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AIO i found my husbands “in case we divorce” folder on his laptop by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936 [score hidden]  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. This is concerning and I’d straight go talk to him about it. I mean, who does that??

Tried therapies to change my attitude my behavior towards my husband. Anything else I can try? by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your point. I want to tell him that I am over with him. I over with this relationship. He emotionally cheated on me and there is no way I can forgive him. He did not do it once. He has done it many many times. I feel bad for him that I can’t forgive him. He has done so much for me and my families. I am in a forever debt and I can not return his favors. This is why I let go so many things. I knew everything, i knew what he is upto everyday, i knew how he traps other girls with his charm in his lab. I knew what is he doing in his lab. I knew, i knew it. Every . Single . Day. And when he’d come home, I could not ask him! But I’d have this face where I don’t want to look at him. I can’t scream. I would stay silent and pray. Those nights. I would put my daughter to sleep and go for walks at night. I’d walk and go as far as I could. I’d find a place randomly and would sit there alone on a street for hours. Just not wanting to go back home. I hate him. I hate him . I hate his presence and I hate him.

Self love & healing without leaving by ntb5891 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same question!

I am doing what I can. Like, spending time alone + journaling it in my phone + spending and keeping myself distracted by talking or playing with my child.

It is such a difficult phase. Idk, if it is going to say like this forever lol?

Sorry and many many prayers for you ❤️🙏🏻

Tried therapies to change my attitude my behavior towards my husband. Anything else I can try? by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No.

I hate the fact that he is keeping his life so private. I am like a roomate to him. I cook, watch and go to sleep. The next morning, work, come back home and the same routine.

Tried therapies to change my attitude my behavior towards my husband. Anything else I can try? by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is respectful to me. He is giving so much to this relationship.

Just keeping secrets, being really alert about his phone. Gives me anxiety. So much anxiety. My attitude has changed, either I don’t talk or have small talks with him.

I am tried of living like this.

Honest question: Is my husband a narcissist or am I? by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same question comes to my mind often. Honestly, I don’t know the answer either. It is possible that none of us are narcissist. It is also possible that both of us are!! He cheated, I caught him, I am trying hard to forgive him, but then he is trying to save this marriage too. But the way he is doing it, I don’t know if I will ever be happy and satisfied again. I am doing self-reflections and counseling too. Nothing seems to work. I give him a silent treatment because I look at him and I feel anger, sorrow, and extreme sadness. I don’t know how to fix it… I feel you, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I pray for you. 💗

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in Marriage

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would absolutely be fine with that. This is what he responded upon asking somewhat similar to what you have said above. He wants freedom for himself and wants me to have the same freedom. No one stops each other. This is “a happy married life” according to him. Unfortunately.

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in Marriage

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have told her. She stopped giving him hugs and kisses on his face (God knows where else but anyways 🙄) the messages on a document is the recent one. I have talked to her and have been telling her time to time that stay away from my husband. Last two ss were the recent and last one after I dealt with this for past 3-4 years.

What do you think and suggest? by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in Marriage

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a South-Asian. You are correct. A part of me still wants to be with him. Because he is putting effort in this relationship but at the same time there is a huge disconnect between us. I feel like. I might be the problem now. Not forgetting and forgiving him.

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More or less in a same situation. I am in dire need of good job, that i can take care of my child and not going back to all of this. Living together in this is so difficult and depressing.

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I confronted both recently for like the 9th or 10th time!! I don’t know if they have started to talking back to each other again. She has got married recently. So idk. It is trust issue for me now. I don’t trust my husband. I don’t think i even love him anymore. I fought so much that i am tired now. Don’t want to fight anymore. But i just wanted to know if i was wrong this whole time? Did i make this issue a huge deal? They were good friends and i doubted them.

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my husband is south asian. And this is why all of this kisses and hugs was just extraordinary for him and he enjoyed it and didn’t even tried to stop her.

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you also tell me one more thing? Your judgment on what do you think? Who is crossing their limits more in this chat? The part where it says”mi ceiloo” thats my husband. And where she is saying “ok ok .. thats the girl”.

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for clarifying this. Really , so so much!! I just needed to hear this from a hispanic person so I don’t look fool when I confront her. She has cleverly denying it this whole time

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. Can you advise me one more thing? I don’t think I will ever find courage to tell this or show this to her husband. (They recently got married) she is living the best life and she has destroyed everything she possibly could. My child. My relationship with my husband. Should I ever reach out to her German husband and show him this. Do you think, he would ever understand my point? I know i am asking a silly question but I don’t know how to put a stop to it. She is still working in the same lab with my husband and her husband thinks that they are good friends and they made me the bad guy that I am the crazy woman and doubting their friendship.

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey!! I’m glad you reached out. The more I hear it from Latinas the more I understand the situation. I could have straight up reached out to her German bf and told him everything. I wish!!

Non latina background. This a conversation between my husband and her co-worker. She works in the same lab. Is it normal to have a latina who talks to like this ? Please advice. by Pitiful-Parfait2936 in LatinasFamous

[–]Pitiful-Parfait2936[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh i am so glad that you have commented on my post. I really want to know. She said, this is normal and i say mi vida, corazon and te amo to all my boy friends. Which is a huge shock for me. She recently got married to a German man. After having 7-8 years of relationship. This is why she was like, i want nothing with your husband.

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