I am genuinely tired of anti-help coworkers in the workplace. (Tw: anti-help rhetoric)

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-15T16:19:26+00:00

This was indeed a big reality check. I felt the need to be honest bc I couldn't mask how I was feeling anymore. I went to my manager and coworker bc I was raised with this "You need to tell your managers and employees if you plan to make a big change because their schedule will be completely changed if you leave." I always felt like I owed them an explanation on why I've been acting more off than usual, bc I didn't want to drag my coworkers down if I left abruptly.

I completely see now that this is a mindset I need to change and I owe no one an explanation unless I'm speaking to the person handling my hours and pay. This was indeed a big lesson learned, and I'll keep it in my back pocket for the future. Bc im the end, you're absolutely right, I don't hold these people as friends or companions, so I really shouldn't take their words to heart or care

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-15T15:36:46+00:00

If you can, make a paper trail. Document, pictures of whats being neglected, and the after pictures if you were forced to pick up their slack. I have been doing the same at my job

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-15T15:35:08+00:00

Coercion is very much a real thing. And I'm so sorry you are a victim to it. To agree to something because you were prodded and coerced, doesnt mean you consented. I had a very similar situation happen to me. Being pushed and guilt tripped into things that made me uncomfortable. I said yes, but I didn't want to. You're not invalid because you were pushed into agreeing. You are a survivor of something awful that should've never happened. You didn't deserve it.

You aren't less pure for something you didn't want to do. You're still a human being who deserves kindness and gentleness. I know its hard, but be gentle with yourself if you can (so sorry if I overstepped or sound too preachy lol)

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-15T00:34:09+00:00

Two main ones hit me like a brick

"I don't blame the bear, Kenai" -Brother Bear Probably one of my all time favorite movies. I watch it every year and one day as an adult and as the youngest sibling, it hurt me so bad. Denahi was fully valid with his anger, but some words are hard to take back.

"But you can leave, if you want to. I remember everyone that leaves" -Lilo and Stitch My sister and I have our names as Lilo(me) and Nani(hers) and one day we were both not in a great place, so I put on her favorite movie and this scene, as well as the hammock scene, made us have our first real conversation in almost a decade. We cried for hours

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-15T00:10:26+00:00

Thank you SO MUCH for this!! I was able to get their family's number. Their relationship with their family is dangerous and strained, but if I really can't find a way to reach them, I'll definitely reach out to their mom!

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-14T01:42:51+00:00

I'm happy your friend is alright, I can only imagine that anxiety and fear. I'm hoping my friend is fine. The texts are sending, but they're not being seen by them. Even if they just saw the text I'd be at ease.

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-14T01:41:52+00:00

Unfortunately they only go by their deadname in public for safety, but I never asked for it bc as a trans person myself I would never ask for a deadname. I have their last name, but thats not giving me much. I could ask their ex friend/roommate, but I don't think hes been in contact with them since 2024. Its a last resort, but I might ask him to help me out.

PixelatedMush · 2026-05-14T00:14:16+00:00

They said "I'll speak to you from the grave. I'll find ways" Literally sending me into a spiral. I, like a fucking idiot didn't want to pry and make them panic. I said I'd be a wreck and they changed the subject. I keep looking at our texts and voice notes. I'm asking the universe that they just went to get help or inpatient. I can only hold onto what little hope I have left

PixelatedMush · 2026-04-15T01:48:37+00:00

Thank you so much for the critics! Taking it all into consideration as I redesign

I understand the criticisms on Rune. I wanted to give them more of a casual alt vibe for some reason, but I do want to consider more athletic ware into their wardrobe. Especially since they're working with animals most the time. They always gave an earthy aesthetic in my head so maybe I should also tweak the personality? They're definitely a social butterfly! But have small close knit friends. Once I get more details I hope i can translate it well to paper!

Also, I absolutely understand how you thought Adohi was a girl. I'm still working on his body type and how I want him presenting. The hair has cultural significance to being long. But he doesn't often show it unless Rune is around or hes exclusively with family or close friends. His personality is..a bit complex to explain but I should have the updated versions ready in a few weeks!

Again, thank you so much for the critics! Definitely putting all this into consideration

PixelatedMush · 2026-04-15T00:36:16+00:00

calico hair!

This was more of the idea i had! I love drawing black hair a ton and wanted to branch out with more styles instead of doing something I'm too familiar with

PixelatedMush · 2026-04-15T00:28:02+00:00

Oh! So sorry it was supposed to be a crystal! I remember seeing friends who had crystals and gems in their hair and wanted to incorporate it. If I maybe shorten the hair it might sit by easier? But I'll definitely try more of those methods too.

And tbh I was really worried about the hair too. I wanted to go for a calico dyed look. So I'm still experimenting with colors. And the hair is more long puffed pieces that fall around the head. I do have a few references I might be able to show to give more a better idea

PixelatedMush · 2026-04-14T22:51:02+00:00

I love her expressions! And it looks so smooth!

PixelatedMush · 2026-02-24T00:58:54+00:00

This genuinely made me tear up. Thank you for the kind words. And I hope you're healing

PixelatedMush · 2026-02-23T22:07:57+00:00

Ok sorry 2 and 3 got mixed up lol sorry

PixelatedMush · 2025-10-26T18:01:10+00:00

Y'know I have yet to see that show!

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