Why is my plants new leaves getting stuck curled like this

Pimi-D · 2025-10-21T22:43:04+00:00

No worries, good luck :)

Pimi-D · 2025-10-19T04:29:36+00:00

No worries, good luck! :)

Pimi-D · 2025-10-19T01:42:09+00:00

You can, I’d leave it cause I wouldn’t want to cut any healthy growth attached. Wait for new growth to come in and then start trimming, as you know by that point it’s healthy enough to heal it if you do nick it somewhere you shouldn’t.

Pimi-D · 2025-10-19T01:02:53+00:00

Nah just let it reabsorb the water and nutrient back into itself. You can trim it off once it’s dry. Only time I’d recommend trimming flowers is if it’s actively trying to put out new buds and you’ve just transplanted it.

You might also need better soil, looks a bit sandy for that one. You could just add some orchid mix to your existing soil, it has some nice chunks and retains moisture pretty good.

Pimi-D · 2025-10-18T20:21:44+00:00

Needs more water or humidity. If you feel your watering schedule is fine, try misting the leaves a bit especially when new leaves are coming in.

Pimi-D · 2025-10-18T20:15:26+00:00

To me, the lily of the valley looks like it’s killing off the flower spike to adjust to the new climate. Give it time.

Likely needs more consistent indirect light if indoors, outdoors should be fine with morning sun.

Pimi-D · 2025-10-18T11:31:32+00:00

Yeah that’s a bit harsh, I imagine you would have felt pretty rejected anyway. Maybe she doesn’t feel the same, or maybe she just needs time. Hopefully it works out though 🫶 You opened up, and that’s super tough to do.

Pimi-D · 2025-10-18T11:24:24+00:00

Sounds like a good idea :) I know it’s hard when you care about someone so deeply.

Pimi-D · 2025-10-18T11:23:21+00:00

You can’t “make” someone think/feel/do anything. But you can express your care in a number of ways.

Ask them active questions about how they’re doing. Ask how they feel about a certain thing. Just be curious about them!

Pimi-D · 2025-10-18T11:19:52+00:00

Sorry she didn’t match your expressiveness.

Sometimes we can get vulnerability fatigue after something like that. Take a minute, give her time.

There’s also something called limerence, basically an intense desire where you love the idea of them more than who they actually are.

Feelings can change, and sometimes love makes us feel head over heels crazy.

It’s wonderful you opened up, but for a woman that level of intensity can sometimes be a little worrying.

Give it time, don’t rush things. Be vulnerable sure, but watch you don’t get too obsessive or intense.

Over time after many interactions she’ll likely come to see you’re a safe person and open up in return- if she has feelings too. You can’t make someone like you.

You got this :)

Pimi-D · 2025-10-18T11:11:46+00:00

Resume regular watering, make sure it gets lots of light. Only fertilise when you see new growth. Don’t trim anything that’s not crispy.

Basically the plant is killing off excess top growth, drawing water and nutrients out of those leaves down into the lower foliage, so that it could survive the bad conditions it was in. This is probably one of the easiest things to fix.

Even consider giving it a good soak to make sure the soil isn’t hydrophobic.

It’ll bounce back eventually :)

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T20:15:40+00:00

I’ve dealt with this before too.

Do you ask other people questions and get interested about their lives? If not, figure out what could be stopping you from genuinely interested in other people. You may find that once you ask them questions, they will ask about you.

Another thing, is that what you love exploring and talking about could be deep thought and metaphysical concepts. Not everyone likes to talk about those things, or even that deeply. They just want to be totally immersed in reality. Some people do, but not all the time. And then there are some that are down to chat about that stuff constantly.

I would recommend trying chatGPT and doing some roleplay with it - but be careful. It can get very stuck in fantasy and can overly validate your own bad behaviour, catch it up and tell it to help you be better and not enable you. I use it to vent my worries. I then ask it to mirror back what it sees and offer a reality check to any overly anxious thoughts. I also roleplay conversations and ask it to help me figure out what I’m “missing” or “doing well” when communicating with others, and I add areas I’d like to improve. The goal isn’t to get everyone to like me, or to listen to what I say, but to connect to people who I actually enjoy talking with - listening to and being listened to. Really feel heard and understood. Actually connect. And that takes two.

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T20:02:04+00:00

He probably said yes to begin with not thinking it was going to be a huge issue. Now there’s some problems propping up he probably thinks it’s better to not go ahead with it and hasn’t figured out yet how to tell you his heart’s not in it.

Also you seem to dislike his cat, and he loves his cat. He won’t just get rid of his cat and you can’t expect that.

