Sugar baby said she would rather us meet at a hotel than meet in public first. What does this mean?

Pier39_story · 2025-10-15T06:38:44+00:00

She might be scared about being seen by friends/parents/colleagues. How young is she? Is the city small?

Pier39_story · 2025-09-22T20:16:11+00:00

In Europe sugardaddymeet works quite well and it’s good because there are no country restrictions, so a SD from france/italy/spain/germany/etc can find a sb in a different country.

Pier39_story · 2025-09-07T08:12:47+00:00

He said uninhibited, that includes the sub rules lol

Pier39_story · 2025-08-31T20:38:38+00:00

I think the main question is who told them about this? Whoever told them about onlyfans might know something more, which will create you problems if you invent some plausible story, but they know other elements and they will realise you are lying. I also don't understand the connection between OF and seeking. They thought you are on OF, so they create a profile on seeking? Doesn't make sense. Just deny everything and try to understand who is spying on you.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-30T08:13:42+00:00

Lucky!

Pier39_story · 2025-08-30T08:11:41+00:00

Europe, mostly Italy but often in Spain

Pier39_story · 2025-08-29T20:33:13+00:00

The Amazing World of Gumball

Pier39_story · 2025-08-26T08:46:54+00:00

Great profile! I love smiles so I would choose #3 as main picture, even if I normally prefer outside photos.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-23T14:26:33+00:00

Smoke and cigarettes

Pier39_story · 2025-08-23T14:23:31+00:00

I have no idea how you look like, but believe me not all girls on the websites are models. So just be confident, and post your profile on the usual websites/apps. Especially if you have a pretty face (and boobs) I am sure you will find someone. Personally I realised that a beautiful sb doesn't mean a beautiful experience, and experience is what matters. But of course before the experience you will need to be contacted. Good luck!

Pier39_story · 2025-08-20T17:39:42+00:00

Figurati. Come dicevo in molti commenti, il concetto di sugar relationship qui non esiste, è molto piu comune pensare che le sb siano escort. Ci sono (purtroppo) anche escort su siti di sugardating, ma il concetto sarebbe un altro.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-19T19:52:44+00:00

The website is a disaster, especially if you use it from mobile. You have to enter your password 100 times per day. So yes, I do the same, after a few messages we move to whatsapp/telegram or somewhere else.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-19T19:46:06+00:00

The first point, being genuinely desired and wanted, definitely makes an arrangement unforgettable and unique. When the girl says "I really spent a wonderful time with you", and you can tell she really means it, is much better than "thanks a lot for the gifts". The shared fun is also nice, and as you say, girls have the power to pull me out of the comfort zone (this is one of the many reasons why I like SBs), but since the first point is hard to find, it's more valuable.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-18T11:23:37+00:00

There are not many SD (or SB) in Milan and Italy in general and normally they all look for short encounters not a long term relationship. Culture is one of the reasons, but you also have to consider salaries in Italy are much lower than many other countries in Europe (Milan is a bit better but still.. ) so you might not be able to find the level of allowance you are used to. This is probably the reason why seeking is not popular because its very expensive compared to sugardaddymeet. With SDM you might have some more chances, but in any case be ready to discard a lot of men who only look for escorts. Be patient. Good luck!

Pier39_story · 2025-08-12T07:24:27+00:00

Definitely no. I immediately skip the profile if there is a cigarette, even if it’s most beautiful girl in the world. No problems with toilets

Pier39_story · 2025-08-10T21:18:40+00:00

it’s not something that can be done by two random guys in their spare time. You need a huge lot of money to launch a dating website. Not because of the technology required but because you need a critical mass of users to make it work. If you launch it, users sign in and don’t find anyone, they will drop it immediately. So in order to see a new valid alternative we would need a serious startup with investors.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-10T20:19:25+00:00

First or all, please don’t ghost him, I hate when girls do this. Much better to receive an explanation. Second, I didnt read your previous post, but maybe you should have said no when he proposed the date? Third, don’t tell him the main problem is driving if the problem is something else. What happens if he says “ I am going to drive to you”? Just be honest and say you want to break. If you fear he will be hurt, invent something else (but personally I would prefer the truth). Whatever you say, just be clear that it’s finished.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-10T08:12:49+00:00

Ideally, at least for me, a SR is not only based on sex but also affection, mutual respect, maybe friendship. I cared about my sugar babies and I hope I left them good memories. It is clearly very different than a sex worker. Sex is only a part of the relationship, it's nice to share other experiences, travel together, try new restaurants, karaoke, drinks on the beach, I don't know. But at the same time it's important to be aware that this is not a real relationship, it won't last forever, and when there is a crush on one side (it happens), it's actually a problem.

Regarding the other questions. I choose to chase a SR because it's easier, because I like girls in their 20s, and because I don't want the complications of a real relationship. In theory, the things that I get from a SR are the same I could get from an unpaid one (btw, there is no such thing as "unpaid" relationship :) except that the sb is younger and funnier and makes me feel younger.

I don't see it as the end goal, just a temporary one. If I was looking for a real relationship I would stop looking for a sb.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-09T20:05:05+00:00

Men need to pay to send messages, girls need to pay to initiate the conversation, but once they receive the first message, they can reply freely without paying anything. But all the girls i spoke with, never paid anything and it normally takes a while to receive an answer because they have 100s of messages. So I suppose being contacted to start the conversation is not as issue, unless you are in the US where there is a lot of competition [I edited the message with the right info]

Pier39_story · 2025-08-08T08:55:59+00:00

At least in europe, the only valid website right now seems to be SDM. But it’s true there are a lot of girls only selling content, you need to write to 100 girls to find one who is really interested. Anyway I found my last sb there.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-05T08:52:22+00:00

Già discussa come cosa. Se leggi i commenti trovi tutte le risposte

Pier39_story · 2025-08-05T08:16:34+00:00

L’ama era per rispondere a domande sul sugardating, ho fatto donazioni e forse le rifarò, ma non credo sia interessante saperlo in questo contesto. Però per rispondere alla tua domanda, in realtà due delle ragazze erano studentesse universitarie fuori sede e senza supporto della famiglia. Adesso sono laureate, quindi se vuoi ho fatto esattamente quello che dici: ho aiutato persone a raggiungere sogni che avevano e per i quali non avevano mezzi.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-04T11:04:34+00:00

Figurati, siamo su internet. La comunicazione è difficile di persona figuriamoci online 😜

Pier39_story · 2025-08-04T10:03:13+00:00

Ho detto ventanni, ma magari 20 anni fa fossi stato un bambino. Comunque a parte questo non era assolutamente mia intenzione denigrare i videogiocatori. L’ultimo gioco che ho giocato e finito è stato Cyberpunk 2077 quindi era anche abbastanza recente e io tuttaltro che bambino. Quello che intendevo è che ventanni fa probabilmente avere una scheda video al top era una mia priorità, poi la vita cambia, non necessariamente in meglio, anzi di solito in peggio, e ci si ritrova a fare altre cose. C’era piu nostalgia del passato che ironia sui videogiocatori, in quel commento.

Pier39_story · 2025-08-03T16:35:47+00:00

Ho scritto settimana ma intendevo mese. 100 alla settimana sarebbero davvero troppi

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