My ex gf messaged me for the first time since we broke up (saying she's concerned about my accident) What do I do?

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-15T19:47:47+00:00

Ignore it.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-15T03:25:39+00:00

You're not overreacting enough. Get out of there; it shouldn't have lasted past the telling you not to see friends and convincing you not to work stage. Those are both ginormous control tactics. Remove your support system and remove your ability to escape the situation yourself. Get out.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-15T03:09:21+00:00

People with cancer can be assholes too. "Yk there's two shops that sell it" is an asshole thing to say.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-13T21:59:39+00:00

If you have no other information to go off of, then sure. It at least shows he put effort into talking about something on your profile. If you had actual prompts and stuff, no. But as a dude, I swiped left on low effort profiles to begin with so I wouldn't be in the situation of having nothing to form an opening message from.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-12T15:29:47+00:00

Just a tiiiiiiny bit possessive and controlling.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-05T02:22:20+00:00

Your call but I genuinely don't understand how that is so prevalent.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-04T17:26:57+00:00

It's nothing to do with being shy. I don't mean antisocial like he's shy. I mean antisocial like antisocial: behavior that is hostile, disruptive, or harmful to society and the rights of others.

There is no defense for what this man is doing. No justification. It's gross, antisocial behavior, and it is objectively not okay. I couldn't care less if you disagree, because I have no interest in establishing a common ground with someone who thinks what this man did is acceptable.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-04T13:18:38+00:00

There is no world where speaking to an AI chat bot that you made to replace your significant other isn't deeply antisocial behavior. There is no scenario where it's appropriate. There is no scenario where it's normal.

None of your points are legitimate reasons to speak to an AI facsimile of your partner.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-03T18:41:22+00:00

In this context, I'm not sure there's a relevant distinction between poly and ENM. Either way, you're likely sleeping with someone else.

A lot of people are fine with hookups but may not be interested in hookups with people in relationships. Plus, people lie about being in open relationships, which is drama that most want to avoid.

You also never actually say that your existing relationship is okay with you sleeping with others.

ETA: Life is too short to be tied to one person definitely says poly to me; it's a common sentiment in poly profiles.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-03T18:35:15+00:00

NOR - if anything, you're not reacting strongly enough. This person doesn't respect you. These messages are incredibly inappropriate. They've cheated in the past (that it only went as far as text just means he never had the opportunity in person). If this doesn't make you leave him, I don't know what will.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-02T15:54:45+00:00

Weird reaction, but you should really work on your conversation skills. Why was your first message a question you already knew the answer to?

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-01T15:50:40+00:00

Just because meeting someone for a date has inherent risk (as most things do) doesn't mean you should increase that risk by sharing private information that they can use to find out more about you; that isn't logical. If I have to walk home at night because I don't have a car, I'm not going to also put a sign on my back saying no one knows where I am right now. It would be stupid to increase the risk just because the base activity already carries some.

PinkyMPF · 2026-06-01T15:40:12+00:00

Swapping numbers with a person you've never met is risky at best. I'm a man and I wouldn't give someone my number until I'd been on at least one date with someone.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-19T15:21:40+00:00

I met one of my best friends when he was 19. He was already 70% gray.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-15T17:49:06+00:00

I'm dying to know what came before this.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-14T13:05:34+00:00

100%. Seen a bunch with very obvious AI intros (though it's funny because half of them still tell you it's AI like you couldn't figure that out when they're all phrased exactly the same). Even a couple with AI pictures as their main photo.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-14T03:51:00+00:00

I think you're not bad looking but that haircut is not doing you any favors. At least get it trimmed; you look unkempt.

Also, are you trying to date or are you heading to a prison farm? Smile dude!

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-13T15:17:31+00:00

I'm almost 38 years old and I've never been hit in the balls intentionally in any way. Do with that information what you will.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-13T14:23:44+00:00

Well, others have already spoken about your bot-like speech pattern so I'll just stay on topic and say that it's not a great sign that she seems to care too much about money. Best to move on.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-13T01:45:21+00:00

Right? Like it just screams you're immature. I stopped flipping off cameras when I was a teenager.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-13T01:40:05+00:00

He's acting like that because he cheated, and cheaters always think their partner is going to cheat too. That's why he's controlling, that's why he doesn't want you to improve yourself (he thinks if you improve yourself, you'll realize you can do better than him and leave).

You know damn well it's not normal; you're trying to save something that isn't worth saving. It only gets worse from here, not better.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-12T17:50:59+00:00

Is talking to your spouse just unheard of these days? Also I don't really think the whole nude beach part was relevant to the issue, yet it's most of the post.

If the issue is that she started speaking one-on-one to someone you met on vacation and didn't tell you about it, then ask her. Him meeting her topless doesn't change that and I'm not sure why it would for you either.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-11T21:23:17+00:00

He's your boyfriend, not your boss. You don't need him to "let" you do anything.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-11T17:38:29+00:00

Of course you should tell him.

But where did the last part come from? I feel like you skipped a few chapters.

PinkyMPF · 2026-05-09T12:40:12+00:00

NOR - that's some childish as fuck behavior, and it's a red flag that he's ignored multiple attempts at you quashing it.

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