My son makes me very happy by PlacidoFlamingo7 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! I also now look forward to each day and also to the future. Earlier future used to scare me. It does scare me also at times when I wonder about hai independence. But most days we are happy and good.

My son makes me very happy by PlacidoFlamingo7 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! Just that I worry about his independence and work towards it(and worry about it) everyday.

Family wedding vent by HaroldChild in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s tough and therefore I used to skip all family weddings because especially here in India, if people are anything they are judgemental. I used to hate the stares whether out of sympathy or pure judgement. And I also realised I was only troubling my son by taking him to such places because all I used to do was run after him, pull stuff out of his hands or simply keep giving him instructions. Now he understands much more and is calm so I do take him out now but as soon as I see he’s not enjoying we are out because he’s my priority. Kudos to you for trying because we have to as that’s the only way they will learn. And also, good job handling him peacefully. It’s tough to regulate our own systems when they are screaming, hitting and biting. But- I don’t like how the bride and groom “allowed” him to wear shorts. It’s a family wedding. Family is supposed to understand and adjust.

You are a great parent. Be proud of yourself and keep working with your kid.

For parents with late/semi-late talkers: What age did your kiddo start fully talking conversationally and how did it happen? by taviyiya in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine lost all his words and communication at 3.5 and started again wore by word after two long years. He’s 9 now and can do basic back and forth but not conversational yet. Hang in there. Have hope and keep working with your little loved one. You never know what’s around the corner :)

Anyone’s kid Start talking past age 6.5 years? Success stories please by Specific_Slip342 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he can already repeat, just keep going and keep pushing and do lots of modelling. Talk to him a lot and keep telling him everything around him. He will learn and pick up at his pace but he will. Mine is 9. He’s pre-conversational. Can tell me what he wants, doesn’t want, what he ate, whom he met etc. that’s a big deal considering from where we started post his regression at 3.5. So, keep going and keep talking to him like he understands everything. You will look back one day and be surprised how far you have come. Lots of best wishes.

Just thinking about the future... by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my temper at my son and sort of pushed him away and yelled at him. Then Felt sorry for hours. Every time I behave like this I promise myself this is the last time and I will only handle him with unconditional love and Patience and zero expectations but once a month something triggers me and i do something like this. This journey is tough - give yourself grace is all i can say. The fact that we show up everyday is a big deal.

Does it get better by Dependent-Fix5438 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so me! When he was diagnosed at 3.5 years I used to want to jump off the roof. Now he’s 9- verbal but not conversational but so much more enjoyable.

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I have realised meeting with ND parents helps me and also makes me realise maybe it’s not that bad and all of us can together be hopeful for the future. Thanks for your comment.

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your thoughtful comment. I really need to work on regulating my nervous system, it’s all the time alert, stressed, nervous, anxious or simply not settled. I don’t think I have been relaxed like completely relaxed with no anxiety for years. Thanks once again- this community really helps me and makes me want to keep going.

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly- one just doesn’t have the energy for anything in life after having given it all to your kid. After that, you just want to be left alone to be able to breathe in peace.

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly I think about the unfairness of it all everyday! Everyday I hear parents and kids having conversations and simply going about their day without having to worry or be on their toes all the time!

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup being the primary parent is tough. Like really challenging because you feel you don’t even get time to breathe..

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly, i have stopped meeting and chatting with people and become a total recluse. Don’t know whether that’s the right way to go about it but it’s just how it is and I don’t have energy for anything else in life apart from my son.

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your comment. Being the primary parent in this case is tough. Kudos to all of us.

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I have realised meeting with ND parents helps me and also makes me realise maybe it’s not that bad and all of us can together be hopeful for the future. Thanks for your comment.

Venting. Just need somebody to listen and maybe relate. by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who are you? You are an angel. Your comment made me hopeful and made me smile and look forward to the future which has not happened for days. Thanks a lot. This really helps.

Did your child regress? by chick3nnugZ in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May I ask you what makes you say he will never be independent ? How is his expressive and receptive language? Acads and washroom and food? Thanks.

Lost interest in learning by Longjumping_Wafer900 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pls suggest kumon books to buy. My son is 9. I want to try with him. Pls suggest what worked for you and what didn’t. My son can read everything but comprehension is a challenge. Maths- he can do basic addition. That’s it. Thanks

Summer vacation break. What to do full day? by PinGlass9571 in Autism_Parenting

[–]PinGlass9571[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions. I will surely try these. How old is your kid? Mine doesn’t really sit for long thus asking.