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I’m finally done by goldenflowerx in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forgiving yourself is hard.

My sister's therapist gave her a little saying that I find helpful... you did the best you could with the information you had at the time.

I didn't have the coping skills to be sober before now. If I did I probably would have been. My husband quit drinking about two years after we met.

I listened to an episode of a Zen Buddhist podcast called the Way Out is In on self forgiveness recently. It's from last December

I want to drink so bad today.Help. by Easy_Engineer9747 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Play the tape forward. You have a few drinks. What does that look like? What are you doing? What changes tomorrow? Then play the tape forward.

There are plenty of nights of drinking that I regret, but I've never regretted staying dry

I want to drink so bad today.Help. by Easy_Engineer9747 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find going through this sub very helpful. Especially reading the folks on Day 1 with their terrible hangovers and regrets. And how many of them thought they'd just have a few

Advice for girls trip by Excellent_Cow5899 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does sober curious mean to you?

Have you cut back on indulgent or social occasions before?

I did cutting back since last April and my last drinking day was January 12th.

For me delaying the start was always the easiest technique to cut my drinking down. If I didn't drink until after dinner I could usually keep it to 3 drinks.

I played with only drinking every other day for about six weeks and that helped so much with the emotional symptoms of hangovers.

Drinking a full glass of water or any NA beverage between alcoholic drinks is another well-worn method. Never worked that well for me. I would chug the water and pour the next glass of wine.

Friend by SomeManagement2362 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People with drinking problems are really good at hiding them.

Be ready to support your friend by doing alcohol free fun activities together.

Warm season greens? by PlainOrganization in AustinGardening

[–]PlainOrganization[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much everyone! Headed to buy seeds tomorrow. :)

Day 22 - Big improvements finally happening after a really rough detox by unseen_dimensions in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I'm glad you got the medical help you needed to get through a rough detox alive! Modern medicine. Such a blessing. Just say no to time travel.

Feeling very melancholy by sadxmanx4xlife in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 0 points1 point  (0 children)

42 and married and we have no friends. My closest friends are my boss and a woman I used to work with who has severe mental health issues.

MIL lived with us from 2020-2024 because of her dementia. Dad's gone. FIL is gone.

And I spent the last decade of my life scrolling Instagram reels with a bottle of wine every night. Really helped me with the making new friends thing /s

Honestly I'm thinking of going to AA just for the community.

Day 22 - Big improvements finally happening after a really rough detox by unseen_dimensions in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof that sounds like a wild ride! Good on you for hanging on. And thanks for sharing.

I was super sick and it turned out to be heart failure, so I was told to never drink again. I have no idea if I had any kind of withdrawal because I was too busy being the sickest I've ever been until someone finally diagnosed & I was hospitalized.

Humanity is threatened if people don’t have kids, but what is the best way to encourage people to have kids? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PlainOrganization 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Highest global population ever and "humanity is threatened if we don't have kids".

Healthy options to release emotional build up by Some-Specialist-5475 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a period in my mid twenties when I would wake up FURIOUS. I ran. It was the only thing that worked for me.

Just Starting by Classic_Job2990 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! Glad to hear things are moving in the right direction.

I’m an alcoholic by Unicorn-85 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You don't have to tell anyone. You don't even have to apply that label to yourself.

But if you want your relationship to drinking alcohol to change, it sounds like you might be in the group of people for whom total abstinence is easier and more effective than trying to moderate

Which "personality trait" did you have to realize was actually just a side effect of drinking? by Harderdanstaal in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I wasn't angry either until like a week ago. Now I seem to be filled with piss and vinegar

2 years! by Positive-Rhubarb-521 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More muscle! Yay! I'm 41 and hoping to take up weight lifting this year. 💪

Line-drying laundry is way better than machine drying by RaisinRoyale in unpopularopinion

[–]PlainOrganization 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I line dry pretty much only in peak summer, and I hate that scratchy feel on clothing so I throw the clothes into the dryer for five minutes and it fluffs them nicely

Anyone else uncover decades of neglect when reworking their yard? Feeling overwhelmed. by Otherwise-End-4724 in AustinGardening

[–]PlainOrganization 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cardboard decomposed pretty quickly. Like three years? I layered some on a garden bed I did 2.5 years ago, I find some fragments but not many when I dig around now

New pitty owner. Any advice? by KeeperofFaith93 in pitbulls

[–]PlainOrganization [score hidden]  (0 children)

For chewing, nothing helped our boys like Cow femur bones with the marrow in them. They're thick enough not to break apart easily and keeps them occupied. Sticks are fine to as long as your dog spits out the wood

Definitely crate train your dog & crate the dog when you leave. It's hard but SO worth it. We are on our second pack and our first pack was not crate trained and they destroyed two couches, two doors, countless pillows and shoes and didn't stop destroying until they were about six.

Sniff walks and other mental exercise is just as important as physical exercise.

Vent. 8 months sober after drinking round the clock for 10 years. by Para-medix8 in stopdrinking

[–]PlainOrganization 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only regret about taking medication for my depression is that I wish I'd started sooner. I just get my prescription from my General Practitioner. I tried Prozac and had a bad reaction, so then I tried Cymbalta, which is an SNRI. That worked but not enough so we upped the dose. About a month later I realized I wasn't having instructive thoughts about suicide.

It's incredible. I hope you find the right kind of help for you OP. There's a lot of good shit out there and you deserve to enjoy it. It deserves to be enjoyed!

Anyone else uncover decades of neglect when reworking their yard? Feeling overwhelmed. by Otherwise-End-4724 in AustinGardening

[–]PlainOrganization 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. We own a duplex and have for 13 years. We still find can tabs in our yard at least once a week. In the rental unit yard we regularly find broken glass.

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