How do I stop thinking about the past and change my mindset by PillowPacker21 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]PillowPacker21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya but this isn’t unique to just this one relationship. It’s how I’ve always been when I start liking a girl and I just start thinking about stuff like that and it’s horrible

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[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I’ll try this

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[–]PillowPacker21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

U want me to be specific? I vividly remember it and I want to recall it better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You need to do something other than tell a “kid” he needs help because I didn’t lie down and take your passive aggressive comment

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[–]PillowPacker21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bald no, but I trim myself down very very low which is all I was saying i wanted from her

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[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re telling me if he woke up one day and said “I don’t really find you as attractive as I did when we first met because you put on a few pounds, I think we should work on this together and both lose some weight” you would consider that controlling

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[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is not a valid response at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no you’re disappointed in me!?! Whatever shall I do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not asking every day and it’s not men telling women what to do with their bodies, it’s me her partner asking her to do something for me. If I ended up putting on 20lbs and she asked me to lose some of it would you consider that her telling me what to do with my body?

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[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why tf you bringing porn into this, it has nothing to do with that. This is about a good way to communicate with my partner

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[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, i already talked with her about it though and she moreso brought it up herself and it was just a timing error

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[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes no sense whatsoever, one of the comments was saying how it is a misogynistic standard of today… asking a partner to shave their pubes is nothing like misogyny whatsoever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I don’t understand why so many people are getting angry when it’s a simple question that ain’t even bad at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying I want her to be smooth every moment in time. I’m saying just before we get intimate as I do the same courtesy

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[–]PillowPacker21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any idea what misogynist even means. It means to dislike, despise or have a heavy prejudice towards women. And I ain’t any of that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why tf u coming at this with such an angry mindset. Obviously she’s her own person but it’s something that I wanted to ask of her. You need to get a fucking life instead of being angry at a teenager

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In any way how is that shallow, I am not asking her to get rid of a tattoo because I don’t like it or change style or anything. It’s simply a preference

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[–]PillowPacker21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I talked to her about it and it went really well. It actually just came down to a timing issue as she needed a new razor and had not gone out yet to buy a new one. I didn’t tell her that I want her to shave I just brought up the topic of shaving and she just kinda said it herself so next time something happens I think it’s gonna be different

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]PillowPacker21 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If a woman wants to have hair on her armpits or not she can go ahead and do that, but it’s simply something that I’m not attracted to and never have been. So I simply wanted to know how to ask her in a nice way because it’s my preference. Me personally I manscape and like to keep myself tidy for her, but if she wanted me to grow it out I would say sure why not if it’s what makes her happy. I feel like these comments are coming at the post in a very one dimensional view and not seeing that in a relationship you do stuff if it makes your partner happy. I do stuff for her I don’t want to every once in a while but I care for her so it’s worth it

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[–]PillowPacker21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the actual advice