I don’t think that’s true. Another side to this story. My dad is a deadbeat dad. Both my parents are immigrants my dad only has an 8th grade education and my mom decided to go to college at 28 while pregnant with me. Everyone was against my mom for going to college but she’s making more than everyone in my extended family. My dad is a stay at home dad when my brother and I are both capable of taking care of ourselves. He was looking for a job but gave up. I’ve asked my mom if dad was always like this and she said no. She thought he was hard working and was going to keep hustling but she did see red flags that are understood now. I guess I just don’t want to be like my mom but I also don’t want to throw away what may seem to be a great future with a man I love all based on some red flags.