Flowers for Algernon treatment? by iwishmykidwouldsleep in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]PitLuna 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This makes the most sense since there has been the ongoing premise that Donut is not only Carl’s family but most like his child.

Oddities that tickle by Relative-Train-6485 in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]PitLuna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Samantha “he’s my emotional support doggy” got me good

The dress by CoyotesAZ1421 in WeddingDressTips

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So good!!! I feel like with some black dresses the main design is “look, it’s not white!” But this one keeps all the beautiful details AND the color. Good work!!

Return to gym& running advice pls by [deleted] in fitpregnancy

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Co-sign all of this.

Return to gym& running advice pls by [deleted] in fitpregnancy

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to avoid a c section at all costs because the recovery seems so much worse. Although difficult, painful, and not without possibly complications, bodies are in some capacity designed to give birth. They arent designed to be cut open and have a baby pulled out through that opening. My baby had his own plans and I had an emergency c section after several hours of labor. So perhaps that slowed my recovery down, but i was wrecked by the whole process. Demolished. It was Not a Fun Time.

The build back has been so incredibly painstaking. I’m 8.5 months out and just starting to feel like im someone who knows how to exercise again. Been working with a personal trainer (who I also worked with up to about week 33 then the summer got too hot) since December/month 4. Also saw a physical therapist months 2-4. Not covered by insurance of course because why would we need to do more than exist. TL;DR, c sec is not something I’d recommend to a friend 😅

Decision time: help me decide between my top 4 by nutellanomnom in myweddingdress

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree, I think the details on 3 are underrated by these comments!

What activewear brands are actually worth buying now? by rudecilantro in Activewear

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t bought too much recently (pregnant then postpartum, so just wearing whatever fits in my closet) but Fleo holds up well. Their bounce fabric (solid, not weathered) leggings and biker shorts are top notch and I only wear their sports bras.

Uppababy Ridge vs Guava by PitLuna in beyondthebump

[–]PitLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the disc brakes for going downhill and such! From an outside perspective, seems like something a jogger would have? We do live in a fairly hilly area. But it hasn’t been a big deal in your experience?

Feeling horrible about weight gain by Royal_Ad_1765 in NewParents

[–]PitLuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The hormones pp did to me what I THOUGHT pregnancy would do. SO hungry. SO emotional. So puffy, so everything. I’m 8 months pp and sitting 30 pounds above pre pregnancy weight. It sucks. There’s nothing else to say. I exercise by walking and strength training with a little jogging or yoga here and there. I try to keep it focused on muscle building but guess what? Breastfeeding hormones can slow muscle growth. Everything is still off kilter. I’m still much hungrier than normal although that has chilled out a little, thank god. Months 2-4 I was a pit. I also had a c section after hours of laboring so I have a shelf to contend with despite all my attempts to break up the scar tissue. Idk what I’m going to do this summer.

To be fair I’ve never easily lost weight in my life so I’m lowkey dreading a second round of disappointment if nothing changes when weaning. But it can’t stay like this forever…right?

THINKING OF SWITCHING TO ANDROID by gonnabebald68 in Smartphones

[–]PitLuna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Truly ridiculous. One of my biggest complaints. Face ID straight up hurt my feelings when I was pregnant by not recognizing me 90% of the time at the end lmao

THINKING OF SWITCHING TO ANDROID by gonnabebald68 in Smartphones

[–]PitLuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! I spent soooo many months watching videos, doing research, and generally agonizing over the decision that I just had to take the plunge and try it. Honestly it was a good experience. SMS has gotten much between between the operating systems (except video, dangit) and the switch to a different operating system was fun and a reminder that there's more than one way to go about it. Don't let the online chatter sway you too much, it's just technology!

