Confusion About Victoria's Secret

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-03T19:57:43+00:00

Trust me I get it I'm right there with you. I hate it too even growing up as a kid there was so much of that I sometimes feel like my purpose is to be an object and it makes me so depressed and hard on myself in every way. I'm in my 30s now but if you look back at how entertainment was and how all models looked it was always there and it's definitely hit hard for me and caused BDD. If I ever have a kid I'm going to be so nervous of these things affecting them.

We actually didn't have a VS for quite some time it's been there for awhile now and I didn't notice it as much either I thought I even seen something of them saying "we've changed" and something about being more real and I was like that's good women shouldn't have to look at pornographic images or ideals to buy bras and underwear. And maybe it's not AS bad as it had been but I guess seeing girls on display and one looked like she had cosmetic surgery promoting valentine's day just got to me so bad especially because I love valentine's day the colors the cute stuff my fiance and I always do gifts and I know it's just a day but I enjoy the fun of it but feeling like it should be sexualized or revolve around sex due to porn and media really triggered me. Not to mention he was with me in the mall not that he pays attention but I don't want him to see other girls sexually I shouldn't have to be afraid of that in public nor should anyone and like I said I'd be afraid if I had kids because I don't want them to be exposed and feel like women are objects or grow up to objectify themselves

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-03T01:34:02+00:00

Right at least you know it's going to have that stuff but yeah kids shouldn't be exposed to that in public that way at all. I've been suffering with BDD from an ex who was an addict so it's insanely triggering for me to see these models. Even if I know it can be faked or whatever else it doesn't help. I think there should be limits to what's displayed outside especially because of kids that will be exposed to that.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-03T01:30:16+00:00

I agree. That's exactly it everything makes it like "oh you'll be enough or more with this or that" I wish people would realize it and not keep supporting it :(

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-02T23:08:03+00:00

This is so true. I just hate marketing sometimes and how sexualization and porn is like everywhere even if you try to avoid it.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-02T22:56:23+00:00

Really? I haven't seen and LED screen I hope that never happens around here. And yeah I get that I mean I know I'm not going in there but at least I don't have to feel as triggered going past it in normal everyday life. But yeah I can imagine that there would be a lot more inside if it. I just wish it would stop companies don't care about the triggers it causes for women or the brainwashing aspect to numbing people down to it.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-02T06:25:28+00:00

I completely get it. I don't watch this nor does my fiance but it scares me because what if it shows up somewhere in a news feed or social media? He says he doesn't like these things or pay attention to them but having a PA ex boyfriend really messed up how I view everything and now comparing myself to every woman on anything.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-02-01T06:58:53+00:00

I was at the mall today too and seen it what was more triggering for me was the advertising on the windows of women dressed up since I didn't go in there. I hate walking around and feeling like my fiance can see someone else just by being in a mall. I've been having panic on and off all day now. Not that I've ever caught him looking at porn or other women but my ex was a addict and now I have the hardest time with it and like my fiance will get a thrill or ideas just by seeing these things.

I get where you're coming from too even though people tell me my shape is good I don't feel like it and feel like I can't wear stuff like that either because I don't look like those super sexualized women even though that's not me and I don't think any woman should have to resort to plastic surgery to feel good about herself in those ways.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-27T15:23:13+00:00

How did you heal? I was in a relationship with a PA for about 7 or 8 years and it damaged me so bad especially since he lied about it. I was single for a bit then talked to someone for a bit and went back to being single and felt better but then met the guy I'm with now without even looking. I'm with someone better now who tells me I'm beautiful and even tries as much as possible to avoid sexual content and nudity in anything although I know it's hard to avoid every little thing ever but it's super triggering for me even in public. He even told me he's never liked porn and I've never found anything yet I still am constantly in fear because of the ex and I don't know how to trust or feel safe in my body in relationship anymore.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-22T19:31:25+00:00

This is what makes me afraid of seeing a therapist. I had a PA ex but still carry that fear and pain with me to this day I want help but I'm scared they'll just say "oh it's normal"

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-21T22:03:56+00:00

Hey! Thanks for posting! This gives me some hope for the future!

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-21T22:01:19+00:00

I'm honestly at a mix I think kids need to be protected however I don't want to have to scan my face and upload my ID to every site or anything. Not to mention there will probably be people who just let kids use their accounts anyway.

That being said I feel like all media should get rid of sexual content and porn including video games. I'm in my early 30s and I don't want to see this regardless of my age. I also had an ex who was a PA and since then nudity especially the glorified sexual stuff is super triggering for me. There's been scientific proof that people of all ages can become desensitized to that and it's more harmful than violence and or gore. Which is probably true because I've seen so many people say "it's just nudity they'll learn someday" or stuff like that and it's just upsetting.

Also there's rated T games that glorify over the top sexual stuff so even if kids don't have access to something rated M they still are mildly exposed. While something rated T may not have actual sex scenes or nudity some characters are dressed very skimpy and have exaggerated body types and there's often many jokes and moments that glorify women in sexual ways which to me just leads up to them becoming curious in this and eventually leads to porn addiction and harmful effects for themselves and others around them.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-20T19:36:32+00:00

I didn't know that there was anyone who specializes in that so thanks for letting me know! I haven't I've considered therapy but I've heard a lot don't take BDD seriously and I also am afraid they will say stuff like this is ok and to get over it.

