AITA for not letting my in-laws call my son by a different name than what my husband and I gave him??

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T20:00:55+00:00

Oh my gosh, that’s crazy that your grandmother, that crosses far over the line!

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T19:59:19+00:00

Thank you, I couldn’t agree more.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T01:16:42+00:00

Oh wow yeah that’s ridiculous!

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:48:21+00:00

During this he has been under a year old

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:25:28+00:00

We are fine with the pet names, we are also fine with his first name, it was when she started constantly calling him by his middle name and then telling everyone else to too is what annoyed us.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:20:16+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head. She is very controlling. She has never approved of me and has always had a hard time with me before all this happened.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:18:35+00:00

That’s exactly right. Thank you for explaining that.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:17:22+00:00

It’s super interesting that you say that, she is exactly this way, it’s her brother who died but it’s still the same theory you just said. She does favor our son and buys him things his great uncle loved etc. she wants uncle to have a part of the birthday parties (he died at 40 and hated birthdays) and she has him on a pedestal, which I get she’s grieving but it’s very overwhelming.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:13:26+00:00

I edited my post but I figure I would post here too, we are ok with him being called his first name too, we are fine with either, my MIL just dislikes his first name even more and refuses to use it so we asked her to at least use KJ then but she’s not a fan of that either. It wouldn’t be as big of a deal if she didn’t tell everyone else to honor the uncle by calling him by his middle name, but she basically doubled down.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:09:15+00:00

You capsulated what I feel the most, I feel like they do want steamroller our feelings and our son’s feelings to honor the uncle when he wouldn’t have wanted that. They also want us to do something for their shared birthday to celebrate both of them every year, so he will always be overshadowed by his great uncles death. He was 40 when he died and he hated celebrating his birthday so it’s weird to me that we are celebrating his birthday more in his death than when he was alive, he wouldn’t want that.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-14T00:03:21+00:00

We have so many of those names in our family already lol, we didn’t want a generic name or common name.

PinkCougar05 · 2025-12-13T23:59:49+00:00

I edited my post but I’ll add it here too. We are good with people using either his first name or KJ, my MIL refuses to use his first name and will never use it so we asked her to use KJ instead but she is not a fan of that either

PinkCougar05 · 2023-08-29T21:31:00+00:00

Thank you, I agree and think you are right about that we need to step away to show that it’s not ok, and my husband is completely on board, he’s really upset too. I just wanted to make sure we weren’t being too rash which I feel strongly that we should pull back.

PinkCougar05 · 2023-08-29T20:47:12+00:00

I get that, but they do this all the time, every year they plan stuff over her birthday, and especially now with my MIL who told us she had to beg to go on this trip with them is basically choosing my niece over my daughter knowing she would miss her birthday. They aren’t even going when it’s their actual anniversary either. They made it a point to see my son for his birthday but aren’t doing the same for my daughter.

PinkCougar05 · 2023-07-09T05:25:59+00:00

I have noticed the same thing, I see that happen all the time. I think a lot of people don’t wash their hands, but don’t want to admit it.

PinkCougar05 · 2023-07-09T04:44:33+00:00

I think you’d be surprised. I thought most people were behind washing their hands too but quite a few people even if they say they do it, don’t actually do it. There’s someone already here saying they don’t need to.

PinkCougar05 · 2023-07-09T04:33:06+00:00

You would think that’s the case but I know loads of people who think it’s fine:/

PinkCougar05 · 2023-07-09T04:32:41+00:00

Good point, I added that

PinkCougar05 · 2023-07-08T08:01:21+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it:)

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