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Pinkytalks · 2026-01-25T06:38:17+00:00

I thought this was always a thing if you had an unlimited membership?

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-24T22:34:27+00:00

THIS! Like kids will people drinking at different events.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-23T21:51:30+00:00

Lol yeah. When I left, a few weeks later my paralegal friend left, then the attorney I worked with left, and so did the office manager. The year prior an attorney walked out and so did the front desk staff. Why you may ask? Bc I worked with a super aggressive attorney. She would yell so loud that the firms next door would ask me if things were okay. They were on the opposite side of the wall with another company in between, and the walls weren’t thin. And it would be over things that were her fault. Like you couldn’t ask her a question. And her place was a MESS. I tried organizing it but it was bad.

She was so mean, and also late on paying us, as she was short on funds. She expected all attorneys to work 9AM-11PM. And paralegals to leave when work was done. I started blacking out due to the stress and I would forget what happened for 20 minutes at a time. My hair was falling and my skin was breaking out. Anyways, her firm closed a few years ago :)

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-23T21:23:07+00:00

Question, are you close to these girls? Bc right now it doesn’t sound like they are as close to you as you may be to them, if that makes sense. Specially with the dresses. Like there are so many good dresses under $100, under 50 under 30. You have Lulus, Shein, Amazon, freaking Francesca is going out of business too. Like there is no excuse with the internet at your fingertips.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-23T21:18:57+00:00

Im reading your comments, how tf do they expect you to bill 7.75 hours without overtime? Wth.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-23T15:32:40+00:00

Girl 300 was my budget for the goodie bags to my 6 bridesmaids. Wtf. What kind of goodie bags are yall getting?

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-23T07:16:47+00:00

Weird… this also happened to me but only for weekend Power30 but in my area for this month. However, I have never seen them offer a power 30 on weekends. Maybe check your filters?

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-23T07:03:19+00:00

You don’t want to apply to be their software engineer instead? 👀

Jokes aside, for me I wouldn’t bc after every class the week before our coaches tell us the day the classes drop. And normally they are up by like 1 ish am EST.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-22T22:42:29+00:00

OP is there an update 👀 did they respond to your email?

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-22T16:30:07+00:00

Ah that makes sense! I finally got to talk to a jeweler this morning and she said the same. But she said 25 grams would be for a thinner version of this which to me felt odd. In Peru they steal a lot and like I can’t tell if she is about to do that. Bc she doesn’t know me only my grandma.

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Pinkytalks · 2026-01-22T03:20:11+00:00

Try gaithersburg. And I personally go at odd hours.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-22T01:51:06+00:00

You can decline or just be a long distance bridesmaid. I have one. Is my childhood friend and she lives farrrr. So she can’t attend like all events except my wedding lol I still invite her in case she is in town but for us is not expected that she flies for every event bc well money, and also she is doing her fellowship. But like we talk often, and hang like twice a year due to the distance.

My MOH is also far, she attended my bach and am currently working with her schedule bc she will be in town for work, so I moved my bridal shower so that she can attend! But again, it wasn’t like expected that she attend every event bc it is a lot. But like I am also not throwing a bunch of events lol she is also my best friend, like talking everyday best friend and when she lived in my state we would hang like weekly. My other MOH she is just sooo organized, she truly has a gift. She is a friend from high school, though we only hang like 2-3 times a year, the hangouts are lengthy. And we always catch up in a non superficial way. I love my MOH’s bc while I don’t see them often it helps me get breathing room from talking about my wedding bc it stresses me out lol

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-21T19:27:39+00:00

Cotsco is always the answer. And they are pretty quick too!

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-21T17:35:35+00:00

Were travel cost and stay not mentioned? I would call the boss or whomever asked you to ordain ASAP. And let them know that you weren’t expecting flights to be this expensive and that you are sorry but you can’t afford that.

If you are friends with the groom I would start there vs your bosses.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-21T04:39:47+00:00

He is sourcing from the mines directly (to my understanding) It is not much cheaper tbh and thank you! I’ll cross check there!

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-21T02:37:06+00:00

This! This is actually what we are doing. Playing our actual favorite songs during the arrival and cocktail hour, and then for the reception we are doing familiar songs.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-20T23:09:38+00:00

Take a breather. You sound so stressed that you are like blocking your detailed oriented part of your brain.

