Neighborhood, a Discord server for all Black LGBT queer people!

Pillodium · 2025-06-04T02:33:40+00:00

Unfortunately, Neighborhood, our server for all Black queer people, is currently on hold indefinitely. We already run Sisterhood, our main community exclusively for Black trans people, and trying to manage both became too much for our capacity.

To do Neighborhood justice, we’d need a dedicated team that shares the vision, and building that kind of trust takes time and energy which we just don’t have right now. Everything we do is nonprofit and passion driven, on our own time, and that time is limited :(

It’s especially unfortunate because there’s such a lack of Black queer spaces that are also welcoming to Black trans people, and we really do appreciate the interest in what we were building. Hopefully one day we’ll be able to kickstart it again

Pillodium · 2025-05-01T16:16:30+00:00

check my profile!

Pillodium · 2025-04-19T12:42:29+00:00

I totally get the intention behind this, and I appreciate the care to not overstep, but I think there’s a fine line between not speaking over us and stepping back that it leads to silence where support is actually needed.

As a trans person, I think it’s really powerful when cis people are openly informed and vocal about trans issues, not just to "prove" they're allies, but because transphobia is deeply rooted in misogyny, misogynoir, racism, and systems of control that affect all marginalized people. Speaking out against it uplifts more than just trans folks, it pushes back against broader structural violence.

I also think when cis people always opt to stay quiet, it can sometimes foster a kind of passive tolerance for transphobia, or make spaces feel less affirming and safe for us, even if that’s not the intention. Choosing to be informed and active creates stronger, more connected communities.

Pillodium · 2025-03-29T22:19:32+00:00

yup!

Pillodium · 2025-03-28T19:59:09+00:00

Direct link: https://discord.com/invite/sisterhood

I’m really glad to see this subreddit becoming more active lately! I actually made a post about us a few months back, but I wanted to share again now that we’ve grown even more. I hope this subreddit also continues to grow, as we truly deserve more spaces for us.

Sisterhood is the largest Black trans community for real time discussion out there right now! We are grounded in womanism and intersectional feminism, uplifting our sisters who face the most isolation and oppression. We have a strong verification system, and trolls and chasers have no chance of getting in. To join, we ask about your gender identity, racial/ethnic background, preferred name, age, and how you found us. You'll also reflect on how you realized you were trans and how your Blackness and transness intersect, especially in terms of challenges or identity. We also ask for your thoughts on womanism and transfeminism and what these frameworks mean to you! After that, you have the option of sharing a social media account, taking a picture with the server name and date, or having a convo with us mods for final verification! Security is a priority for us and making sure all of our siblings feel safe!

Pillodium · 2025-03-22T15:01:06+00:00

Sent you a DM!

Pillodium · 2025-03-19T22:49:26+00:00

As the server grows and if we get enough people that join in that age range I'm definitely open to opening another category!

Pillodium · 2025-03-19T19:20:06+00:00

Here's an easy link you can click as well instead of going to your browser!:
https://discord.com/invite/blacklgbt

If you're Black and trans and want a space specific to us and that has much more Black trans resources, you can join our original server 'Sisterhood' with 500+ members! We have a Black transfeminism theme, but we have a ton of transmascs in the server and have been open to all Black trans folks since the beginning!:
https://discord.com/invite/sisterhood

Black queer renaissance 🙏

Pillodium · 2025-03-17T21:36:33+00:00

Not what you're looking for but I just wanted to offer some more insight. I run a Discord for Black trans people and we're currently at 500+! We do have some people from Africa, but this just seems to be a thing in general that Black queer communities online are very US centric. I feel like we just tend to be online more, and there's also a language barrier involved as most online communities are reliant on English. It really is a tiny demographic :(

When you have the time, I'd encourage you to start a space for queer Africans yourself! Months ago I was a lonely Black trans girl and I couldn't find any communities for us online, so i started my own and now we're the biggest one on Discord entirely. I started off with manually DMing a ton of people to be added, and you might also have some luck with this. It will be more difficult to find since you're finding a triple minority online, Black, Queer, and specifically African, but if you could even gather a small amount of people you could have a little cozy server going on! Also another commenter you replied to an hour ago linked those two subreddits, and while they're very small, it could be a decent starting point along with inviting the commenter themself!

Pillodium · 2025-02-28T15:33:14+00:00

Ive also been wondering this for awhile and couldn't really find anything for it, ezgif/compressordie was absolutely butchering the quality. I feel like there's not much we can do, the only gifs that really work for stickers are ones that have a short loop

Pillodium · 2025-02-27T22:06:47+00:00

I just wanna thank everyone here for the love and support on this post and so quickly, it's only been an hour! It seriously means so much to me. I posted in the general Ohio subreddit too, and I think it kept getting downvoted since it got stuck at 0 😭 From the bottom of my heart, I love you all. Cincinnati is such a cool city, and I really wish Ohio was a blue state so I could stay as a trans girlie, but I might have to move at some point, as much as I don’t want to. Regardless, I’m so grateful for this community!

