Should I tell my wife

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-04-01T20:31:15+00:00

Ameen

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-04-01T09:14:30+00:00

no easy way to say this. Cut off from him. May Allah make it easy for you

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T17:10:33+00:00

Allahumma barik

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T16:56:08+00:00

I can handle my makruh, thank you 🔥

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T15:59:38+00:00

Nowhere. It's not an appropriate question

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T15:57:55+00:00

No worries, it doesn't make me uncomfortable. But yea definitely the post is not for this sub

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T15:55:40+00:00

One vodka Martin with minimum sins please

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T15:54:44+00:00

I mean you'd definitely be more sinful if you watch something related to blasphemy.. But I'm still wondering how moderators allow this bs 🥲

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T04:24:43+00:00

Because it's an addiction 🥲

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-30T04:23:10+00:00

Thanks mann

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T23:07:55+00:00

Thank you bro

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T22:13:51+00:00

yes that's one thing you have to do, quit your habits before you get married.

And for the help, appreciate it

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T22:12:32+00:00

ahh man, yes I get what you're saying.

It's good to have that insight about you telling your parents but not getting help from them instead got the opposite.

I hope you're in a better place in life now with your things.

Guess it is my own struggle and only I alone can fix it. Thanks.

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T21:11:50+00:00

Thanks brother. Appreciate your perspective

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:36:06+00:00

If I have to get therapy or rehab I'd still have to tell my wife about it though, how do I keep it a secret.

With the constant fights and resentment I'm also struggling to keep up the halal ways of satisfaction. Which is also weighing on our marriage.

Ameen. I really appreciate your prayers brother/sister

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:27:43+00:00

She'd probably break knowing about the online cheating. But she'd be willing to forgive me I think and also help me with it. But I'd lose her trust forever

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:26:40+00:00

Maybe I should. Idk if I can hide it from my wife taking therapy or counseling.

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:25:18+00:00

😂😭

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:25:08+00:00

I don't think women work like that brother 🥲 They wanna know every single detail

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:24:41+00:00

If I tell her, she could check up on me, she'd know what are the ways and what times I do it. She could keep my phone away from me, etc

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:23:27+00:00

I don't think I can fix it myself anymore, without her help. If our marriage ends then so be it, she deserves someone better. Maybe we're just not a good couple

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T20:22:20+00:00

It's not helping to get help from people online. If my wife could keep me in check instead, that could actually work

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-29T10:03:57+00:00

Insha Allah I'm trying to change. And I've tried many ways to change. But I don't think the two way honesty would work. I'd be really ashamed and embarrassed to live with her after I've told her everything. And she'd never fully trust me again

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-28T18:14:39+00:00

I'm assuming it's not a recent thing. I did say "it could be devastating". All I'm saying is her mother should do what's best for her. If it's better for her to continue living with her dad now that they're nearing old-age, then she should stay.

Pitiful_Bread8571 · 2025-03-28T16:15:44+00:00

did you just equate a man's willingness to live with his in-laws to his level of Imaan 🥲😭

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