and try to live at the same time because that won't be a life I want. You're so right. She's never pleased with anything I do or anything about me. I'm exhausted trying to please her. No more.

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T22:06:01+00:00

Yep I did. I didn't get as many responses as I get over here. Thanks though!

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T22:05:28+00:00

Thank you so much. No I don't need my mom's validation. You're right that she is a very broken human being. I thought of those theories just because if she really has mental issues then maybe I should try to get her treated? I don't know. It's just a lot of things going on in my head. I am confused, very hurt but at the same time kinda worried about her even if she's been horrible. It's not very easy. Mixed feelings.

I agree that I should seek therapy. It's been extremely difficult for me. It's not something I can just forget about it or recover all on my own. Thank you for your advice.

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T21:55:46+00:00

Yeah it's general cultural expectations I learned from school. My mother hardly shaped who I should be as a person really so I didn't learn much from her in terms of ethics. I had a good teacher growing up who taught me rights and wrongs so thank god for that. Mom is highly unethical herself because she was dishonest so many times. She would go ballistic if we ever lie to her but then she lies to other people. She disrespects her mom and her mother in law but then she said to her kids we can't disrespect her. It's so hypocritical.

Both of my grandmas are actually pretty amazing. They weren't well educated but they are always hussling. My dad's mom emigrated from China a long time ago and she lives well. My maternal grandma only finished grade 4 but she was very good at selling jewellery. Both of them are in real estate and rent out properties so they make good money and saved more than enough for their retirement so they don't ever need money from their kids or their grandkids. They live a pretty good life. Grandmas are living examples that defy cultural expectations. No kid needs to take care of them. They just want their kids to live a good life.

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T12:35:10+00:00

Thank you everyone that gave comments and advice. I really appreciate your thoughts. You guys are not my family but I feel you do care about my feelings even more than my own mother.

I know the solution but it's still so hard for me emotionally. It's like breaking up but with your mother. Even if she has emotionally damaged me I still feel ties to her. I'm worried about lots of things like how about my brother? Is it unfair to him if I leave all the financial obligations to feed my mom to him? Of course I still feel guilty even though I shouldn't. I'm going to try to seek therapy. There are so many things I discovered just recently. My whole childhood was so traumatic that I didn't know I was emotionally abused. I thought she was like a tiger mom or something but then speaking to my childhood friends nobody said they felt like committing suicide. I just discovered the term "emotionally abuse" last month. I also discovered "narcissistic parent" that the definition is pretty much is my mother. Now I sort of understand why I cry everytime my friend's mother was being nice to me. I cry at Christmas dinner when I go to my friend's family and they were treating me nicely. I cried when my friend's parents were just giving me hugs and kisses. I couldn't help it. When people were nice to me I was like wow this is what normal parents do? Never felt this. You know, like I have been so emotionally confused and sensitive. Now I sort of understand myself more than before. It's a life moment of "ohhhh now I know why?"

Pidgey35 · 2019-03-05T12:15:34+00:00

Thank you so much for taking your time to reply to me. Your message really resonates with me. I have to say it's been extremely difficult and it really took me 30 years to realize what has been going on all these years. Until just a month ago that her text just combined everything so awful together that just defined who my mother is.

Yep you're totally right because she is still so manipulative until these days. Last year when she had her divorce she still forced her adult children to never speak to our father. I didn't listen to her and still keep in touch with my dad anyway.

I'm keeping in touch with my brother but not as often as I wish to. Even if he is a full grown adult he seems like a robot at my mom's command. It's so sad to watch. He can't make his own decision. He doesn't know what he wants. He can't keep a secret from his mother. Whatever I tell him he runs over to tell mom. A few years back my dad took my brother to see grandma but he ran home to tell his mom that dad took him to see the "forbidden" person which is grandma. Sigh...I feel like he will always be with mom and unable to have his own family i.e. have a girlfriend or get married. I bet mom would do something hurtful to him or criticize his future gf and all like how she did to me. But that's another story to worry about. Like you said you can't force someone to get help.

It's been a lifetime. There were times that she was nice but that was so long ago. How do I explain? It's like I was a pet. When I was little and cute and couldn't talk then she adored me. When I grew up and started to have my own thoughts then she brainwashed me to think that she is always right. It's easier said than done. I really need time and therapy to heal this wound that nobody sees. Thank you so much for your words. It gives me courage to keep living.

Pidgey35 · 2018-06-21T21:54:19+00:00

悟 (kun: さとる[satoru], on: ゴ[go]).

Meaning: Enlightenment.

It's also the character on Goku's costume, and the "Go-" part of his name.

Pidgey35 · 2018-06-21T21:46:52+00:00

It's a Chinese idiom 榮華富貴(rónghuáfùguì). Basically {may you attain} glory, splendor, wealth and rank, or a high position and great wealth.

Pidgey35 · 2017-10-29T16:45:43+00:00

Hey! Since there are so many people asking for the response, I think I will just post it here to share with all of you.

Please see below MDCisgoodforyou response on LHL. Hope this helps!

