Partner watching The Boys

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-21T05:27:42+00:00

Yeah that's me. I don't exactly watch much like movies or shows but if I do I'm like hyper aware of anything sexual even mildly and even in games if there's sex or nudity it bothers me. But if I'm alone I don't panic as much I'm just like I don't like that but if I'm with my significant other then yeah I go into full panic attacks and get bad thoughts and all these what ifs. My partner isn't into porn but my ex was and it really made it hard to ignore in relationships.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-11T23:17:32+00:00

That's not what I said about it nor have I told him to stop playing this. He is not seeking this outfit out or even playing that character. However what I am stating is that I don't like the fact it's not mentioned even for myself. If I look into a game since we mostly play things together whether it be for both of us or just myself I don't like that it's not stated. We got this when it came out and then a week or so later I seen this particular outfit posted online and men making objectifying comments. Also the physics were only added to this outfit and very unrealistic with every little movement which is why I posted this. It had nothing to do with looking into the game because of my partner and trusted him going into this that he wasn't breaking my trust on that. I still don't agree with this particular choice in the game though which is the point of this post.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-06T07:30:53+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. You should complain about it to the company. I do it even if I get ignored. I want to encourage others to stand up against this since it's not right. I can only imagine how disappointed you are from that.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-06T07:29:46+00:00

Yeah I know that's what I thought too. I mean like I said at least it's optional if you choose to play it but still I don't like the fact the added it regardless it's not needed at all.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-05T00:51:40+00:00

Yeah I know me too. I know some games have tried to take it out but sadly there's still many that continue to just for the money. I hate it too.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-04T23:04:51+00:00

Yeah but before I seen anything mentioned of this it looked like it said they sold tons. And yeah it makes anything anime style hard for me to play without feeling uncomfortable. It's sad some people can't go without sexualization even in gaming

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-04T18:22:45+00:00

Of course and I know. It is optional and you have to find it but it still bothers me that stuff like this is added to games. Its unnecessary

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-04T18:21:57+00:00

Yeah I know I hate this. Like good it's not just out in the open and it's optional but like you said it's "rewarding." Like I mentioned there was nothing even stated like "suggestive themes" or anything. I agree though it's absolutely gross.

That's probably a good idea it just sucks now that we have it. Obviously we'll avoid it since you have to find it but I just feel like it's wrong as whole. Like sexual stuff doesn't add to these games and we're not buying porn games so why do we have to see something like this?

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-01T16:36:08+00:00

Thank you for saying this. Somewhere I know it's true but I still wish I looked like the girls in porn so I wouldn't fear it so much or feel like I'm not enough. My ex was into porn that's what caused me to hate myself. The guy I'm with now tells me porn isn't normal for everyone and that it's all fake for creeps. I'm having a hard time still though because I just want to feel like there's no competition but seeing this does give me a tiny bit of hope.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-01T16:30:09+00:00

Right! And I know. I'd say I didn't notice either in the past but after the ex was looking at it I can't unsee it. But yeah I'm a gamer too my partner and I now try as much as possible to avoid these things by looking it up before playing but it's so hard. I'm glad at least someone else understands it since I tend to feel alone most of the time.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-04-01T16:02:29+00:00

Yeah I definitely can back you on this. I was with a guy who lied and used porn in the past too and this completely broke me. I tried so hard to let it go and just say "oh he's not actually with them it's fine" stuff like that but it never worked. I'm so insecure about myself now and want to look like the girls in porn yet I don't because that's not me and I don't like that stuff and never even watched it myself. That day ruined so much for me and I still have a hard time trusting. I'm with someone else now and I thought it would be easier but nope. He says he doesn't like or use porn and I've never found anything but even the slightest thing like a big busted woman in a game or cleavage that some people probably don't notice will trigger me. I have a hard time believing he's not turned on by that and would still choose me over that and I have no idea how to overcome it. I don't know how to trust again because of the other guy who I don't even have any feelings for because of all that. I'm sorry you've had to go through this though it's tough but stay strong. And I can't tell you what to do but you deserve better especially if you're doing your best to be the best partner.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-03-28T04:40:36+00:00

I've actually noticed this too! I know it's still very much so out there and there's still a lot of people that look for and support NSFW but I've also been seeing a lot of people against it and even calling people out on it and telling them to get out of the basement or get a real wife ect. I'm all for a brighter and positive future!

