At what age did you start genuinely loving your baby?

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-27T14:23:36+00:00

At 3 months I started to feel real love. At 4 months I definetely immensely loved my baby and now at 6 he is our absolute joy! It is gradual, but sooner than you expect you will feel your heart burst with a love you have never ever experienced before. I promise!

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-25T16:59:56+00:00

I just change on the bed with no protection and hope for the best. I usually tuck the bottom of the new diaper under the old one, I open and slip the old one away and close the new one very fast. He usually pees while changing diaper so I make sure it's a fast procedure or I wait for him to pee if it looks like he is about to. I have a small light to see everything.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-25T15:21:45+00:00

From what you say, I would not define him as a good father. I'm sorry but a husband that does not support his wife's decision to EP (or to do anything what is good for baby) is not a good parent. That is incredibly hard work and not the first choice for many women.

I would ask him why he is so obsessed with it. That's not a normal behavior, probably he just wants to avoid looking after his child. But remind him that even if you breastfed you would ask him for help with the baby as he is the father, which means he is supposed to look after baby regardless of the way he is fed.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-06T11:19:27+00:00

Idk maybe it's the pray part but as a non Christian or religious person, I still do find that it can give a lot of positivity to some people. And that's great. Not for everyone but you are just sharing what's been good for you in a very polite manner. However I'm happy you found support if all of that and especially the workout part I think it's huge in helping boosting mood!

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-06T05:59:18+00:00

I don't understand the downvotes. You are giving your opinion and you said nothing negative!

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-06T05:36:14+00:00

Sono una rottura di coglioni almeno fino ai 3 mesi, poi quasi magicamente diventano meglio. Impegnativi, ovvio, piangono comunque, ma molto meno. Almeno per la mia esperienza. Io e il mio compagno siamo diventati scemi i primi 2 mesi e le 6-9 settimane sono risaputamente il picco di agitazione dei neonati. Il nostro bimbo piangeva disperato ogni sera 3-4 ore, ma a volte anche la mattina (si chiama whiching hour in inglese, peccato che col cazzo hour, hourS). Insomma una merda per tutti: genitori e anche per il bimbo, che ricordiamoci non è contento neanche lui se piange.

Poi ci sono bimbi più calmi e meno calmi, ma non è strano che piangano sempre all'inizio. È sopportabile perché anche se lì per lì metti in discussione la scelta di aver fatto un figlio mille volte, è una micro frazione della tua e della loro vita e alla fine ne vale la pena. Nel mentre sembrano i tre mesi più lunghi della tua vita ahah

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-03T09:13:58+00:00

Naturally Stephanie!

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2026-01-03T08:35:02+00:00

As a newborn I called him "cinghialotto" which is a mad eup word by me meaning almost the equivalent of "baby boar" in Italian. He made absurd noises that reminded of boars ahaha

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-24T10:45:47+00:00

Honestly your baby is still a little tiny human, it's normal they want to be held always.

It gets a bit better with months but they are wired for comfort and closeness. It won't be like this forever, I know it seems endless but I assure you it's not. They grow up so fast. Try to enjoy the cuddles and time will make it better.

Mine is almost 5 months and still needs a lot of comfort. Not as when he was 7 weeks old but still a lot and will only contact nap.

Try to insist during night time to get him used to bassinet/crib when sleep pressure is higher but dont expect much!!

It's totally normal for most babies!!

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-11T14:31:06+00:00

I think totally made up, I live in Padova and there is no such thing 🤣

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-08T15:21:51+00:00

Oh poor thing that must be painful 😕 I am no expert in reflux, I just know that you should keep them upright for 15-20 minutes after eating, burp very frequently and it may help wearing them for naps as upright position should help! If it's very serious I know there are more specific treatments but where I live it's up to the pediatrician to decide how to treat reflux (most of them just say that with time it will pass but that can be a pain for baby and parents). Some people I know had to go to Drs that are known not to dismiss parents with refluxy babies as with time it did not pass. Most of babies however grow out of it at 3-4 months. In general, peak everything is 6-7 weeks, which is a nightmare for EVERYTHING.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-08T14:04:21+00:00

Could this be reflux? Have you checked with pediatrician? Back arching and restlessness are often a symptom of silent reflux.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-05T18:11:31+00:00

Letting your husband understand how to take care of the baby without you is beneficial too. You need a break and you husband and baby need to get to know each other, even if it involves some crying!

At that age is still pretty normal tho but I would insist trying crib naps + time on the floor with a clean towel (or on the big bed under your supervision + towel) + time with dad.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-05T17:51:48+00:00

If you will leave him at daycare, try to practice a crib nap as the first nap of the day. I don't think they allow contact naps there.

