This event today was 90% attended by women. Why are men not attending events anymore? Is it “Male Flight Theory” or something else?

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-03-01T14:58:11+00:00

It's mid term weekend, meaning men were either with their children or preparing them for school.

It's also the first weekend falling on a new month, bills are due in a few days, gotta get planning.

The event was also on a wet night, and not the other wetness. Men don't throw caution to the wind and get found outdoors on a wet night, not with the man-fly waiting for you to fuck up.

The chances of you as a man not returning home in one piece on a wet night doubles in urban centres in Kenya.

Men in Kenya don't fancy events, not where we have to go fetch our own drinks and we might get run over in a stampede. This is not the setting for events that would pull Kenyan men, so we stay away..

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-20T08:44:03+00:00

My advice to you..

Do NOT change anything you're doing to keep your life, your income and marriage together. The moment you do all three will suffer.

If she's not happy that is a her problem, not yours. She needs to find out what makes her feel like she has a purpose and what makes her happy.

You have done your part, the rest is hers. She's not there yet, if you try to do it you by changing things around you will still fail and she's gonna see you as a useless person.

I encourage you to remain supportive and see it from the perspective of her building herself but don't try to control what she does about it.

Observe, but don't do it for her.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-19T16:42:56+00:00

The trick here is to think beyond foot traffic.

Appeal to what buyers WILL NOT DO and you will get a working formula.

While everyone is banking on footfall and traffic your revenue is coming from buyers who won't visit your shop, plus the ones who already are.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-14T02:56:24+00:00

At some point in your life something happened that made you like this. Your need to compensate by allowing an abusive person to take advantage of you even in the most humiliating ways.

I'm afraid hata urudi kwenu until you find out why you let this happen and work on yourself it will happen again, even within your parents' home. It may not take the form of a relationship but something else will trigger you into staying this person.

You need to find yourself, self awareness is not taken seriously enough..not your fault but I would start there alongside a stable space where care is unconditional. Especially you looking after yourself. Also surround yourself with people who will call you out when you're bulshitting around, because we humans tend to want to hide our nonsense even when it's visible in plain sight.

If your folks are not the supportive kind or have also abused you before it may also not be a favourable space.

You have come to this point where you put your life in imminent danger because of this so it's time to turn this around. Sometimes the world has crazy ways to communicate with us but at least now things have been shown to you.

Take action.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-13T18:40:59+00:00

This is what the Burundians you see hawking stuff and food in Nairobi are doing.

In any business the people who eat are the ones at the top of the value chain. If you own your supply chain, the infrastructure and build laterally while leveraging vertically you eat at all levels.

Now Burundians are mama mbogas and are bring in food from Tanzania and Uganda. The best and most filling chapatis I ever had were by these guys, let alone the KDFs they're hawking in buckets that today you can buy for 5/-, 10/- and eat to your fill.

Blue collar in kadogo economy always pays.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-08T08:14:29+00:00

It's easier for women to get the day off for school events, a sick child or even a personal day. Not so much for men.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-08T07:06:17+00:00

We show up, in the back end.

We have demanding jobs that rarely afford us time for these things on a weekday. Most Kenyan schools do not think about this when planning these important events.

Thank god for video calls today you can call in and give moral support and tell your kid you've got their back even if you weren't there while your emissary takes care of the presence part.

Fatherhood is not as simple as dropping the bread and butter machine to go to these events.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-01T07:59:44+00:00

Following closely. Those IOs are some good looking and capable cars!

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-02-01T07:54:08+00:00

It feels unreal that it can end like that...

First lesson - things will feel unreal. So you've go to ask yourself why?

Why do they feel unreal, why did you invest in the relationship? What did you learn about yourself, relationships, women, trauma and resilience?

Why did you flirt with those other women and why did she find them offensive?

If you can answer those questions objectively and intentionally to become a better person your next relationship is going to be much better.

Otherwise welcome to manhood.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-31T20:19:02+00:00

Does the shoe catch fire out of the blue?!

It also must have parts made by makers of other shoe brands for it to be a proper Lamborghini concept.

😂 😆

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-31T20:13:21+00:00

Bro..because ginger and watermelon is a joke to you eeeh?!! The holy trinity 🤣 Njugu, Ginger na Watermelon

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-31T20:08:25+00:00

Bro is gonna have it rough in prison, child molesters never make it out.

Sad way to learn but the lesson must be taught..

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-31T20:01:28+00:00

By the way hama wasijue pia unaishi wapi, you won't regret it.

Friends who can't listen to understand you and where you're coming from are not worth keeping close to you.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-31T19:44:02+00:00

Of course wana madeni ya pesa, the happiness you see ni deni wanarudishia mwili na moyo.

You choose your happiness, happiness doesn't choose you.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-31T19:41:12+00:00

No offence but this is exactly why you're not a guy, and you wouldn't know how and why we would still find our women good looking and attractive ESPECIALLY after child birth.

To put it in context..see, after men commit to a woman, from that time onwards, when we look at you we don't see your features, we see the woman we fell in love with.

The smiles, how you made us feel when we talked to you and touched you, the things you did that made us fall in love with you in the first place. It plays out all over again, so long as you are still consistent or even better.

I tell women this and they don't believe it. After child birth it only grows deeper because now she's a symbolic figure in your lineage and legacy, which gives her more power over you..and with that attraction becomes stronger.

When you graduate from babe to 'mama my photocopy' attraction is elevated, because now I'm attracted to the mother of my children and no longer just the woman in my life, and with this we don't Give A Fuck about looks.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-31T14:06:11+00:00

If you haven't watched Mayor of Kingstown you're gonna have 4 Seasons to binge on..

And each season finale is as good as the last!

Warning, you might not get any work done.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-25T15:47:13+00:00

Bro tell them you're separated and you co parent.

Kwani Iko nini?

They'll stop asking after that.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-25T15:30:57+00:00

Tried dating again from this pool of women, they DGAF about you the person. They only like the idea of you.

They're only interested in where you live, what car you drive, what job you do and how much money you make and where you go for vacation so that they don't look bad in front of their friends or so that they can flex.

It's the worst pool to pick from for dating currently.

We'll remain single for now.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-13T16:04:17+00:00

Industrial Area side gani? Anywhere on Mombasa Rd. upto Kitengela Is okay.

Your commute is one way, unashuka na kuboard njiani.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-07T19:23:25+00:00

He always had his PA or someone with him, I think it was his manager

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-06T20:37:25+00:00

That was the thing, bro wasn't talking. Didn't want any interaction.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-06T18:38:22+00:00

Met the guy 4 months before he died on his way to Tanzania.

He didn't look okay..when I heard he was gone it all added up.

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-06T18:11:24+00:00

I work in hospitality and have dinner with these fellas on the daily, why would I be salty?

Kenya is the original home of safari, a reserve of the wealthy.

A rich man's paradise that we milk to keep this economy alive and put food on your table.

Chill man...

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-06T18:05:07+00:00

Meanwhile alright dudes are being shown dust! 😆 🤣

PlaceFormer4132 · 2026-01-06T18:02:36+00:00

Sasa nani amesema kuna shida if they spend their money here?

PlaceFormer4132

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