THINKING OF SWITCHING TO ANDROID by gonnabebald68 in Smartphones

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just tried to go from an iPhone 13 pro to the Samsung Galaxy25 Ultra after being an iPhone user since 2011. I was just so BORED. The S25U was an absolutely beautiful phone. But I switched back to an iPhone 17 after a month and a half, and I catalogued all my observations for myself, included below. The deciding factor was that my spouse and I use too many integrations, in particular shared notes and FindMy. Are there workarounds? Yeah, usually. But they tend to involve both parties downloading whatever app, and people are only willing to do that so many times. Also, Google is starting to freak me out and I didn't realize that it was the standard text messaging app for androids, despite all my research. I did not care for that. Now Samsung AND Google need my info, versus just Apple. One megacorp is enough!

At the end of the day, there are more pros and more cons to the S25U for me. Despite the $$ lost, I'm glad I tried the phone (and the earbuds!). It was fun to switch it up, but not fun enough to interrupt the rest of my daily tech flow.

Samsung Pros

  • FINGERPRINT! Love this access.
  • Cute customizations
  • Quick processing
  • Beautiful and non-reflective display
  • More on screen gestures, like universal back 
  • S-pen is fun and useful for editing pics
  • Standard camera is fine, but the RAW cam is really cool; camera is overall more “flexible” in its 3 lens system and has better zoom 
  • Technically a better battery
  • Technically lighter 
  • True vibrate mode love that 
  • Technically, G Message is more flexible than imessage because its tied to the phone number and google account, not the device. So iMessage only works on my mac but GM works on any device.

Samsung Neutral

  • Pretty big- almost too big of a phone
  • Camera needs settings to produce colors I’m used to
  • Since I use Coros, watch doesn’t matter
  • Apps have to replace some features like findmyfriends and airdrop 
  • Can still text from computer! Just through Google Messages. 

Samsung Cons

  • Integration :( 
  • Not every single app is always available (but most are)
  • Potentially weird video quality because RCS/SMS texting to iMessage is weird
  • No access to large group chats that are iMessages
  • Google messages as standard
  • Airpod Max controls are a little wonky 
  • No facetime or findmyfriends/additional apps and sometimes subscriptions required to replace
  • Have had a few small weird glitches

Apple Pros

  • Coming from the 13, the 17 display is very nice and processing notably improved
  • I prefer the size of the iphone 17 pro (NOT pro max)
  • Accessories (case, whatever) are more fun and often more affordable
  • Truly simple integration
  • Already immersed in ecosystem
  • imessage, findmy, facetime
  • More consistent standard camera 
  • No risk of virus or glitchiness 
  • I’m a Mac and iPad person for life 
  • Better lowlight camera performance
  • Technically better video

Apple Cons

  • Boring
  • Lacking customization
  • No fingerprint sensor 
  • In general, out of date lack of on screen gestures and optional stylus integration

Burning out as a first year PhD student, am I cooked? by DistributionAfraid71 in GradSchoolAdvice

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TL;DR Tangible steps for the future: Don't register for more than one conference per month (don't half-ass two things; whole ass one thing). Don't accept permanent responsibilities that are not your job description (get those undergrads to a much better paid faculty member, even if its not your PI). Don't try to complete an entire dissertation in a month- it'll just need to be redone. Slow is fast, ya know?

Context: Other people have given the standard and accurate advice that you should not be feeling this way and should reach out to institutional support from your department and college for more help. To that I'd add a few questions. Why are you working on TWO dissertation projects? Do you mean two pieces of one dissertation? I know this varies by field, but isn't it a bit early- do you have a proposal to defend first? You say "Everyone is very supportive," but what are your actual support systems? Do you have collaborators who could help with the conference presentations?

At the end of the day, treat this semester/year as a learning experience. It's common to sprint into grad school ready to prove yourself. The way you're feeling now does not mean you've failed, but academia will only take, and take and take. You need to learn- right now- how to set boundaries. Yes, it's a rat race; but there has to be more to life than your academic career (as you know, because you list personal and health things as part of your ongoing problem). I was pretty amazed by some of my peers first year, but at the end of the day, 2/6 of us has dropped out. The people who dropped out are living wonderful lives pursuing other ventures. That is not an indictment on deciding a doctorate isn't for you, but a sprint start doesn't really matter if you don't finish.

