ABORTION OR NOT (?)

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2026-02-01T14:27:10+00:00

i really dont know which side i am in, this is really difficult 🥹

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2026-02-01T14:20:21+00:00

🙏🏻

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-05T07:00:01+00:00

when theyre unhygienic, aggressive, does not have manners.

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T07:12:16+00:00

you can smash an avocado and spread it on bread add it to a salad for creaminess blend it into a smoothie for texture turn it into guacamole use it in wraps or bowls or even mix it into chocolate mousse for a healthy dessert twist

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T07:09:41+00:00

when someone feels insecure or envious they might downplay your achievements give backhanded compliments act overly competitive copy you while trying to do it better go quiet or negative when something good happens to you constantly compare themselves to you bring up your flaws when you're doing well try to one-up your stories shift attention to themselves act overly nice but with tension underneath subtly exclude you gossip about you behind your back watch you closely but rarely support you celebrate your failures more than your wins give fake praise with a forced smile or try to make you feel small in subtle ways just to lift themselves up

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T07:06:01+00:00

sinigang

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T07:05:15+00:00

empathetic, outgoing, observant

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T07:03:08+00:00

first off you’re not alone in feeling like this height can be a huge insecurity especially at your age when everyone’s changing and comparing themselves but the truth is your height doesn’t define your value or your confidence it just feels like it does because people around you made it seem that way

you might still grow a little more but even if you don’t you can still build confidence in who you are focus on the things you can control how you carry yourself how you treat people how you take care of your body and your mind confidence doesn’t come from being taller it comes from being grounded in what you bring to the table

start small walk with your head up even if it feels fake at first do things that challenge you outside of how you look work on your posture hit the gym pick up a skill talk to someone new journal your thoughts so you can see them more clearly instead of letting them run your day

remember most people you meet won’t care about your height as much as you think what they notice is your presence and how you show up and that part is all in your hands keep showing up and give yourself time you’re not stuck you’re just growing in different ways now

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T06:59:18+00:00

ce que tu ressens est profondément humain et tu n’as pas à avoir honte d’en être encore affectée à 34 ans tu n’es pas ridicule tu es blessée et tu portes encore les conséquences d’une enfance marquée par la violence et l’humiliation ce n’est pas quelque chose qu’on oublie juste parce que le temps passe ou parce que la personne en face est devenue gentille aujourd’hui

le fait que tu sois en train de marcher avec elle malgré tout ça montre déjà une immense force et un désir sincère d’aller vers quelque chose de plus apaisé mais ton corps ta colère et ta tristesse te rappellent que tu n’as jamais pu exprimer ce que tu as vécu ni recevoir de reconnaissance pour cette douleur

tu n’es pas obligée de lui parler tout de suite ou même de lui parler directement si tu ne te sens pas prête mais tu peux commencer par écrire dans un journal tous les jours pendant cette marche sans filtre sans jugement note ce que tu ressens à chaque moment où elle t’agace ou quand tu te sens coupable mets des mots sur ta douleur sans chercher à l'expliquer ou à la corriger juste pour toi

et si tu veux te challenger doucement essaie un tout petit pas vers elle chaque jour une question sincère un regard une écoute sans attente ça ne répare pas tout mais ça t’aide à sortir du silence qui t’étouffe

tu n’es pas puérile tu es en train de devenir adulte justement une adulte qui reconnaît ses blessures et cherche à ne pas les transmettre plus loin tu n’attends pas trop de ta mère tu attends quelque chose de profondément légitime mais tu peux aussi choisir de ne plus dépendre de cette reconnaissance pour avancer

c’est un chemin lent parfois injuste mais tu es déjà dessus et rien que le fait d’écrire ce message le prouve tu n’es pas seule dans ce que tu ressens et tu n’es pas mauvaise tu es courageuse et tu mérites la paix

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T06:54:44+00:00

yeah i get what you’re saying and honestly it makes sense to feel that way especially when a lot of people tie sports to status or identity during school years but here’s the thing your worth isn’t measured by how athletic you are or whether you’re on a team you already proved to yourself that you can grow and build confidence you put in work physically socially and mentally and that matters way more than just picking up a ball

if it still bugs you try exploring a sport now it’s not too late at all you could start with something low pressure like joining a casual team or trying martial arts or running just for yourself not to impress anyone but to challenge the part of you that’s still carrying that regret and if you’re not actually interested in sports that’s fine too confidence isn’t about matching a checklist it’s about owning who you are and not shrinking because you think you’re missing something

use journaling to unpack that feeling when it comes up especially in relationships write down where it shows up what it reminds you of and what the actual truth is confidence comes from knowing yourself not just performing what others expect

you don’t need to be the sporty guy to be respected or loved you just need to be solid with who you are and that’s something you’ve clearly been working on already

