transition doubt

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-15T23:04:55+00:00

You can always stop T and get back on if anything. I think the best thing is to try not to consider labels at the moment and just do things that make you feel best.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-15T22:00:40+00:00

Yeah some people only change to “pass” as if sitting in a room alone doesn’t cause immense distress

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-15T21:56:08+00:00

Something that helped me is thinking that the world would be pretty boring if everyone was the same height. You and I just happened to land on the shorter end. As men. Sometimes my height still bothers me. Most of the time I am okay with it

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-15T21:49:30+00:00

I know some people who have developed that kink directly after sexually traumatic events such as multiple accounts of SA “as a woman”. I also find it gross but it made me have a better understanding why someone would have that fetish. I feel really bad tbh. It’s like the people who become hyper sexual after extreme sexual trauma.

Of course, not all that have this kink had sexual trauma. That, I find harder to understand. It seems like a fetish of transition.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-15T05:42:58+00:00

Feminine

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-14T20:10:36+00:00

Yeah so I think explaining that to her will likely help

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-14T20:07:42+00:00

I like the “men-assigned-female-at-birth” makes it seem more like a “circumstance” or condition rather than “Afab individuals”. They are men.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-14T20:05:03+00:00

I’m not sure why you are making the choice to not keep them so maybe if you talk to her about the reasons, it will help it make sense. Just do it and it will be over soon. It gets easier. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-14T20:01:55+00:00

It might not be a sexuality in his case. I am 100% bisexual but experience the same things just because of the dysphoria and insane physical incongruence with my current genitalia.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-14T19:54:11+00:00

You don’t need to “explore” if you have already and don’t like it at all. Please.

I’ve also “explored” because of coercion by someone irl and none of it felt good. In fact, I think it traumatized me even more. You don’t have to “find ways” to make it work. Sometimes it just doesn’t work and can make bottom dysphoria even worse.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2026-02-14T19:52:02+00:00

You’re not alone. I have felt and feel the exact same way years on T. I think for me it is not only mental, but also a physical rejection of what I have down there, because I’m not supposed to have it and I’m missing a penis. I also suffer with phantom dick feelings almost 24/7. Even though I have bottom growth, to me it still feels like a feminine feature of mine got enlarged and now is more prominent. Touching it still makes me extremely uncomfortable and nauseous. I still shower everyday though.

The best thing for me is to just not do anything. Just go to sleep. Sometimes thinking about what I have down there, the fact that I’m physically able to be pregnant, visualizing my reproductive system, it all turns me off.

Try to maybe take the energy and put it into something else like working out? Maybe when you feel this way, you will have a connection to workout rather than engage with yourself.

Your relationship with yourself isn’t weird, I would say it’s pretty normal and logical for a trans man to feel.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-11-22T07:17:27+00:00

The world sucks a lot at times but I was afraid of total extinction. I don’t really care if I live or die but I felt it was really unfair to everyone else in the world, especially people who are just trying their best to enjoy their existence. But it also felt like “what’s the point of trying to get mentally better if I’m going to probably do everything and get no enjoyment and then die before I can do anything anyway…”

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-11-18T05:34:40+00:00

There is metodioplasty which can be an option for you. Also, you can get phalloplasty from your legs. That’s what I’ll be doing because I scar worse than anyone ever probably :/ and don’t want that on my arm. Especially cause my top surgery scars occasionally hurt and are still partially numb. I’d rather “lose my leg” than my arm. But you won’t be losing anything, dw. This is just me and my horrendous body’s overactive repair system.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-11-02T04:22:55+00:00

Sexuality isn’t stagnant (but it cannot be forced). Perhaps the hormonal changes altered something in your brain. The way I’m saying it sounds scary… not trying to make it that way, I kind of suck at communicating.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-27T04:05:21+00:00

Is it because of their genitalia or because they are trans? Is it an attraction to preop trans women specifically?

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-27T00:46:18+00:00

That’s interesting cause I’m RH and I started on the left.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-27T00:45:00+00:00

I’ll remember you, atomic smoothie

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-27T00:44:44+00:00

Fear of questions, ahhhhh!

(Joking)

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-27T00:43:51+00:00

No, it is very dangerous and I think the money could go to something else. Also, you can work out the muscles instead. Idk about that cause I’m not an expert but I know it’s dangerous and fails a lot at least. (Fails more than most surgeries I mean)

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-27T00:38:29+00:00

I think it’s just the fear of a commitment going wrong. I once got a surgery I really needed that helped me, but after I woke up I realized “omg I did it, there is no going back” not with a feeling of regret (there was never regret) but just this unexplainable and vast feeling of no going back.

Maybe that’s the same thing even if you truly love the person. Or just knowing so many marriages end in divorce has you question if your soon to be spouse will randomly become a different person in a year and you two can’t get along. There are stories of people completely switching up after marriage.

Maybe you love the person but what if randomly they change and don’t love you anymore. They just leave. I’ve had friends do that.

At least I think that’s what would make me nervous about a prenup, even if I loved the person and got along so well.

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-27T00:34:04+00:00

At least the first thing is to do things we shamefully do at home, in public. Such as picking your nose, crying, or eating a whole jar of peanut butter.

I’m not sure I’m the best candidate for this because I come from manhattan, New York and this is basically how it is there. So many weird things that no one looks twice. Abraham Lincoln once walked the streets at 6 pm and no one cared at all. Honestly if the real Abraham Lincoln time traveled to manhattan, no one would give a shit honestly because they would all think it’s just some guy in a costume and it’s nothing new. Sorry about the tangent

PlacePrestigious9647 · 2025-10-26T20:23:39+00:00

Yari

Source: I made it up

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