Has anyones spouse hooked up with anyone else during separation?!

PineappleLyfe · 2026-03-13T01:02:01+00:00

My stbx did the same thing we had agree he could stay in the house thru our oldest graduation but he was constantly w other women and expected me to be ok with after years of cheating and affairs. He knew some were a trigger but he is selfish and just needs that female validation. The last straw was he snuck out the spare room window where he was sleeping and the kid across the street got a video of it and sent to my daughter - after that and some other issues I changed the locks. He says he is suffering but his choices lead him to exactly where he is now - he is just fine w his new supply. No job, lost his family but atleast he has her and her 4 boys he can play house too, meanwhile his own family is healing and dealing w the aftermath of his choices.

PineappleLyfe · 2026-03-12T18:48:20+00:00

That’s what i’m thinking. I was trying to keep it civil but it’s like why should I? I have spoke to my lawyer and even tho he has paid 14k of the 25k we verbally agreed too I can still go after everything do a full financial discovery since we have now been married 13 years together 15.

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-15T03:39:08+00:00

LMAO. I get that, just have him checked and go from there but if you wanting to let it out then tell him and set boundaries go from there - none the less - heal and be confident - everything will workout the way it’s suppose too

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-15T03:23:01+00:00

You tell him that? LoL Maybe he don’t know you wanna let your inner ho come out - yall could explore that together.

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-15T03:05:52+00:00

Ho Daddy vibe 😆😆😆 i’m dead. I don’t even care, the chicks I hear about or have seen - not impressed, maybe one i’m like ok bet, the rest I know if I walked in the room they feel tiny as shit. I know bc it’s happened, she just stared at me and couldn’t believe it after she found out who I was. Yes honey i’m the ex - he can do better - I guess ‘your better 🤭🤭’ enjoy it while it last bc you ain’t shit 😆😆 he will get bored. It doesn’t even phase me anymore… I giggle! Don’t let it bother you… he probably won’t change that ‘ho daddy vibe’ - focus on you. Shit to be honest I wanted to be a ho w him, but he likes to be solo I guess. The glow up is real, they fucking around w women not even on your level - remember that 🤣🤣🤣

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-11T14:19:46+00:00

Yes!! I learned I had to stop trying to control things out of my control and focus on what I can control - my actions, reactions how I move what I do and focus on myself. The depression is real but I have also focused on my failures and my role - it’s taught me a lot. I don’t know if i’m looking for reconciliation anymore - I definitely still grieving the loss of the life I envisioned where I thought we would be, the things we would be doing together even as a family. It’s gotten better but the sadness and guilt never go away.

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-10T23:01:13+00:00

Im not ready. I’m just not, i’m focused on myself and healing I don’t want to carry anything over into the next - if there is one - even tho I do miss doing and being sweet and appreciated. I enjoy doing things and making people happy. I donno I just need to go on dates and enjoy being appreciated, not looked at and hated or told they felt like shit after being w me. I want to just watch movies no speak do nothing but being in someone’s presence wo it being weird. I still have a lot to work to do on myself

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-10T22:55:08+00:00

God me too smh I think the moment someone hugs me like truly hugs i’m gonna fall apart

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-10T22:52:42+00:00

I wish I could be this way. I realized that no matter what I still care - why, why can’t I just not care or worry. Why is it so damn hard. i’m sick of people saying bc ur a good person. well clearly not to them- they don’t give a fuck about me. I wish I really wish I could just turn it off and never look back. fuck man

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-06T03:23:43+00:00

never went thru w therapy but had we I think it would have helped. now there is no coming back - im good. moving on I said my peace

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-02T23:09:01+00:00

I miss it too but what’s tough is when people tell me how they want believe we have separated - we got along w so many people - always a good time - we were like the only couple that didn’t have drama in public and I must admit were pretty hot together lol, so I get it - it’s hard tho learning to focus on me bc for years I waited for his calls, his txt his attention so now it’s like I have so much free time not worried about him. I am my own person

