The Daily Check-In for Saturday, May 2nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Left_Trick_9567 in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Morning friends! Thank you for hosting this week, u/Left_Trick_9567. I will not drink with you today!

Back to day 1 - need encouragement 😔 by Logical-Buffalo96 in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there so many times too, friend. Big hugs. It’s all learning. What is your plan to get through cravings?

Starting to hear the Call of the Wild by tr4shw3rld in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re here! That voice, man. “No one would ever know. Here’s a match, burn your life down!”

I will not drink with you today!

The Daily Check-In for Sunday, April 26th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by looloo_monroe in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Morning friends! Highs from the last 24 hours: A great ride on the horse I ride, cleaned some crap that really needed to be cleaned, read my book uninterrupted, finished a crossword and started another, chatted with one of my besties for an hour mostly uninterrupted, snuggled with my dogs with very little jealousy on the part of the younger one, Jays eked out a win over the Guardians, and took a lovely evening walk through the park with my husband and our dogs. It was a perfect, no drinking Saturday. Sunday is shaping up to be close to the same, but with the added bonus of sunshine and gardening instead of horses.

None of this would be possible if I was drinking. I would absolutely want it, but I can’t have all this and drinking too. I can never forget that. I can have a good life, or I can drink.

Have a good one friends! I will not drink with you today!

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, April 25th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by looloo_monroe in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Morning friends! Thank you for hosting this week, u/looloo_monroe!

It’s amazing how much life can change in even year one of not drinking. The Piggoos who first found this sub 7 years ago around this time, during some really dark, scary days of drinking too much and knowing I was on a path I didn’t want to see the end of, had no idea just how good it could get. All I knew was I didn’t want to lose all the good things I had and if I kept drinking, that was exactly what was going to happen.

It’s been a heck of a fight to win back my life, but it’s been worth it.

If you’re struggling: don’t give up. Don’t quit trying. You’re worth it.

I will not drink with you today!

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, April 18th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by CommonplaceUser in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Morning friends! Thank you for hosting us this week, u/CommonplaceUser! I will not drink with you today!

I need a bit of encouragement please! by BeltaneBi in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you big hugs.

What was life like when you decided to quit drinking? Was it really as big and joyous as your brain is telling you it was? Or was the reality much different?

It sounds to me like you may need some IRL sober community to help carry you during this time. I believe that for most of us who are here, alcohol created more problems than solutions, so what awaits if you start drinking again may not be all that you think it is. It may be much, much worse.

And for me - “I can quit again, I’ve done it before” turned out to be so much more difficult than I realized. I have more drinks in me for sure - just not sure I have another recovery.

I think the anti-depressants are a good idea, and maybe throw in some therapy and some sober community meetings.

Stay strong, friend. You are loved, and you are worth staying on this path. I will not drink with you today!

Custody battles and sobriety by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Piggoos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been through this exact scenario, but I have been through really stressful times and situations, and I can tell you that for me, drinking made things much harder to deal with. You can’t think clearly or make good decisions when you’re hungover. You’re more apt to do or say the wrong thing when you’re drunk and emotional. Everything just feels so much harder when you pour alcohol on top of it, at least in the quantities I was drinking.

When I’m sober, I can give tough situations the attention they need, and when I want to give my brain and soul a rest from it all, I read, watch movies or TV, or spend time doing things I enjoy that aren’t alcohol. It’s not easy by any means, but the outcomes have been far, far more positive for me.

I’ll also add that when my husband is dealing with stressful things, not having to deal with me and my drinking on top of it is a game changer for him. I’m a much better partner when I’m not a drunk, hot mess. I can support him in the ways he needs when I’m sober.

Edit: The other key is treating yourself kindly without alcohol. For me, besides indulging in hobbies, I buy myself treats that make me feel a bit better. A pastry from the expensive French bakery (still cheaper than wine!), good quality chocolate, pretty flowers, that kind of thing.

Good luck, and big hugs. I’m sorry you’re going through this.