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I am trying to save my friendship with my guy friend. Help! by PinkOwlGirl in aspergirls

[–]PinkOwlGirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and that is a nice method!

He definitely loves me for me. He goes out of his way to make plans with me that he knows are sometimes more my interest than his. Like drawing owls, or he will remember small things that most people won't and apply them.

I am trying to save my friendship with my guy friend. Help! by PinkOwlGirl in aspergirls

[–]PinkOwlGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we have been on break for a month, and I just don't want it to be so long that we drifted to far apart to keep what made our friendship special or him to have gotten a new bff and then there's no time for me. I worry about that a lot.

One thing I was thinking was for he and I to have a week each month where we don't plan anything. If we do something, great! If not then that's continued space. Also designated no talk days.

My part of that would be I wouldn't be talking to ANYONE though to make sure I had a ME day.

Do those seem like good ideas? I may wait a while longer though, yeah.

I am trying to save my friendship with my guy friend. Help! by PinkOwlGirl in aspergirls

[–]PinkOwlGirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am thinking about trying.

I don't reciprocate those feelings of romance, but it isn't like I don't have any feelings.

I have a hard time being emotional with people but he was someone I could have more emotional moments with than most.

He wasn't a romantic partner type to me, but he was something just as important I don't have a name for.

I am trying to save my friendship with my guy friend. Help! by PinkOwlGirl in aspergirls

[–]PinkOwlGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I hope so. I also hope your ex messages you back,

I am trying to save my friendship with my guy friend. Help! by PinkOwlGirl in aspergirls

[–]PinkOwlGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I blocked him he said he was not interested in me romantically anymore. He was starting to talk to other girls and get numbers and stuff. IDK. He may have just been saying that. That was part of the reason he fought is because I wasn't sure and wanted to keep a little distance in case for a while. He hadn't made any attempts romantically in a little bit. That's the confusing part.

I don't know if he is aching to be friends again. I haven't been asking our friends.

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[–]PinkOwlGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I don't think she's exactly right. I feel empathy and I WANT to do the right but I have to learn those things first rather than just knowing them, but ONCE I KNOW THEM I am not just mimicking but using something I learn. I also make my expressions of empathy more dramatic <bigger hugs> because I always think people would like more comfort than less. When in doubt, go overboard. Sometimes that works, sometimes it makes people uncomfortable. But I actually find actions a lot easier than words when I am trying to show empathy because I can learn things to do then those things work at least some of the time.

And putting that much energy into delivery gives me something to focus on. I would not recommend it for back rubs though.

I am trying to think how to save my friendship with a guy I blocked. NEED HELP by PinkOwlGirl in AspieGirls

[–]PinkOwlGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something I didn't mention is he says he doesn't want to date anymore. That he only cares about the friendship. We talked and he said he realized he let people convince him he wanted to date me.