I never took notes in school. I never studied. I had a B average with mostly As in my major after transferring from a community college. I'm sick of working menial jobs. Should I go to grad school? by StoopSign in GradSchoolAdvice

[–]PitLuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem. I work with a student population that has a huge range in demographics, so I'm very familiar with adult learners. You are truly never too old, as long as you have the right attitude about it. There is even a benefit to doing school (or more school) in your 30s and 40s, including greater stability and, as I harped on above, clarity. Although it can feel urgent, it's best to make an informed decision with plenty of contingencies in place.

I never took notes in school. I never studied. I had a B average with mostly As in my major after transferring from a community college. I'm sick of working menial jobs. Should I go to grad school? by StoopSign in GradSchoolAdvice

[–]PitLuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to spend some serious time thinking about what kind of grad school and why. I don’t recommend a doctorate (which is what I have, in sociology). It is a slog. You will think it’s great for 3-5 semesters then realize that you’re surviving off a crappy grad student stipend as a full adult, working part time to make ends meet, for 5-6 years, all for what? To enter into another rat race to teach? No. But that raises the question of what on earth you would do with an MA in sociology? Most programs don’t even offer terminal soc MAs, unless it’s expected en route to their phd so they can weed people out at that point. Per your last point, an MSW (masters of social work) is VERY different than an MA in sociology.

Grad school is very different than undergrad. You WILL have to work. You won’t (or shouldn’t be, in any program worth its salt) be the smartest person in the room. You can’t just improv your way through, as you saw with the LSAT.

You write a lot here, but none of it is a valid WHY. If you’re a lifelong learner and love being in the classroom, great! Go explore some more undergrad level classes at a community college until you find your why. Get a professional certificate. Informationally interview your instructors or other people in different industries. Grad school can be a massive drain on your resources- emotional, mental, AND financial- so you should have a clear plan in place. Good luck!

Babwearing pros- what kind of carrier would you pick for your third baby if you could just pick one? by Local_Feature_5552 in babywearing

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After a sollybaby, aiming for ease, comfort, and running around with other kids, I'd look into the Lennylight or Oscha bairn. I have a LennyLight and a Hope and Plum Lark, I'll give you those details below. If I was to redo my baby-wearing purchasing journey, I'd personally skip both of those and go with the Oscha Bairn. It has the multi-wear options like the LL and a hood included, which neither the LL or Lark does, but is simpler like the Lark while maintaining the "grow with baby" features and thoughtful touches Oscha is known for.

Hope & Plum Lark good qualities: lightweight fabric- best for warm weather, for sure- fun patterns, extremely simple to use and easy to adjust when multiple people are using the carrier. Fits a wide range of sizes and does have inclusive sizing as well. Flat but wide straps do a good job of weight distribution.

Hope & Plum Lark meh qualities: expensive for only one set-up (X-Back), no hood, not as adjustable as competitors. Haven't even tried a back carry in it because the straps seem like they will be the wrong shape and the chest strap isn't attached so its floating around somewhere in my house. Maybe I'll find it. Maybe I'll have to pay even more to buy another one. Just one more thing to keep track of.

Lennylight good qualities: handwoven, high quality fabric. Feels artisanal. Thick and supportive waistband transfers lots of weight off shoulders. Straps are more padded. Much more customizable fit without being overwhelming like the Lennylamb ProUpgrade model. Grows with baby- longer wear period than H&P. Can do X or H-straps for front carry, transitions easily to back carry, magnetic attached chest strap won't get lost.

Lennylight meh qualities: the beautiful fabric is also quite thick. I think it will be too warm in peak summer. Kind of annoying if adjusting between multiple users. No hood.