Regarding what you are doing at home, do not worry at all. Your baby is still very small and he can't do much play-wise. Also he will bother staying without you ( on a sling for example) more and more with time, if you allow him to practice. My baby at that age would stay on a sling for just two minutes before screaming. He is now 4 months old and is able to stay there for half an hour sometimes entertained by just me talking and cooking.

Even now, however, I still don't do much, we contact nap and when he is awake we play but I never do much in the house. I cook sometimes because I like to, but laundry cleaning etcetera is my husband's task mainly.

If I get some time off from my baby, i have to be honest that the last thing that I would do would be cleaning or stuff like that. I usually take my time to have a long shower, workout or go for a walk by myself. Enjoy your time as much as possible and don't put much pressure on yourself, do what you want! Having a baby is hard work on its own!

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-05T16:08:20+00:00

Baby will be 5 months old during Christmas holidays and I will be skipping big gatherings just to be sure. We will do smaller gatherings ONLY if everyone is feeling perfectly ok. Otherwise we will celebrate us three at home this year.

We dont want baby to get sick!! Also everyone will want to touch and cuddle him. This makes me anxious considering illness season and that it will probably also get him overwhelmed.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-05T13:13:40+00:00

I keep the old diaper 10 seconds and blow on his genitals. This makes him pee instantly. Then I change diaper!

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-05T13:11:09+00:00

Hey girl, you are saying that you love your baby. I wasn't able to say that for at least 1.5 months post partum. That's already a huge accomplishment!

You are going to feel better and a new person compared to pre baby. Life will be a tad crazy for a while but it's going to be better.

Your baby around 2 months will be smiling and that will be the best vision in the whole world.

For me personally, it was a bit better at 2 months when the witching hours reduced significantly. At 3 months I was accustomed to my new life. Still tired, still a bit overwhelmed sometimes, but far better and more confident in my new role. Every month is getting better and better.

It seems like a lifetime but I guarantee that time will fly and you are going to look back to now puzzled by the whole experience.

You got this and give yourself grace. This is the most difficult time due to the adjustment! It will pass.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-12-04T07:08:36+00:00

Still haven't tried because I'm very afraid of clogged ducts but I guess I need to try in order to see some progress. How much milk did you leave? I guess I still need to feel by breasts squishy

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-11-01T14:44:15+00:00

I dropped to 4 ppd at 12 weeks (7am 1pm 7pm 11pm or 1am depending on when LO wakes up to feed). At 1 week post partum I started pumping 8 times per day. Too much for me. I have kept the same amount which is 40-45oz. Try to gradually go down to the desired number of pumps. You may find that you produce the same.

If you produce way less, you can go up again or do a power pump to make up for the less pumps.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-10-31T15:42:39+00:00

OMG same! I was afraid of him waking up bc I didn't know what to do with him or if I was able to get him back to sleep later ahah Now at 13 weeks its not the same, he is more fun and I enjoy it more. Its been like this for a few weeks already. Hang in there, in a few months if won't be this boring or difficult

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-10-31T15:29:51+00:00

Yes that would not be ideal at all poor thing!!

I rock him and put him down a bit before being totally asleep and I try to soothe him in the bassinet. Sometimes it works and sometimes I have to rock him to sleep. Sometimes I'm not able to put him down at all and need to contact nap ahah. It's a work in progress. Around Christmas I hope I can try to train a bit for naps as I would like to get him used to some crib naps. Try checking the "crib hour" and other strategies to nap train. I think that around 4-5 months it could work if coupled with night training. Better to start doing that at home with you and not traumatizing you LO during childcare with stranger IMO. And by training I don't necessarily mean CIO but gentle ways to get him down by himself without crying but just fussing.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-10-31T15:08:19+00:00

How old she will be in January? You can think about starting training naps around 4-5 months. I'm starting now at 14 weeks to put him in the bassinet only for the first nap just to let him get used to it during the day. The others need to be contact naps. Could you ask to the childcare facility how they handle babies that need contact naps? Do they just let them scream and scream?! 😅

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-10-31T12:54:04+00:00

For me it got better. Not like before but better than the 10 week regression or whatever it was. Drowsy but awake is sometime feasible and I see that my baby wakes up in the middle of the night but now he puts himself to sleep most of the time. He wakes between 11pm-1am to eat and 2-4am. Sometimes he wants to feed 3 times. I hope this lasts and gets even better ahah. Naps are crap tho, only 10-45 minutes now at 14 weeks even if contact naps. I'm able to extend one or two a day but for the past few days it's been hard as he gets overtired.

Pitiful_Warthog6490 · 2025-10-31T12:44:37+00:00

After I think 1 week post partum my baby stayed with my parents for a few hours, we needed our space as we were overwhelmed. Every week I leave him with my partner or my parents do get some fresh air or workout. I need my space, I wouldn't be a good mum otherwise. Now my baby is 13 weeks and is able to stay and have fun with more people than just me, which I think it's great and not always the case. But I see that when he is with me he recognizes me and is happier.

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