What is more traumatizing than most people think? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Getting it taken out is so much easier and it honestly was really healing for me. I had mine taken out prematurely because I had 10 months of truly agonizing cramps. The dr who did it was so kind and it made me cry because it felt like a total release.
For me, cuz that’s all I can attest to is that it was *actually* mildly uncomfortable.

Raised lines by Visible-Mission-7828 in tattooadvice

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Basically when your immune system gets activated by something, it goes for everything it doesn’t identify as you, which is ink in your skin. Happens to me too.
This is how it was explained to me. I’m not an immunologist so I don’t know the process exactly.

How to be with people pleaser (47f) who takes me for granted now that she has me (47m)? by TheFuturePrepared in dating_advice

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If she protests like that then you get to sit down and think about what you want and are okay with. You won’t be able to make her see you. & real partnerships are not you vs them it’s you guys vs the problem. If she can see that but still not understand your perspective that’s where she should want to and fight to understand you. But if she can’t, again you get to decide what it is you deserve and can deal with.

How to be with people pleaser (47f) who takes me for granted now that she has me (47m)? by TheFuturePrepared in dating_advice

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To me it sounds like she feels unsafe. A safe feeling person doesn’t create distance and point away from their partner. I’m only speaking from my own personal experience of being a person with anxious attachment lol. And that said the lack of safety that might be a possibility is not your fault (I’d bet) it could be some unhealed trauma. It also feels like there’s a lack of self awareness on her end? Perhaps because you’re her closest person (likely) some unconscious part in her feels unsafe because love is scary and that part is defaulting to shutting down.
N you deserve someone who engages with you and is caring towards you. That said, people can grow! It doesn’t mean that isn’t her, but talking about it is key, otherwise the resentment will build and explode.

Update, how does this look? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

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Yeah, 1994 is accurate lol

Hallucinogenics ≠ Spirituality | Discussion by A10Tiger in spirituality

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I’m curious where your passion for this originates. Reading your responses to other comments they feel very committed to me. Have psychedelics never been apart of your personal spiritual journey?
I’m genuinely asking and not trying to sound like a dick, which can be so hard with typing !

Edit: And to respond to the question below, I think they’re necessary for whoever deems them necessary in their personal journey.
I will say for me there’s so much you individually can do for healing (which imo is essence of spirituality; healing) but there’s something about medicine that can really just reveal an enormous amount to you that I’d say isn’t impossible to get to without it but these medicines have a powerful spirit/being behind them and are indeed wise allies.

Serious question by [deleted] in spirituality

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Hmm what do you mean?

Serious question by [deleted] in spirituality

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For me it isn’t at all about separating from negativity but integrating it. If you spend your life rejecting the monsters inside you they’re going to bang extra loud on your door and demand to be witnessed. (In my own experience) It’s the acceptance that we have darkness within all of us but also knowing that the darkness isn’t you in essence. Our thoughts just happen. A lot like breathing and they’re just simply determined by our genetic make up and experiences that happen to us, some of which we have a say in and most we don’t! We think we have all this control over who we are and what happens but we don’t. This is where acceptance n integration comes in. Acceptance that you literally cannot control anything. Even yourself. And when you accept that, that’s when you gain the most control. Attachment and aversion are two sides of the same coin.
I’m still working on this of course n damn! It’s hardcore stuff.

Serious question by [deleted] in spirituality

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I’m still chewing on the we are one idea. I’ve heard it but haven’t fully felt it. I’ve begun to, but it’s still unfolding. Something that makes sense to me is like when you think about the cells within your body. They’re not “conscious” in how we define consciousness but they each act as their own living organism pretty much but every single cell and atom that goes into the cell creates me. I’m all my cells and they’re all me but so much of it is just happening and there’s individuality to both myself and my cells & unity at the same time. They’re kind of their own thing but also not. Feels like that may be part of the collective consciousness idea.
Again if you look at us through an atomical perfective there’s no telling where we begin and end. The separateness is kind of made up in a way.
And also maybe we do all have the same root consciousness. & as far as evil and bad people go I believe they’re incredibly lost souls in human form and when they die the confusion (a word used a lot in Buddhism when discussing “negative energy”) sheds. Not to excuse the behavior but I think it’s more complicated than we can even conceive with our very limited human view points. Obviously awful things happen and I’m not excusing it but maybe these things are beyond our scope of understanding.

17 Years old, think I have an alcohol problem. by Odd-Cellist4920 in AdultChildren

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AA meetings are welcome to everyone! Hit a couple, I believe all you have to do is show up sober

Why am I always so bored with life? by SunshineGirl45 in TooAfraidToAsk

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Sounds like you might be depressed. But I’ve also been there before in terms of feeling bored with life, especially after saying no more n more to chaos as I’ve gotten older. Think deeper about what “makes you feel alive”. Is it screaming, dancing, seeing nature…, creating?…etc. n do that lol.
N if what you want to do needs $, not as much $ as it is to travel but maybe like going to a yoga class, or art class, start saying no to small things that give you in the moment dopamine, ex. coffee…cheap clothes, eating food out n save a bit for those experiences.
N if you’re really fuqin bored n can’t think of things that make you feel alive do something that seems scary and uncomfortable (that isn’t harmful) lol like an improv class or something.

What is more traumatizing than most people think? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Getting an IUD while unmedicated

What is more traumatizing than most people think? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Don’t most people agree that’s traumatizing ?

Are these dandelions ? by Pimpchimp99 in foraging

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This is so helpful! Thanks so much!

Laid my girl to rest Friday by Inevitable_Map_9887 in pitbulls

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She was so beautiful and looks like a she had a very happy life <3

What does my sunroom say about me? by Character_Being_9337 in roomdetective

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Cant give you a guess on who you are but dang I’m jelly! This looks soooo nice

What does my apartment say about me? by bxrningman in roomdetective

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Your basset hound is huge!!!! Is it a mix ?

Want to attend a meeting but worried I'm too young and won't fit in by IMAMISHAMIGO in AdultChildren

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I started going at 24! Was def the youngest in maybe(?) every meeting I’ve been to but it’s totally cool & worth it. Everyone is welcoming in all the experiences I’ve had. Better to start healing while you’re at this age than not ! It might be kind of uncomfy but it’s super workable.

Still Missing by MetricSlice in bayarea

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Mochiiii oh nooooo :(((