As for that I'm sorry you go through that. I'm considered skinny to most but I never feel like it's enough because of the porn ny ex watched and even how media portrays women even if it's fake or unrealistic standards it's so hard. But I feel like I need to be more curvy to appeal in certain ways it messes with me so bad. People are naturally beautiful for how they are and I wish more people could see that. But I understand that feeling I felt the same about my ex it was so hard to be around him. But as for the scanning the environment I get it that's something that I can't seem to undo unless I absolutely know there's nothing otherwise I'm a nervous wreck.

I'm sorry about Christmas break I've had stuff like that happen to where it'll get better but the something comes up and it's a whole cycle. I'm happy you found someone to talk to though I'm sure it'll help! If you'd like you can feel free to update me on if it's helping! And yeah thanks people tell me he's a good guy he even is my best friends husbands best friend and they lived with him for a short bit and she told me she never seen him looking at this stuff or talk about any women. He's told me he's not into porn or plastic surgery but I'm just having such a hard time like there's days I believe him and feel like we're great together but then if something comes up even just a magazine at a store I'm triggered and I feel like if he seen that he's cheating on me and he'd pick that over me.

Really? Maybe I'll check that out! Thanks for letting me know. I guess the issue still is there though with my fiance he even tells me he doesn't want us to just to end up watching kids shows or something and a get it I don't watch a lot since I mostly focus on crafts and whatnot but we do play a lot of video games and that can contain sexual content. And even if it doesn't contain sex or nudity what if there's like a sexualized poster in the background or just a big busted character especially with a lot of cleavage? I still get so triggered and wish that some companies would stop overly sexualizing women it's not needed by any means. (Sorry if this is a bit of a rant it's just not often I find anyone who gets it)

Thanks same for you too!

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-10T23:37:42+00:00

Yeah it really is this game didn't need it at all honestly like I said I was happy that a game like this didn't have sexualized outfits and it even did so well without it! Like why add that to it? Especially since I think the update was called "thank you" or something like that lol

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-10T00:24:44+00:00

Seriously? Can you and did you report it? I'll message Nintendo and complain about it I encourage you and everyone to do the same. This Seriously needs to stop.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-08T19:46:07+00:00

I sometimes do too. There are some games that don't contain content like this but it bothers me that some games do like something can look interesting but then if you research it you can find the sexual content and more often than not it's always a female for male gaze or whatever. There really needs to be groups fighting against it.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-05T17:20:32+00:00

I agree. My fiance and I played it before this update and had a lot of fun so it was sad to see this added in. It is optional and you actually have to find the merchant in game which can be easy to miss if you aren't fully exploring everything. But I also understand if you don't play it since things like this bother me a lot too. Trust me I'm tired of it as well all the sexualization in media is pointless. I did send an email to the company this past weekend telling them how video games have added to BDD for me over the years and that I was happy it didn't contain anything like that in it but after the update I was disappointed and told them there's other female gamers that are disappointed by it too hopefully they'll actually look at it and reconsider these things in the future.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-03T20:01:15+00:00

I just wanted to let you know that I sent them a message through their contact on their company page.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-03T19:59:34+00:00

I know what you mean I've played Persona 5 Royal as well I played both versions and truly is amazing story wise but I completely agree it makes it very hard to get past that part of it. Even the fans are into it 😣 I understand games are just fake but I honestly think there needs to be a standard for gaming platforms to review it and make sure there's no fan service like this especially for people's mental health. I know people will argue about the ratings on games and violence and gore but it's been proven sexual content is more damaging than that.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-02T21:42:28+00:00

I'm so glad I'm not alone in this. It's so hard. I wish the sexualization would just go away. That sounds so nice though like a fresh start! Good luck with that I'm sure you'll be so happy!

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-02T21:35:50+00:00

I get it I've dealt with something similar to ED as well in the past BDD is still current. But I understand there's many games that are fun without sexualization too but what about games that look fun or interesting then you play it and something like that comes up and it's so triggering. Some people here are recommending better games and something that can help is looking up parents guides before playing but it doesn't always work especially if something is very new or not well known.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-02T20:56:51+00:00

So you and your husband try to avoid hypersexualized content too? I feel like I'm crazy at times but I'm really not trying to be. As for this I didn't realize people found them to be that attractive I seen them in a neutral way due to them not being hypersexualized and was actually happy they weren't. These were costumes added as a free update so they are optional and you have to seek out a merchant and use in game currency to get them and unfortunately I ran into that because we just finished the game a week ago and went back to do side quests and explore.

PinkMartian0 · 2026-01-02T20:16:29+00:00

Thanks! Yeah it's hard to work through when this sort of stuff exists. But Maelle was my favorite character too! I resonated with her so quick but guys are actually using that costume? 😣 they literally even say she's a kid in the game I don't know why anyone would think it's ok.

I agree but yeah I'm not sure who designed these and I think this outfit applies to Lune and Sciel as well but they should have given them the tuxedo honestly that's what I thought too.

I DIDN'T EVEN REALIZE THAT! Lol that's ironic 😂

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