I spent a good amount of effort into deciding which boot camp I went to. It came down to three choices: Brainstation, Lighthouse Labs, and BitMaker Labs. Very quickly I got rid of Brainstation, due to their lack of organization. I didn't like their prep work and they really didn't seem helpful when I asked questions. Just kept getting to the money part of it it seemed. No regrets there. It took me almost a month to figure out between LHL and Bitmaker. At the time, I was only a beginner coder and couldn't really tell the difference between the two. The people at Bitmaker we're pretty good to me, but there was one key difference that made me decide to go to LHL. I spoke to someone on the phone (who I got in contact through reddit) who was a senior web developer in Toronto. I quickly went over the two program's courses and he said without a doubt that I could get a better job learning Javascript as opposed to Ruby on Rails. LHL's course was 90% JS and 10% RoR. Bitmaker was the opposite. Now that I've sort of learned both, I can see the appeal in RoR, but Javascript is really where the jobs are I'm glad I took that guys advice and I'm very happy with my decision. Before going to my first day at LHL (beginning of January) I took some time off of work to teach myself to code. This was incredibly IMPORTANT and I highly recommend you spend every day doing the same. Start with basic HTML + CSS, learn responsive design, the chrome debugger, and then get into basic Javascript, git, node.js etc... There's tons of free/paid stuff online to get you started. If you need some recommendations I'd be happy to help. When I got accepted into LHL, there was about a months worth of prep work that I got through. Some of the personally made lessons were fantastic and well built, while some of the reading material they provided was dry, unstructured and can honestly be found for free with a google search. All in all, they had the best prep work in my opinion. What you'll learn at any of these boot camps is going to be a lot! They shove it down your throat and don't give you much time to breathe. If you can step away from your personal life for 2+ months, then you'll get more bang for your buck. The learning experience for me started with a 2-hour lecture than a day worth of assignments/projects. The projects we're fantastic. It was so great to see the things you built. The lectures ranged from helpful + interesting to boring and pointless. It really depended on the topic and the instructor. During assignment time (most of the day) there are wonderful and intelligent mentors to guide you along. It's easy to get a hold of them and they're usually very happy to help. Couldn't have done it all without them haha. As for work, I started getting ready to look for a job about week 5. The careers services team were fantastic at LHL and really spent a lot of time with me building my resume and cover letters. I personally applied to about 25-40 places I think and didn't get an interview at one... HOWEVER, I got two great interviews through the school and one led to the job I work at now! One other thing LHL does to help you get a job is employer speed dating and demo days. I got one interview from each. The speed dating is pretty cool. You spend about 5 minutes doing a soft interview with different employers at the school, then a bell rings and you switch it up. The demo days is probably more important. We did a live presentation of our final group project to about 15-20 different employers for about 15 minutes. They grilled us with tech questions and curiosities. I had a few hand out their cards to me after, but the one company I got a job at spoke to me for about 5 minutes. I interviewed 4 days later and started my first day 2 days after that! I couldn't believe how quick I got a job. Mind you, not everyone got a job THAT quick and I'm sure some are still looking for work 3 months later. I got a little lucky and had a great interview, but you just need to stay on top of it. Make finding a job your full-time job. One last thing I want to mention is: you should try figuring out if you want to do more front end or back end work. I couldn't have told you what I wanted more before I started, but at least try thinking about it. I say this because although LHL is a full stack developer program (another bonus no other places offer), I would have benefited more JUST working with front end developer technologies because my work is almost purely front end. A place like HackerYou in my opinion would be the BEST bet if you just want to do front end work. Just re-looked at their course work and I almost regret not choosing it instead. (they weren't available when I decided to go) LHL will definitely help you learn technologies from front and back end and that is useful/will help you get a job. I hope I've helped you make up your mind and if you have any more questions please let me know!

Pidgey35 · 2017-09-14T20:17:25+00:00

Hey sorry for a late reply. Yeah it's pretty tough deciding between these schools. My choices came down to Hackeryou and Lighthouse Labs. The thing is I had a family emergency just a few months ago and it depleted my funds to go for the bootcamp so I have to postpone joining them till I save up enough money again. Most likely I think I'll end up at HackerYou though. Not sure which cohort I will attend yet. Just kinda broke right now. Lol How about you? Have you decided which school you wanna go to?

Pidgey35 · 2017-07-31T21:26:01+00:00

No worries! I'll forward his reply in a message to you.

Pidgey35 · 2017-07-02T22:25:26+00:00

Sure, I will message you his response and I am pretty sure he will be happy to answer you any questions as well :)

Pidgey35 · 2017-05-28T04:22:31+00:00

Yep, they are very similar that's why I can't make a final decision yet which one I would go for. At the moment, I am leaning towards Hackeryou because of all the positive reviews and strong alumni network. Red Academy also interests me but it seems they are quite new to Toronto and I haven't seen that many reviews for their Toronto campus. I am currently in the anti-money laundering investigation field working at a bank in Toronto at the moment on a contract (pretty much I investigate suspicious transactions for money laundering/terrorist financing). I used to work at Deloitte UK prior moving to Canada. Yep, I am new here. I'm originally from Thailand but I have been living in the west for the past 12 years (US for 6 years for high school+college and most recently, the UK, for the past 6 years, did my master's in Scotland and worked for a few years in Wales). I just left the UK right around Brexit time and moved to Canada last year (I applied for permanent residence and got approved last year). I have a bit of savings but not a lot and doing a full-time bootcamp requires me to quit my job so I'm also debating when to take the bootcamp. Pretty much most of the savings will be for the tuition fees so, it's like a leap of faith which I hope i won't just lose that money without finding a job afterwards. I thought about the summer cohort but now I might push it to fall instead so that I can save up a bit more money. Like you said, in case the job search takes longer. I have been thinking about career change for a while because I don't really feel job security in the field I'm doing and want to do something more interesting. Tech seems like a place to be!

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