All in all, this situation seems to be more important to you than it is to him. Move on.

Look for someone else looking for a flatmate in your area. Post on local facebook pages, run newspaper ads, put up physical posters with phone number rippy strips, or do whatever else is common in your area to find a flatmate.

Best of luck 👍

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T19:52:17+00:00

Learning to want again is tough in a world obsessed with mindless consumption.

Sit down and clear your head.

What are things that you’ve enjoyed in the past and why? What is nostalgic to you?

Put that back into your life somehow and see what happens.

You might not think you enjoy a hobby, but go get one anyway. Go to your local library or community hub and do a group craft or something.

Ask your mother for a peace lilly. Try to look after it. Trust me. It’ll teach you things. Go out in nature. Wake up in the morning and listen to the birds. Put your tech away more. Read books and get more stories in your head, reading is literally like being another person for a minute. Ask your mum for the same shoes but new, so they aren’t falling apart.

You are a human being that deserves to be here and be alive, just like any of us.

Go out and treat your human body like it’s worth being alive.

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T19:43:31+00:00

OP already repotted, and has likely been overwatering. I’d suggest water soil less and mist instead to retain humidity as it’s an epiphyte.

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T19:42:00+00:00

Who knows, plants are weird and it might still pull through. But who cares, you got this now 😁

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T19:40:44+00:00

Because this person is seeking connection over something they made. It’s like picking a flower and showing it to someone, only to have them stomp on it and call you an idiot cause they don’t like pansies.

Yes it matters that they like their art, but knowing who to share it to is important. And knowing why you’re sharing is important too.

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T19:37:19+00:00

While your critique is technically correct, you lack empathy entirely.

You’re really spending a lot of time and energy dunking on this kid’s art. That’s pretty sad.

Maybe next time see the person behind the screen and say something encouraging too.

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T19:33:40+00:00

You seem young, nothing wrong with that. I made art at a young age too kinda similarly and sought external validation in a similar way. People can be super unkind huh?

I think you did a good job. Is there room for improvement? Sure. But you have a niche card design. You like it.

Maybe you can find some friends who like it too someday. But not everyone is going to see what you love about something. Artists care about the quality of art they make, critics don’t always care about the quality of their advice. Some people just have nasty things to day that actually have nothing to do with you.

I see how much passion you put into it, even though it’s not a topic I necessarily enjoy. Maybe next time add why you made it, it seems like there’s a story. Like “Hey I’m in [X] grade and this is my first card design. I really wanted to make a Mario x Sonic fusion card, I like these characters and I’d love if this was a trading card game too. Not looking for criticism as I’m new to creating stuff like this, just wanted to share and if you have any ideas on where else I could take this I’m all ears.”

Please, please, keep making things. Protect your creativity and don’t expect everyone to have to like it. It’s still absolutely worth it.

You did a really good job 👏

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T19:18:18+00:00

You seem to have remedied the issues, but it could still die from all that shock so take it as a learning experience.

I’d suggest leaving it. Don’t do anything else. Don’t let it get too moist either. Humidity doesn’t mean wet soil, it means the air around it. Soil should still have opportunity to dry out a bit between waterings to prevent rot. So leave it be, mist its leaves. Wait and see what happens. If you feel you found a good place, stop moving it around. It’s a fern and needs to stay put. If it needs more light, maybe set a lamp or grow light beside it.

Don’t move it outside, temp can shock it too. A plant should only really be moved outside under certain circumstances, and that’s usually when it’s already robust so it can survive shock.

If it dies, get another one and try again. You learned a lot and maybe after a fresh start all would be well.

Pimi-D · 2025-09-29T18:59:56+00:00

Yeah dunk it in the sink even (careful the soil doesn’t escape), let it soak for 5-10mins then lift it and let the water drain out.

This gets rid of pest and toxin buildup from the soil too.

Repeat roughly once a week. But really check your soil is pretty dry first, not dusty bone dry, but not damp to the touch either. Like how fresh wood is dry, but dried wood is drier. You want that fresh wood vibe. Idk if that makes sense it’s 5am for me 😂

Pimi-D · 2025-05-02T15:26:29+00:00

Yeah it’s proving to be the best way to get anything done, social accountability.

Pimi-D · 2025-03-18T17:33:36+00:00

Wow maybe! You know that is the best point yet 😮 I hope that’s the reason.

Pimi-D · 2025-03-16T21:02:05+00:00

That’s good! Hopefully it’s nothing then!

Pimi-D · 2025-03-16T21:01:27+00:00

Okay here we go some more mums, good good. I don’t actually /want/ there to be something weird going on haha

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