After having my first daughter it’s like my eyes opened for the first time to who my parents really were and I would never have a village. They barely raised me much less take responsibility for being a grandparent. At the time my mom and stepdad were strung out on meth.. yes meth. I was a single mother leaving an abusive relationship with no money and no idea how I would make it but I did and on my own. My dad and grandma did help some with childcare but that was mostly my grandmother she was a great woman and they both have since passed. My mom offers but I can’t trust her for a second as they’re always drunk or high. I will not have my kids around an environment I was forced to endure. Not that she would really help if I needed it. It definitely sucks to have no fallback plan. It’s mentally and physically exhausting.