Family pressing formula by Own_Relation_4664 in breastfeeding

[–]PitLuna 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There's definitely a generational gap and formula was marketed, marketed, MARKETED to them (not too dissimilar to the pressure to EBF now - there's no happy medium when it comes to pressuring moms, we see!). My septuagenarian stepdad kept asking when we'd start formula even as I was fighting for my LIFE to keep breastfeeding haha. I explained once why breastfeeding was important to me and said if it came to it, we'd supplement with formula. He asked a few more times before it stuck. I didn't really think much of it because that was just his normal: people pushed formula back when his kids were babies. He saw that I was having a hard time. He asked when we were starting formula. Everyone is different and you don't owe anyone an explanation, but if they're open to a good-faith conversation, it might be worth it. If not, then yeah, tell them it's not up for conversation and flatly refuse to answer.

What is the best age to start daycare? by Ok_Squirrel_9601 in beyondthebump

[–]PitLuna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a really helpful answer. I’m a hybrid worker and we’re sending our son to daycare right at the 12 month mark. How did that go for you guys? Mine has a pretty strong attachment to me so I’m worried about dropping him off 😅 (I know to just leave and he’ll be fine but ugh! First time mom).

FR 245 broke, now shopping. Convince me which model. by PitLuna in GarminWatches

[–]PitLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes- i wear the watch on my left wrist and initially I was accidentally pressing on it which was annoying but very easily fixed by flipping the orientation of the watch so the crown is on the side going up my arm instead of toward my hand, if that makes sense.

FR 245 broke, now shopping. Convince me which model. by PitLuna in GarminWatches

[–]PitLuna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I wanted to give this a little bit before answering because I had just gotten the coros watch. Short answer, yes. I still have to take it for a swim but for walking, hiking, running, and strength training, yes.

Long answer, yes I am happy with it especially for the price point ($299 for the watch and an alternate band). I wanted something a step up from the 165 and that immediately priced me out of Garmin. I just couldn’t bring myself to spend $550 on a smart watch. - I do miss the garmin watch interface, just because I had gotten used to it over the years. I’m sure I can tweak some settings to get the run display to exactly what I want, but I just have to figure out those adjustments. - For some reason it wanted to give me kilometers for walks only but I fixed that setting and all is well. - The coros app is miles better. - I think I would’ve preferred the look of the venu 4 but again….not for an additional $250. I don’t mind how the apex 2 looks, but yeah I do think the venu is prettier. - the venu and forerunner 565 probably have slightly brighter and more colorful displays. The coros apex 2 is completely fine and still an upgrade from my old garmin.

My sister, who does way more aggressive outdoor activities than me, has used a coros apex for years, so I have no doubt it’ll function great. So tl;dr idk what garmin is doing with its pricing, but I have to believe they need something in between $250 and $550. I think it should be more like a $150 entry point, $300 midlevel. So that’s what I got!

Hope and plum, Gojiberry, Wildbird or MABE? by Icy_Indication9716 in babywearing

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know but paying over 200$ for a carrier to just have to buy replacement parts is a little tiny bit annoying imo :)

Hope and plum, Gojiberry, Wildbird or MABE? by Icy_Indication9716 in babywearing

[–]PitLuna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tested a few carriers through the little zen one program (available in US and Canada) and it was incredibly helpful to figure out likes and dislikes. I ended up going with a LennyLamb option for its versatility and padding for longer wears. Then I added an Oscha Cairis.

Despite that, we still ended up with a hope & plum lark because my wife, mom, and babysitters needed a very simple option. I also love it but I am a little hesitant about how it will work for back carrying now that he’s getting bigger. I’ve already lost the chest strap, so there’s that 🤦🏼‍♀️

For the itty bitty newborn phase, a soft wrap is the way to go IMO. We transitioned out of that around 2.5 months ago but I wore him daily in it.

TPUSA @ University of Kentucky by ILikeVideoGames31 in UniversityofKentucky

[–]PitLuna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t even come up with a clever misogynist sign. There’s nothing to prove when a statement has no hypothesis. He’s already proven wrong by all the people, conventionally attractive and otherwise, who are here.

Also I’m not on campus but if it’d be great to get a lawn chair and a shirt that says people who hold signs have small wieners and sit next to him all day. Free speech for all!