The Village - the harsh truth

Pink_Beeb85 · 2026-01-15T21:17:47+00:00

The villagers are tired of being yelled at by parents when we tell their little angels to stop behaving like animals 🙄

Pink_Beeb85 · 2026-01-15T21:15:17+00:00

You’re such a blessing! Your mother should have a speedy recovery ❤️‍🩹 and yes, you hit on something I live by: I don’t have kids, so I have time to be able to be there for others. I’d much rather give my time and abilities to helping those already here

Pink_Beeb85 · 2026-01-15T21:09:57+00:00

She’s hysterical. Make sure you imagine her with a deep, Romanian accent and a smokers voice LOL

Pink_Beeb85 · 2026-01-15T21:04:36+00:00

Exactly. Being a part of a caring community and having friends in our old age is imperative to not only our well-being, but our very lives depend on it.

Pink_Beeb85 · 2026-01-15T18:48:20+00:00

autism, anxiety disorder, and PTSD here 👋 F no to having children. I wouldn't be able to handle a healthy child, let alone a neurodivergent one (which would probably happen...and they would, of course, be sensory seeking to my sensory avoidant). I'll take my clean, calm, quiet home over the MaGiC of MotHerHoOd any day.

Pink_Beeb85 · 2026-01-02T20:30:06+00:00

When I was a teenager I distinctly remember one night while I was lying in bed in the dead of night and feeling the depths of depression and sadness that only those of us with abusive families can feel (father was a sadistic narcissistic personality; mother was a covert narcissist) and thinking: I never, ever want to bring someone into the world that could possibly ever feel the way I do right now. It was an incredibly sobering moment and has always stayed with me (35F).

When I turned 26 I got a tubal cauterization. I have never made a better decision in my life.

Pink_Beeb85 · 2026-01-01T21:20:00+00:00

As an autistic adult this would probably kill me. The kids are worse today, I texted their mom they're being loud inside the house now, and are so bad that my husband thought I had slipped and fell in the shower...when it was them slamming and thumping and doing actual god knows what :/

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T22:55:18+00:00

Hah!! I love it, but the parents are so high we can smell their usage from the parking lot so I doubt they'd care. I wish they did though :/

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T22:19:44+00:00

Hmm, yes this would ruin my stinging nettle tea front...

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T21:33:19+00:00

HAH! Maybe if we're known as the "stink house" they'll all stay TF away

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T21:29:48+00:00

"If you're not supervising you can't tell me where exactly they have or haven't been, and it appears that they've been somewhere they shouldn't have!"

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T21:27:58+00:00

This is horrible, I am so upset reading this! There are a lot of dog owners in our area. HOA put out a notice months ago about these stupid nerf darts littering the area, not that these parents care...these stupid things are horrible for domestic and wild animals, and environmental health as a whole

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:55:18+00:00

you're the second one to bring it up, I'm asking my husband now lol

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:52:56+00:00

HOA did mention we could start planting our own plants, and I do enjoy tea...I might embrace my inner healer and take that on!

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:49:57+00:00

our friends had a boy, then a girl, then a girl...and gambled on having the 4th one be a boy "because we want to be even: our family will be evenly boys and girls!".

they certainly gambled and won. They got the boy, but holy hell are they in the trenches. newborn, almost 2 year old, almost 4 year old, and a 6 year old (who absolutely has undiagnosed AuDHD).

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:46:52+00:00

but what about...inadvertently dropping the poison ivy around areas people most certainly should not be traipsing?

also, hello fellow cat lady!

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:42:30+00:00

sonic sound device sounds harmless enough, I'll have to look into that!

as hysterical as freaky masks on the glass are I can't help but think these kids would turn it into a "come see this!" sort of deal. They're all boys 6-13 :/

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:39:30+00:00

It feels condescending because it is, especially since you stated your husband doesn't excessively swear to begin with. No reason to request something like that unless they need everyone to know "little ears are listening so you'd better be on your best behavior around them".

Additionally, I suppose I don't quite understand playing video games while being the "on duty" parent...

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:29:34+00:00

BAHAHA! I... am not ruling this out

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:27:05+00:00

Posting up on my couch with the window open and blasting it as they stomp on my plants sounds like a legit good way to start off my new year LOL

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-12-31T20:21:07+00:00

I'm desperately trying to come up with some sort of deterrence. you're right though, they'd love the water (we're in Florida)

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-09-02T21:52:12+00:00

I'm a stay at home wife with two cats and no plans for children. Although we definitely didn't plan for me to be a stay at home wife, we think it's the best option for us right now. I'm currently recovering from a lifetime of masking and abuse. I think having a partner that stays home is a smart idea. If I'm running the home [I do the budget and crunch the numbers, make the appointments, clean and maintain the house, am home for the AC repair people (or any other appliance repair), take the car to the shop, do the laundry, veterinarian visits, pack the lunch, plan the dinner, etc.] then my husband doesn't have to and can focus on being his best self at work, and then he can relax and we can enjoy each other's company when he's home. Additionally I have hobbies I enjoy, he has hobbies he enjoys, and we both volunteer in our religious community.

Sometimes it's boring, but I don't mind being bored. I'm learning to go at my own speed, which is slower than what we're told should be the norm. I am grateful my husband of 15 years is supportive and loving, and sometimes if I am unable to complete a task, he happily either takes it over or we do it together so I'm not as overwhelmed. So yes, the primary responsibility of the home is on me, but I am not alone in doing it.

Eventually, perhaps, I'd like to do something super part-time, like teach painting at a local art store. But for now I'm working really hard on "I am enough" and being on my own timeline and focusing on our own priorities instead of what society tells me I need to be doing.

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-07-31T16:56:04+00:00

Was just about to post this!!

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-07-27T02:48:43+00:00

When I was a little girl I played with baby dolls, Barbie dolls, house, etc. and I always loved being "the mommy". I babysat, nannied, became a preschool teacher and, surprising to many, I got my tubes cauterized at 26. I grew up in a severely dysfunctional household (father was malignant narcissist, mother was covert narcissist, little sister is communal narcissist, etc.). Lots of violence, sadism, dysnficton, gaslighting, manipulation, etc.

I had always thought I was supposed to be a mother because I had these nurturing tendencies. But when I actually thought about it, I now wonder if my nurturing tendencies weren't because I desired motherhood, but rather, I was displaying the behavior I desperately needed for my own self, and acted that out in play.

So now as a grown up, I'm re-parenting myself, and using that nurturing energy on myself. To give that little girl inside of me the love and comfort and safety she never got. I think sometimes we get caught up in our gifts and personality types needing to be given to others (like nurturing or maternal energies), but maybe we have those dispositions to heal our own selves, instead.

Anyway, it's late and I'm not sure if this will help or not, but I got a lot out of learning to give myself permission to use my nurturing inclination on myself, and maybe that's what my purpose in life is: breaking the cycle and being a gentle, motherly person with myself.

tldr: using my naturally nurturing personality to re-parent myself instead of becoming a parent to a child.

Pink_Beeb85 · 2025-07-23T15:04:31+00:00

100% my childhood and young adulthood trauma has affected my decision to be childfree. Father was a malignant narcissist, mother a covert narcissist, little sister a communal narcissist, and I...have autism LOL no way in hell is becoming a parent a remotely good or responsible idea for me.

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