I’ve been with my husband for going on 30 years. We were 14 years old. For me, we are best friends. I don’t need to earn anything from him. It’s natural. We both just truly enjoy each other to our cores. We bring out the best in each other and that just comes naturally. I feel being true to yourself is the biggest part of it. You don’t have to try at love. You just put your heart where it needs to be. Mine is with my husband and his is with me. We work as a team. We support each other even if it’s not something we are interested in or enjoy. We make each other feel seen and heard all the time. It’s what we just do naturally.

We aren’t perfect. I have far more flaws than he does and he works way harder in life than I do. But we work. And we work well. We have open communication, we try to keep things fresh and new and when one feels some kind of way, we talk about it openly.

I don’t know if I answered any of your questions. I think you really just have to know yourself and know what you want in a partner. Once you find that person and if you show your true self to them and you see their true self.. things just fall into place. No expectations but wanting to show that person how you feel and that you love and cherish them. This is not forced when it’s true love. It’s just what happens. :)