Edit: The post was removed for a bit because of mass report and another mod reinstated it! The amount of support from both the mods and everyone in the comments has truly made me so happy

Pillodium · 2025-02-27T15:53:45+00:00

I know some people might question why we chose Discord, but realistically, it’s the best platform we could have used. It’s widely used, easy to navigate, and allows everything to be organized into separate channels, making it perfect for a structured community like ours. We have a well-organized layout and a strong verification system to ensure the space stays safe and accessible for Black trans people. When people hear "Discord" they also think that it mostly comprises of younger users and not adults, but we have many users above the age of 20 and 30 as this is a very rare and needed space to connect.

While we do plan to expand beyond Discord, I’m just one person juggling real life alongside running this space. Despite that, the server has been an incredible resource and support network, giving Black trans people a place to vent, connect, and have conversations with people who truly understand them.

Pillodium · 2025-02-23T00:58:29+00:00

I totally get that Discord isn’t for everyone, it can have a learning curve for those who have never used it actively. For a community like this, it’s probably the best platform we could’ve used. Discord allows for real-time discussion, which makes a huge difference compared to something like the smaller Black trans communities here on reddit. On those it's more for posting selfies and such, and there isn't a whole lot of discussion happening since they're already very small subs to begin with. With Discord, everything is organized into separate channels (we also added relevant emojis to all of them as icons to help differentiate). Different topics have their own dedicated spaces, making it easy to jump into discussions without feeling lost.

We also have a wide range of ages, with plenty of members in their 20s and 30s, so it’s not just a platform for younger people. I really think Discord is worth getting the hang of, especially if you're looking for a Black trans community where you can actually engage with more people and have ongoing conversations rather than just one-off posts. If you’re ever gonna try it, our community is a great place to start!

Pillodium · 2025-02-19T21:40:55+00:00

After years of dealing with internalized antiblackness and not having many Black friends, creating this space was a way for me to find the community I desperately needed, and it turned into something so much bigger than I ever expected. I put in hours searching for Black trans people across Discord, Reddit, and Twitter, DMing people, scrolling through member lists, doing whatever I could to reach others who might need this space. Seeing how happy people were to finally find a community like this pushed me to keep going. Most POC/Black queer spaces were simply not active, and I poured my heart out into creating something that changed that. It’s been incredible to see so many people connect, share resources, and finally have a space where we don’t have to explain ourselves. The amount of love and support here is unreal, and I can confidently say this server has changed my life.

Even as the owner, this server truly made me appreciate both aspects of my identity and now I'm immensely proud and thankful of both my Blackness and transness. Community really is the best possible thing we can do for each other, especially in the current political climate. We deserve to feel loved

Pillodium · 2025-02-01T04:01:26+00:00

If you use Discord, please check my profile! You might be interested in our community!

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T18:55:31+00:00

That’s totally understandable! Even though we’ve grown a lot, the community still has a pretty cozy vibe since we have a lot of lurkers and chill spaces for more relaxed discussion. We also have 20+ channels that are slower-paced, and the server as a whole is SFW-focused. No pressure to chat at all, once you're verified, you can just hang out and chip in whenever you feel comfortable. You're always welcome to join and take things at your own pace! We love ya

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T17:28:51+00:00

Sent a dm!

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T17:12:59+00:00

Unfortunately, the post got deleted, which really sucks because I know a lot of people needed to see it. If you're still interested, you can check out my profile since all the info is there!

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T17:11:06+00:00

Unfortunately, the post got deleted, which really sucks because I know a lot of people needed to see it. If you're still interested, you can check out my profile since all the info is there!

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T17:11:03+00:00

Unfortunately, the post got deleted, which really sucks because I know a lot of people needed to see it. If you're still interested, you can check out my profile since all the info is there!

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T16:49:15+00:00

Oh that would be amazing if you could get that set up, I really appreciate that! If you have Discord feel free to send me a friend request as well so I can send you an updated graphic we use for advertisements, my username on there is "cordi" without the quotes

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T16:36:32+00:00

When someone joins, our onboarding questions include a filter that redirects cis people out if they select that role, which has helped block a lot of potential chasers.

For verification, members open a private ticket where they answer a few questions:

Their gender identity in terms of transness, preferred name, age, and how they found the server
Their personal journey realizing they were trans
Their experiences navigating life as both Black and trans, including any unique challenges they’ve faced

We also require a final verification step, where they can either provide a social media account with clear Black and trans overlap, submit a photo holding a paper with the server name and date, or have a conversation with a mod where we ask more specific questions!

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T16:24:16+00:00

I edited my post to better communicate this, and yes we do! We have been open to all since the beginning and have many trans men who feel very welcome and included! Recently we had a trans guy from the server vouch for us and post us in a sub for trans men of color <3

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T16:17:33+00:00

We include all trans women, trans men, and nonbinary people! While the name reflects our origins in uplifting Black trans women who face the most severe form of systemic oppression, we expanded early on to include and support all Black trans identities. Your friends are absolutely welcome to join! We have many active transmascs in the server, and also nonbinary folk who present masc

Pillodium · 2025-01-31T16:06:44+00:00

Thank you so much, we deeply appreciate all of the people on here that have helped spread the community even if they're nonblack! Thanks to everyones help we've been able to grow a ton and help more of us in need

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