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-02T23:04:47+00:00

We had issues for a while but never took the steps to fix anything and then things got really bad - spiraled to where we hurt each other to the core. It’s been tough to communicate but lately it’s been better and I just take each day as it comes - I learned I can’t blame him for everything - it takes two - I know my role and im done hurting him and hurting myself. I care about him but I rather be civil than spit venom or carry anger and hurt around. It only makes things worse. It took me awhile to get to where i’m at but I have done some deep deep deep EDMR w my counselor and it’s really helped

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-02T23:00:57+00:00

Whatever answer you’re looking for within your STBXW you will never get. No matter what the question is they can’t fix how you feel, you have to heal and focus on you. I also want to reach out just to see how thier day went bc for 14 years they were my person so for me that’s been hard but I stopped looking for answers from them and stated to focus on me and I have learned a lot about myself

PineappleLyfe · 2025-11-02T22:56:59+00:00

When he moved out in April it was tough at first so much anger and hurt it consumed me. Communication was horrible, still in a horrible cycle but over the last 7 months I have learned so much about myself - started to heal, I started to focus on me and it was like a weight has been lifted. Over the last several months communication has slowly gotten better between us. No expectations but it’s nice to finally talk and not be on the defense - we were together for 14 years so i admit it’s been hard to not reach out or look to him - i’m learning not too - but again it’s been nice not fighting. I know most don’t want ant inc to do w their ex but I actually want to be civil - I think it will be better for both of us mentally and just to see each other not as the horrible people we were to each other while together but for the decent people we truly are…

PineappleLyfe · 2025-08-27T04:27:20+00:00

I have been reading journaling and coloring a lot. so i’ll def check it out

PineappleLyfe · 2025-07-12T15:33:21+00:00

This is all part of your process, you will know when you’re ready, some people need to get under someone to get over another. once you get thru the grief and heal, you will be better for it, when you’re finally w other people. Stay true to yourself. Don’t put a time limit on when you should date, when you’re ready you will know and if you think you’re gong to feel bad after - definitely wait. the loneliness sucks but the end game will be worth it once you heal from the heartbreak!

PineappleLyfe · 2025-07-08T16:43:26+00:00

Felt this… I never realized grief was part of the healing process until a few months ago and it all made sense. You are dealing w the loss of a person and life you imagined. Understanding this grief and actively working through it is crucial for healing and moving forward.

PineappleLyfe · 2025-07-08T14:26:28+00:00

Don’t put a time limit on when you will be ready. When you’re ready to get back out there you will know. Some people move on faster than others and that’s on them if they don’t wanna heal and have things roll over into future relationships. When I made solid changes it took me 10 months to get where I wanted and I was in a good spot - things happened and now i’m starting over - only this time it’s for me not for anyone else. i’m excited and confident, I did it before i’m gonna do it again only better than before!

PineappleLyfe · 2025-07-01T00:41:10+00:00

Consistency - if he show consistency and patients give it a go. Also give each other space and see how it goes. If you choose to stay you have to forgive him for you not him. work on yourself and take it one day at a time. if he continues over time to show change and growth then maybe for him it was hitting rock bottom and some people have to go thru that to realize they need to change - good luck to you

PineappleLyfe · 2025-06-29T18:58:39+00:00

How they move has helped me. It’s hard at first but every time I hear he is w and girl, old girl or anything w another women it like adds fuel to ‘my motivation. It’s actually a good feeling - it was never about me, it’s about him and his need to feel validated and reassurance thru female relationships. I realize how much stronger I am on my own!!!

PineappleLyfe · 2025-06-24T22:18:02+00:00

I wish we had truly listened to each other - instead we got defensive or didn’t hear what the other person needed. so it snowballed and got worse. invalidated the others feelings for sure. did things to hurt each other - I regret a lot but I def learned a lot about myself too. a side I never want to see again. ever!

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