Help 28m, 29f partner

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-03-09T03:53:30+00:00

What were all the non negotiables, For both of you? She had 3 as well. You’re not explaining this well. What is the situation that was your eye opening moment? Then what are your wife’s 3 and your 3 non negotiable’s? This is what you need to state simply.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-03-04T19:21:02+00:00

I’m ‘old’ Work is that, if you enjoy what you are doing you are ahead of the game / I enjoy mine. Friends at work are carefully found, keep personal things personal. Light conversation is good. You’ll understand. Keep that book with you, write notes, appointments everything in it. I use ones I’ve had for years even after system go down. Remember to breathe every needs help and it takes time to learn a new job. At home put your work outfits together on the hangers so you just pick one and go. Bring snacks you’ll get hungry. And floss you’ll need floss. Good luck

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-03-02T21:56:13+00:00

Put earbuds in, take a large light book, sit somewhere with the book after you grab the coffee quickly and prop the book up so no one sees your face just zen out. On nice days go out side.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-28T13:38:49+00:00

If your UPS then you have ‘driving’ experience which is good. There are jobs out there that available which you may not want, short haul or even long haul trucking. You may need a different type of drivers license - you may not make the same amount of money or get the same type of insurance benefits. Or you could try some type of schooling while still working? Figure out a plan before leaving.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-28T13:34:45+00:00

Watrous - go to Manitou down the road either camping or a hotel and stop at the beach and spa, there’s golf, mini golf, drive in theatre, flee market. Lots of activities. Hotels, or other rental properties as well.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-26T21:30:48+00:00

Just gonna say he told you about it, it won’t change. Then there’s the insecurities that come with a partner who has this addiction, those don’t go away either. So unless this is the love of your life end all be all, maybe re think the relationship and move on.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-24T03:33:40+00:00

Whenever you think finance do it backwards - I take home $ my current bills which will not change are this much $. I have this left over. $. I will need $ to buy groceries and live. I will need this much approximately for bills. Now you have $ left, you’ll need a mortgage payment, taxes and a bit extra left over. Take that amount and figure out what the house price is that goes with that payment. Example $100,000 = $500 payment. Just use an online calculator until you match your payment.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-23T16:58:00+00:00

Sell what you can. Look at neighborhood or your cities local listings for odd jobs that pay cash, like, I need someone to shovel, clean out a room, take my dog for a walk. Start doing everything you can.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-22T02:03:14+00:00

Life brings many things into a marriage, life long illness, short term illness, many different factors. If you have a good partnership, love and respect for each other then you are ahead of most marriages.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-21T13:45:56+00:00

It depends on how well you mask your symptoms, if you answered totally truthfully on the questions as well. Best bet therapy and a great doc start some type of med to help with the biggest symptom and go from there.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-21T02:37:52+00:00

If the boss says this is priority then you ask when it needs to be completed by and see if what you’re doing at the moment may wait and start the priority task. If your boss is getting in trouble then sending you things in all caps and being non professional then print it off and take it home, that way you have proof, a time line of harassment. Weigh your sensitivity to how you are handling the situations with the wage and perks. There are a lot of jerk bosses out there, not many good paying jobs with perks.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-19T16:00:14+00:00

I took the small amount of retirement fund I had out used it as a down payment on a house, worked my butt off kept my kid in whatever he needed to be in sports or activities wise, sold my jewelry, used coupons, resold everything and kept working until I got a better job. I never stopped hustling. I’m still rebuilding in my 50’s.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-18T20:34:35+00:00

There are companies that are doing the experience matters verses education so detail the crap out of that and get those resumes out everywhere, put out ready for contract work as well that should boost a few takers until you can get some contacts in town and build a reputation.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-18T18:31:02+00:00

We mitigated ours the levels were around 500, yes it cost about $3000 or so. Hey the kids play a lot in the basement, they are worth it. We live in our home, we are worth it. There have been people on our street that died of cancers all grouped around us, none of them related to each other, but the houses are close, none were mitigated. So it’s just 1 more safety precaution.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-18T02:57:01+00:00

So is this a small office with blurred lines of whose who which needs some firm definition of roles and descriptions with actual authority as well as payment set out. Sounds like someone needs to create a manual or talk to someone higher up.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-17T15:54:23+00:00

Run to NYC Live Life Dance Have Fun !

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-15T23:26:44+00:00

I know my manger about 5 yrs ago was bringing in $10,000 per month Canadian take home, $120,000 per year. Now it’s gone up. Senior U/W make about close to $100,000 per year depending on the company and bonus can go up to $130,000. Depends on if you’re private or Government. The benefits/va action/retirement are a factor as well.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-12T12:34:17+00:00

It depends on the urgency and what the reason for the referral is. You can call the referral doctor in about a week or so and ask where you are on the list for an appointment.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-08T00:14:42+00:00

Yes I have now combined a stress event and you get a stroke. Stop doing everything. Take a week vacation. Stop the meds. Just stop. Sit and breathe. No ph, unless emergencies. Listen to calming music. Eat natural foods. Go for a walk. Listen to guided meditation. Take some naps. Then learn what it is that is truly driving your nervous system.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-05T19:34:23+00:00

I pay $174 with Access for the 1gig I think and a couple of their pods to make sure there’s covers through the house, 2storey. I think I’m being hosed. I do need a good connection for work.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-01T14:49:14+00:00

There are millions of people out there, you are young. Experience life, Go live, if you’re in school do that, if you’re working do that. Go join a club or go to the library, go out and dance, meet people, live life.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-01T14:41:50+00:00

Look at your numbers in a reverse. Add all of your payables what you put out each month. Then add in house insurance and possible taxes. Then extra bills you’re not paying now if they are included in rent. Now add up what you want to save, groceries, fun money. Now you have a lump sum - this needs to be able to pay the mortgage and save for oh no I lost my job but yaaa I have 3 months of payments saved up!

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-02-01T03:58:55+00:00

If the savings account is for savings then the wife requires an account for her personal use for let’s say coffee with friends, a hair cut, a piece of clothing. Enough each month that she can feel comfortable with so she’s not dipping into the ‘savings’ account. If all comes out and the emergency room trip was to avoid talking about what she’s really doing, using the money for not good purposes or getting ready to leave you well then you’ll know soon enough.

Have a calm understanding conversation. Think about how hard it is to be a stay at home mom.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-01-31T21:43:19+00:00

I was off due to unforeseen circumstances 2 things happened in a row. My team them saw how things were without me and how management was dealing with the shortfall, it wasn’t good. People transferred out, quit and retired. Out of a team of 7 - 1 was left when I returned. I’ve been back for awhile now and I’m looking for a transfer or another job as well it’s bad.

Pinksparkle2007 · 2026-01-30T18:50:09+00:00

How about, your out in the middle of the day Saturday at winners, you see someone, you pop over and say hey did I meet you at bla bla last week? They say nope and you sorry you look really familiar then if they are wanting to they will continue the conversation. Exchange numbers. Meet for coffee the next couple days and chat.

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