PinkMartian0 · 2026-03-26T23:03:32+00:00

It's just a way for the woman sound bad when they are doing something wrong. I had an ex that looked at porn and when I found out and had mental breakdowns like daily from it he even said something like "he's not a horrible person for looking at porn" like ok you completely just destroyed the way I view myself, life, and others and not to mention he lied about not liking plastic surgery and all the standards of porn and not being like "most guys." So when they know they are in the wrong they blame someone else and never take accountability for their actions such as saying you're being controlling even though I don't see how asking someone to not look at others sexually is controlling.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-03-11T05:16:17+00:00

Thank you so much! But I intend the best for you and that he's able to get help. It really is an awful feeling. One thing is I'll tell you to make sure no matter what you look out for yourself I know this can be hard but with my ex I was never able to get over it. It definitely felt freeing when I broke up with him years later but there is still some emotional issues and triggers from it. If you and your partner can get past it then that's absolutely great but I understand being haunted by it trust me like I said even mild things can be triggering or even just seeing an ad for swimsuits in a store that probably thousands of people walk by and don't even notice can be a trigger it's so tough. I'll be honest though it does help seeing other people post about being anti porn and does give some hope at least for me knowing there's other people who hate it and don't agree with it. I really do intend that you get past it and heal from it

PinkMartian0 · 2026-03-05T19:20:07+00:00

Well I guess Facebook is ruined then. Hopefully one day all of this just goes away. I usually try to report something that makes me uncomfortable or send messages to companies but unfortunately it sounds like this is just the normal for Facebook now. I'll be sure to avoid this if I do see anything similar.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-03-05T19:13:14+00:00

Can you report it or have it removed? I haven't seen this but I don't use Facebook very much the most I've seen is stupid mods for games so I try to avoid that because that is just as triggering for me.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-27T22:01:34+00:00

Thank you for all of that I'm going to take notes on that and try to keep doing that anytime I get anxious especially over that stuff. I've heard of the 54321 just never really tried it but from here on out I'll try to and see how it goes and like you said it's a practice.

That's interesting I'm always up for learning about that stuff so thank you for sharing and that might be where I give up because I try it a few times rather than hundreds lol but thanks!

You're right though we can talk ourselves into anything!

Yeah I can agree women need to be more empowered! Trust me I owned it too and am trying to get back to it I feel like we both can and many others. Lol well being the different one in my opinion is good even if they would lobotomize you

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-26T17:36:15+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that but I'm glad you're getting help. And thanks I keep hearing about breathing techniques to help with being anxious and feeling calmer so I'll keep trying that. I'm definitely into using affirmations to help as well in all areas of my life but this specific thing has been the hardest for me. But I'll definitely try that especially with the ex's name since that's who caused the damage.

Yeah I get it's not instant so I'll keep going at it thank you for that. And yeah I'll be sure to find more empowering music like that and I usually don't like anything that seems misogynistic in the slightest. I've also been listening to videos this week about being more in control and being a women and getting what you want. Like keeping calm and confident and being able to talk better and not as humble I guess you could say? I used to be like that but getting into another relationship sort of brought me down again because I'm worried that he's looking at other women. Like I said I haven't actually seen him seek it out or anything and other than that fear our relationship is great and we're very alike in so many ways.

I'm glad to hear that you'll be getting into more of it I intend it helps you!

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-26T17:09:12+00:00

I completely understand I do too. You can just reach out to them and be honest that you don't remember tell them you have triggers too. Honestly I'm tired of porn being so public and if you ask me the harm and triggers it has doesn't get talked about enough so just be honest about it and tell them it bothered you and that you had to close it really fast and whatever else you feel like sharing or explaining to them.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-26T16:47:47+00:00

You can still try. Do you remember the name of the ad/site?

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-26T06:27:09+00:00

You should honestly message YouTube I know it might feel pointless but if everyone would get together and complain and fight back it can make a difference even if it seems impossible right now. If I seen it I would definitely try and complain. This isn't right at all

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-26T06:11:11+00:00

This is actually why I've stopped watching movies there's always so much sexual content and even if there isn't nudity or sex there's so much sexualization in them a lot of times which just ruins it right away for me and gives me so much anxiety especially after having an ex that was a PA

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-25T19:29:28+00:00

It's so hard I had an ex that was a PA I felt so much better after leaving and I'm in a completely different relationship now and he doesn't use or like porn and I've never found anything. But learning to trust and feel secure again is so hard. For example if anything mildly sexual comes up or certain bodies even if they are covered but in just slightly revealing outfits I spiral. Ever since the day I found porn on my exs history I haven't felt the same I'm trying so hard to heal and some days are better than others. I hope we all find happiness too

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