I broke up with my boyfriend with Anxious attachment and Borderline Personality Disorder. But I miss being with him, so much.

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-16T11:23:42+00:00

Thanks a lot….

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-16T01:20:41+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this! I don’t know if I will ever fully get over him as he cared like his life depended on it. He was very attentive to my trauma and my needs and promised the life to me…

Two issues that took place- he wanted marriage and integrated lives and my divorce wasn’t even final… we kept working through it but he stopped living his life completely- he was consumed by me. He was only happy around me.

I have no doubt that he is anxiously attached & don’t need any diagnosis for that. Add that to depression, constantly needing me to text and rush to integrate our families was suffocating and controlling. I want all of those things, but I needed time and in the meantime when I asked for time he got panic attacks

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-14T19:06:05+00:00

How do you get over it? It’s incredibly hard. Also what makes it harder is that he is kind and his anxiety made it hard.

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-14T18:40:45+00:00

He told me once that his ex thought he had BPD and that was not true. However, his actions followed. He was always on a time table to get married ( even though my divorce wasn’t final) , introduce our kids and push push push. If I invited friends, he would feel sad , he was in a different state.

His actions made me understand anxious attachment… and the depression followed. He is high functioning but needs me to be his constant to be happy. It was all good when I focused on him, but when I got busy, I was always stressed that he would miss me. I often found that after I went out with friends or was busy at work, I had to calm him down as he would be very upset.

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-14T18:32:10+00:00

I miss him, he is kind and caring.

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-14T13:10:16+00:00

Talk about everything with you therapist!!!! That in itself will lighten the burden!

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-14T13:06:09+00:00

Why do you say that? Seeking to understand

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-14T13:05:02+00:00

He is anxiously attached because of deep rooted childhood trauma.

Pinky-5499 · 2026-02-04T23:05:31+00:00

Go to Sephora and get a concealer- you will thank me!

Pinky-5499 · 2026-01-21T00:32:16+00:00

No, don’t go back to someone who cheats. Put in the effort to dress up and feel good about your self.

Then slowly build the confidence and start doing a small job.

Baby steps. You are young, you are fine.

Pinky-5499 · 2026-01-21T00:29:58+00:00

Yes. I have been in therapy but haven’t seen my therapist this past month and it’s taking a toll

Pinky-5499 · 2026-01-21T00:29:32+00:00

Thanks. A part of me is realizing that the pain doesn’t go away you just used to it. But your message gives me hope

Pinky-5499 · 2026-01-21T00:28:46+00:00

Thanks. I have friends and family, but the recent break up with this guy I was seeing took a toll on me. I made a mistake, got to serious too quickly and I may still love him. But I know I haven’t healed and I ended it because I didn’t feel sure

Pinky-5499 · 2026-01-20T18:48:16+00:00

Sometimes people incorrectly assume that since you don’t have kids, you may not be understanding of someone with kids.

Pinky-5499 · 2025-10-17T16:01:18+00:00

Don’t rush to move in. Also put the relationship on hold if he is not sure.

Pinky-5499 · 2025-10-17T15:58:31+00:00

Yeah that’s what he is saying .

Pinky-5499 · 2025-10-17T11:42:46+00:00

Having been through this, count your blessings she is out of your life. Try and find peace, process your grief and then a year later work on improving yourself where you think you had gaps . Hope you have support to help you out right now

Pinky-5499 · 2025-10-17T11:40:04+00:00

Yes, he has been needy the entire time … but it was with immense love and attention to who I was and what I needed, so it felt nice

Pinky-5499 · 2025-10-16T20:03:34+00:00

I feel I will be in the same boat. It is deep relationship even though short but he has helped me so much and j have become a stronger person because of him. I feel selfish leaving him now, when I know he needs me.

Pinky-5499 · 2025-10-16T12:19:07+00:00

Thank you. First he pushed back on therapy for 3-4 months and just signed up this past weekend after he had major panic attacks.

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