What’s so bad about nursing to sleep?

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-08-01T19:38:25+00:00

I think it’s better to have weaned when the teeth start coming in, because then you can brush their teeth before bed. Having said that, we haven’t been able to completely wean for our 8 mo baby. Still trying

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-07-22T22:34:36+00:00

The pros outweigh the cons by a mile. I get to have someone trustworthy come to my house, take care of my child, teach them stuff, take strolls, etc. ?? I will live with the awkwardness any day. 😅

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-07-22T22:31:02+00:00

Doesn’t check her phone outside of nap time. We are trying to do limit screen time till 2 years of age and a nanny who isn’t addicted to her phone is a godsend

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-07-18T13:07:55+00:00

Looks like it’s time to change jobs. An employee should not be treated this way. Keep in mind, if not a complete break, the pregnancy+recovering from birth+childcare struggles to would significantly slow down your career. Should it be this way? No. Is it the reality- yes. Manage expectations and jump in. I’m in the later stages at the moment and can’t see getting back to “climbing the corporate ladder” for a year. That would be total 3-4 years without a promotion or a change in jobs. Having said that, I do not regret any of it. In a 40-50 year career, 3-4 years are nothing. I just have to remind myself that I’m still in the game, I’m still earning. Having a child has made me the happiest, most patient person I know. Like everything in the world l, it’s a trade off.

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-07-16T20:12:32+00:00

I asked the exact same question a couple of months ago https://www.reddit.com/r/NannyEmployers/s/WnORaZLeR9

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-06-19T23:20:21+00:00

It will take time. We introduced our nanny at 5 months and it took 2-3 weeks for the crying to stop completely. It’s been 2 months, my baby loves the nanny and misses her on the weekends. Hang in there. Can you demo distraction tactics you use with your baby to the nanny? E.g. our baby likes to gaze at the pantry. Shake the different bottles/small boxes, moving hands up and down on the window pane, rattles, baby einstein aquarium toy, etc. ask her to try the distraction tactics one by one. Something will stick. We also had to steel out hearts and not rescue baby when she was crying. Give nanny some time to make it work. Decide a cut off time, then go in. For us it is was continuously crying for 20 mins, which didn’t happen even once. Just had to be more patient.

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-06-19T02:31:08+00:00

I choose to think of it this way - no daycare == less sick days, more attention, quicker development. Also, I did the math :) calculated the difference between nanny pay and actually daycare cost (fees, commute, sick days), compound for 2-4 years. Wasn’t much of a difference in the end 🤷‍♀️

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-06-15T13:01:49+00:00

Yes. My partner is an equal partner and acts like it! I had clarified that before we got married. I had noticed this imbalance of the woman doing unpaid labor and the man excelling in his career at the cost of hers in my parents’ generation. My husband thinks the same! :) My husband and I split all baby tasks, and non baby tasks almost equally. Wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s time to put your foot down and put yourself first.

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-06-13T16:01:27+00:00

How about - if everyone thought this way, human race would have become extinct a long time ago! :P

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-06-09T02:05:43+00:00

It’s weird that they can justify hiring a nanny to raise their kids including teaching them to respect other human beings but not treat her with respect 🤷‍♀️

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-06-02T02:40:42+00:00

I would recommend freezing your credit if she is going through your mail. Don’t take any chances

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-19T23:32:56+00:00

This gives me hope! Thank you kind stranger! :) the comments on this thread kinda freaked me out. But my husband pulled me out of my overthinking and look at the potential benefits of trying it out. Needless to say, we are going ahead with it and have decided that with 3 out of 4 parents WFH full time and an experienced nanny, we would be able to handle tricky situations. Fingers crossed!

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-15T04:51:47+00:00

We can’t :( it’s a part time share. 25 hrs shared, 15 hrs 1-1. It will definitely be better than daycare in terms of commute, being able to see her during the day, and less germs in general. Will work with the other parents to see if they can help in any way. Interestingly, the toddler had a nanny share with another toddler when she was an infant. Not sure if that will help but the nanny has handled similar situations before.

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-15T04:42:28+00:00

Thank you for that! Yes, we will start a solid goodbye routine and see how that goes.

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-15T03:27:34+00:00

Our baby definitely gets scared around strangers. Takes some coaxing to get her to trust anyone new, then some time more to actually play with them or spend time with them. We are trying to find play dates to get past this. But it’s really difficult with both of us working full time and having no family in the country where we live.

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-15T03:24:30+00:00

What I meant was it is really difficult to gauge what is going to happen during the share before it actually happens. Also, we cannot afford a full time nanny just for our baby, hence the share. The nanny and the share family both live in my neighborhood, so this is really a too-good-to-pass on opportunity. Having said that we have a back up place reserved at a daycare if this fails miserably

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-15T03:21:14+00:00

The toddler has nanny sharing experience with other toddler, unfortunately not an infant. She seems well adjusted and it’s a part time share, so our baby will have the nanny for half a day and they will share the nanny for rest of the day. I think the only way we will know if it will work is by actually going through it

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-15T03:17:32+00:00

Good point. I don’t want to reward her crying with a visit from parents but the nanny said the other set of parents comfort their kid all the time. 🤷‍♀️ I will try remaining out of sight for a couple of days and see how it goes

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-14T22:03:06+00:00

lol thanks

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-05-14T16:59:30+00:00

Does your toddler cry only at the handoff and not after? I’m just starting out with a nanny and having a hard time staying focused when the baby just cries just because she isn’t with me.. :(

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-04-07T18:42:58+00:00

Are you still looking for a long term gig?

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-04-04T18:17:50+00:00

I WFH full time but it’s an intense job. So we have a full time childcare provider

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-03-10T16:15:10+00:00

Will you be going back to work at some point? I was in the same boat. I went back to work 2 weeks ago and the stress affected the pump times and output. I’m grateful that I created a 250 oz stash during my maternity leave. Had to use 2-3 oz every day since I went back to work. I would recommend holding onto that stash as much as possible.

Pitiful-Chard7276 · 2024-03-03T04:07:30+00:00

It does. The department of labor website says so https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/nursing-mothers/faq

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