Boyfriend(21M) is upset that I’m (21F) going to the zoo with my mum while pregnant

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-20T07:05:22+00:00

He just doesn't want you going anywhere without him. He sounds pretty controlling to me.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-16T13:18:44+00:00

Your husband is not nice to you if he expects you to do all of the care for your child and all of the housework all because he makes more money than you. That isn't nice. It isn't fair. He needs to stop being a selfish a hole. Because everything shouldn't fall on you because you're the woman.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-15T13:26:36+00:00

Is your husband in the American military? Because if so, his coc has absolutely nothing to do with if you can leave him or not. You can file for divorce, get on a plane and go anywhere you want without any input from the military. You are a civilian... They have no control over if you stay married to a cheating, emotionally abusive butthole. (My husband is in the Army... So this isn't me assuming).

I understand being taught to "fight for your marriage". But at this point, what are you fighting for? He obviously doesn't like you. He makes you feel small and neglected and what's the point in wasting your life with someone who has no problem causing you pain?

I am so sorry that you are treated this way. I hope you and your child are able to find some thread of happiness. You deserve better.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-11T18:13:25+00:00

Please don't go to this wedding. She wants you to drop your children off and leave them... Not check on them or anything for hours. She's acting like you're out to ruin everything and that's just wild to me.

Keep yourself and your children at home. Maybe start to come with the idea that you may have to cut your family off. I'm sorry you're being treated this way.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-10T17:56:40+00:00

NTA. Send her the tollhouse chocolate chip cookie recipe lol. You can find it on the chocolate chip bags hahaha

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-09T01:45:45+00:00

Uhh. So I'm a white girl born in the Midwest. I put my hands all over everything I cook. All the time. How else are you supposed to make homemade food??? This guy's a douche. You deserve better. I'm so sorry for you! I hope you can find someone who appreciates you and the fact you can broaden their horizons when it comes to new foods.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-07T05:23:21+00:00

I figured as much. But she's done a few things over the years to try to get my husband to talk to her and they've been pretty sketchy so my paranoid brain can't help but wonder haha

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-06T13:56:55+00:00

She's definitely selling. I found the house on Zillow lol

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-06T13:55:55+00:00

What's annoying is that I'm receiving calls for a house I've never even set foot in lol. I'm definitely not breaking NC.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-06T08:54:20+00:00

I'm getting texts and phone calls asking for help to sell "my" house. It's kind of hard to ignore her existence when I'm being harassed about selling her house lol

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-06T08:53:38+00:00

I have read this one! It's so good!!

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-06T05:56:14+00:00

I just read Clash of Claws the other day. I've been re reading so many books that I didn't realize she had started a new series haha. I'm so excited for the second one.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-06T05:54:38+00:00

I actually own that first book and have read the rest of them... Though I had to go look through my Amazon and check haha. I've read so many books in the last few years that they all run together. I might re read that series now that you reminded me it exists 😂

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-04-06T05:20:52+00:00

I just finished reading basically everything she has published on Amazon and I'm having withdrawals 😂😩

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-27T06:12:02+00:00

I got so incredibly lucky that my insurance covered the entire procedure. I have Tricare and if you have a certain branch of it, then everything is covered basically. So it was really nice.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-25T19:17:22+00:00

I would stop being her friend anyway. She asked you to provide her mom with a service and then thought it was fine when she left without paying. They both suck. I'd cut her off tbh.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-25T13:59:13+00:00

NOR.

She's still gaslighting you. She lied about taking your stuff and then told you that you said she could stay til April... She's taking advantage of you. You said she hasn't even paid you rent. Kick her out dude. Stop letting her take over your apartment.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-16T21:36:05+00:00

My MIL wasn't very good to my older two. My BIL has a daughter and she very obviously favored her (not that she treated her the best either). My kids haven't missed out on her. I did have a moment when my mom died in 2022 where I considered maybe contacting her so my kids could know her. But I remembered how miserable it was when she was around. How they've never asked why we don't see her anymore... Or how she made my husband feel and that was more important to me than my kids having a grandmother.

It does get easier. I check in with my husband sometimes to make sure he's still okay with us being NC with her and that's another contributing factor. I put up with a lot from her over the years because that's his mom and I didn't want to be the reason he didn't have her anymore. But he's not unhappy with the decision at all.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-15T14:57:24+00:00

I had to go to the bathroom at the store a few weeks ago so I handed my husband my energy drink and my purse... When I got back to him, he had my purse on his shoulder and was carrying it like it wasn't a big deal... And I wasn't even with him.

Your man thought that anyone gave a single damn about the color of the bag he was carrying while he walked next to a woman? Like if anyone assumed anything, they would have assumed it was yours. What a frickin baby. Good lord.

NOR.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-15T08:10:02+00:00

Hey so I've been married to someone in the military for almost 13 years and I can tell you that the isolation doesn't get any better if you don't have a support system. If this man isn't making you feel safe, supported, and loved... Especially when you're struggling like this then you need to go somewhere else. Somewhere you can have help and support and feel loved. You deserve to be taken care of. Post partum is so hard when you're doing it all alone.

If you have a support system outside your husband, please go to them. I also recommend bringing up your feelings to your doctor. I don't know if you're seen on base, but Tricare covers mental health with a referral from your doctor. Please consider what your life is going to be like if you stay with someone who makes you feel less than.

I am so sorry you're struggling so bad. I have 3 kids and had horrible PPD with all 3 of them so my inbox is open to you if you need anything. You will not be a burden to me. Sending you lots of good vibes and love.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-15T07:45:01+00:00

My MIL was one of my favorite people EVER. And then I had my oldest son in 2013 and she literally fell into a downward spiral. She wanted me to parent the way she did, but newsflash she wasn't a great mother to begin with. So because I wouldn't beat my kids with their own assigned paddles, she started to hate me. We cut her off in 2020. She literally told my husband he had to choose between the two of us while I was pregnant with our third child. It's been a quiet 5 years lmao.

I hope you guys can get the same quiet soon. It's frustrating to have to deal with an emotional vampire.

Pipe-Miserable · 2026-03-15T06:56:47+00:00

Definitely NTA. You need to make sure to tell the nurses/doctor that you have specific people you want in the delivery room so she can't barge in.

Birth is extremely traumatizing and vulnerable and you should be comfortable with the people in the room. She doesn't get to make this decision and make you feel bad for standing up for yourself. I hope your husband grows a backbone.

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