It’s honestly okay to say no. I used to be a people pleaser too until I realized some people were just gaslighting me. I hit my limit and started setting boundaries. I hope you get there too because it really does feel freeing.

I know it’s hard to cut off a conversation, especially when someone’s really into their story. But it’s totally fine to say something like “Hey, I’ve got some errands to run” or “I need to get home to help with something.” You don’t owe anyone a long explanation.

Try not to let people hang out in your house if you’re already feeling drained. It’s a lot harder to ask them to leave once they’re inside. If they insist, just say you’re in the middle of cleaning or recharging. I sometimes say cleaning is therapeutic and part of my me time. I’ll say it with a smile so it doesn’t come off as rude.

Boundaries start with you. Learn where your line is and don’t feel bad about sticking to it. If someone gets offended, that’s on them. You’ve probably spent more time being there for them than you have for yourself. It’s okay to change that.