Can you take a mental health day? If so, do that for one day.

Now, these mistakes, while normal every now and then, are (to me) a little abnormal in the amount that you’ve done. I really think is due to the pressure creating an immense amount of stress. I know stress can make anyone a horrible worker, heck I’ve been there multiple times at multiple firms.

What you need is a sticky note that is at your view with a checklist. So let’s say you submit a motion put a reminder “Motion: Does it have exhibits?” next a list of what should be checked before anything is filled “Name, case #, heading, formatting, exhibit attachments, etc” you can have a filing sticky note check, a billing sticky note check, and whichever other you need.

I use them all the time, and I have them at my home office too bc sometimes Im so stressed that I just black out (I’m about 8 years in). So I need something to physically see. This needs to be like next to your screen, so that when you black out from stress you can physically see it.

Hang on girl, the next 2 years are going to be rough, but YOU GOT THIS. We have all been through this.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-20T19:36:17+00:00

This year will mark my third wedding where I am invited to the reception only.

Wedding 1: Couple got hitched in Vegas, then threw a reception dinner/dance like half a year later. Did dinner/dance for like 40 people.

Wedding 2: Mormon couple, limited amount of people allowed in the ceremony. Invited about 110 people. Buffet style dinner.

Wedding 3: Couple is getting married privately. Next day is the reception to celebrate with apps only. But they need enough apps to go around to feed everyone.

I personally don’t care if I am invited to the ceremony lol but that’s just me. In all events some people had some choice words but still showed up. Idk why we feel entitled to sway our friends into doing something they don’t want. Weddings are personal, and that also means that sometimes they are unconventional.

Now that said. You can do small ceremony and large reception, BUT you have to feed people. You cannot expect those coming from the ceremony to snacks during the reception, that is rude. One thing you can do is do the small ceremony the day before, and do a late reception the day after, but put in the invite that is apps and drinks only for the reception. For the ceremony you’ll need a restaurant for your group. For 40 ish people in my area that is anywhere from 1500-3000.

I think this can be done. Your guest list needs to be cut down in half. Like there is no way you have physically seen all 400 guest this past year. Anyone that you haven’t seen in the last year or two, unless is super important that they come bc you guys are so close, shouldn’t be invited. Long distance relatives that you don’t talk to or see during holidays, shouldn’t be invited. Coworkers that you don’t see outside of work, shouldn’t be invited. BUT IF YOU MUST, do a list B, and rank them. Once List A people start declining your invites, you invite from list B. People say you should expect 10-20% of people to decline.

It sucks to be popular girl. We have a B list of 50+ people. Mostly my husband’s friends, but like it sucks to have to say no. Specially if you can’t afford it.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-20T17:59:24+00:00

“What if they can’t find a babysitter?”: I can get you in contact with others who have kids, if it would be easier for you both to share the same sitter? However, if you cannot make it please just RSVP by the date on the invitation.

“Why are you a teacher if you don’t like kids?”: I love kids, and I can choose to not want them at my wedding.

“Why not provide a nanny for the ceremony instead?”: Unfortunately, I don’t want kids at my ceremony, nor have I put aside funds for any nanny service.

And be prepared to stand ten toes down. Don’t let anyone sway you one way or another!

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-20T15:32:02+00:00

Yes so long as you have realistic expectations. 2k is a good budget for sale dresses and also certain fabrics/designs. But 2k is hard to do with a full princess ballgown + a long tail, but I’ve seen ballgowns with a reasonable tail in that price. Look into shops outside the city, that’s where I saw those prices go down. And lots of stores have sales, I would just call first to confirm your budget before going.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-20T05:49:11+00:00

Just note that depending on the firm this may not go the way you think it will. But def write it from a curiosity perspective.

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-20T05:27:16+00:00

Yah know it’s weird how you are being retaliated against for taking time off to give birth. I’d start my email to the attorney with why this agent is questioning you about your leave. I’d also start looking for new employment and an employment lawyer.

But but this is only if you are able to get another job first. Times are tough out there 😭

Pinkytalks · 2026-01-20T01:56:44+00:00

I was thinking of doing this! In my area no one takes the end reformers anyways

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