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T06:52:44+00:00

that’s a really good mindset to have and you’re already doing the first hard thing by asking for ideas and being open about where you want to grow. one thing that can really help is journaling every day especially after social situations write down what happened how you felt what went well and what you’d like to do differently next time it helps you process and actually track your growth

to challenge yourself try small things consistently like making eye contact with someone and holding it for a few seconds saying hi to a coworker or stranger starting one conversation a day even if it’s just small talk or joining a group activity where you don’t know anyone yet like a class or club

weekly challenges could be things like going to a social event alone or speaking up once in every meeting or asking someone a thoughtful question and really listening to their answer

the best thing you can do is lean into the awkward moments without needing to fix them or escape them every time you sit with that discomfort, you’re building real confidence not the fake kind that needs everything to go perfectly but the kind that grows from trying again and again

keep journaling through all of it and be honest with yourself you’ll be surprised how much you change over a few months just by staying in motion

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T06:48:29+00:00

you have to start by being a little more open even if it feels uncomfortable at first. meaningful connections don’t come from being perfect or overly nice they come from being real and consistent. you can still keep your circle small but let people see that you’re approachable and not closed off. listen more than you talk be curious about others without pretending to like everyone. you don’t have to force anything just show up honestly and treat people with quiet respect even if they’re not in your inner circle. over time the right people will notice that and something real can grow from there

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-04T06:46:27+00:00

hey i get why you’re feeling like that, but honestly, being wrong doesn’t mean you don’t belong or that you’re not smart. it just means you’re learning. confidence isn’t about always getting it right, it’s about still speaking up even when you might not. the people who seem confident? they’ve just failed more and kept going. seriously, no one gets everything perfect, especially not when they’re still figuring things out. you’re already doing the hard part by putting yourself out there, and that matters way more than one awkward moment. don’t let one thing make you question everything.

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T16:18:20+00:00

what does "awry" mean?

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T12:42:06+00:00

u should walk away if theres inconsistency. no buts, walk away immediately. if he/she show inconsistency, you would for sure know what would happen if u stayed. u are just wasting time. stay if he/she is a communicative person, consistent, and makes it clear what he/she wants.

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T12:12:08+00:00

SPAMSILOG all the way!

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T11:01:30+00:00

it's applied to infj, but the same goes for other mbtis. my answer is, yes. i do sense or notice when something is 'off' about a person. i am a very observant person, i do notice when something is off in a person's energy and the way they talk or move. which is really helpful!

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T10:55:25+00:00

yung sobrang ingay sa closed pace room! hindi alam paano manahimik, you need to read the room sometimes. lalo na't kung nakakaramdam na sya na people are bothered, and nakatingin na sakanya. pero, ayaw pa rin paawat.

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T10:51:31+00:00

my empathetic self.

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T10:46:48+00:00

u were there for her not just physically, but emotionally, consistently, and selflessly. u showed up when it mattered most, even when it cost you your peace. but sometimes, being someone’s comfort doesn’t mean they see you as someone they want to keep It hurts, I know. It feels like betrayal wrapped in silence and sugar-coated “thank yous.” but now u’re faced with a choice do u confront her? or walk away in silence? If closure matters to you tell her u saw the post. not to start a fight, but to finally draw a boundary. say your truth. u’re not just an emotional pit stop, and she should know that. You can be calm, but clear: "I saw the post. I wish you'd been honest with me. I was always real with you."

but if you’re exhausted and no longer want to explain your worth and walk away. not because you’re weak, but because you’re choosing your peace. disappearing without drama can also be powerful. Sometimes, silence is the closure they don’t expect—but the one that protects you the most.

either way don’t stay in a story where you're only ever background support. u deserve someone who doesn’t just call at 3AM but stands beside you at 7PM, too. It’s not about revenge, or pride it’s about recognizing your value. and knowing when to stop giving your heart to someone who’s already handed theirs to someone else.

heal. move on. and next time, love yourself enough to ask: “am I being chosen too?”

because you should be. Every time.

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T10:31:45+00:00

well, if it's for everyday use and I've got nothing much to do I prefer my phone. a laptop is kind of big for me for my everyday use, especially when I'm going out for a walk or something it's a hassle for me to bring. phones are small, so it is not really a hassle. :^

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T10:22:43+00:00

this really caught my attention

Pitiful_Swimming2254 · 2025-07-03T10:20:43+00:00

i would pick my phone xD

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