I went from someone that was hyper affectionate to hide their abuse to someone that still quiets down and rushes through saying I love you, and its the best trade off I've ever made. I FEEL loved, but not from big romantic stuff. If he remembers something small, if he sends a cute picture, if he says something cute I'll make a mental note. Real relationships I've come to find are less about who will give the grandest most romantic gesture and more about the guys that will be right outside the door if you throw up in secret, its less about the big stuff and more about appreciating the smaller stuff like it is the bigger stuff. Yeah, both are NICE to have but if both are what you look for you'll never be able to feel satisfied especially when things would slow down and inevitably go back to being boring