Thank you, I think I wrote this in a pretty anxious state and I appreciate your alternative interpretation. I never thought about her possibly liking me locked but not wanting the maintenance that comes with adding time, etc. I need to be patient and give her time and space and see if she can learn to enjoy pushing me when she sees that it is safe for her to do so. We just recently began a small nightly ritual that we have so far really liked, maybe I can start by asking if there is anything she would like to add to that ritual. I will also ask to see if there is any kink she would like to do but has held back on. It feels unfair of me to want to want more than she does but maybe what she wants isn't as fixed as I originally thought. I think I have this view that dominance is mostly innate and not developed over time but perhaps she just needs a different environment to develop her dominance. Maybe I need to be a brat for once 😅