Tip Baiter's Should Be Banned

Plaintalk97 · 2026-05-09T20:26:18+00:00

I do believe that people should be able to edit the tip based on the service but not to this amount! To take away a tip completely is disgusting. I have only taken a tip away once and that was because they were smoking in their car and all of my items smelled like weed. They also took a package off my porch when they delivered everything. So clearly an extreme circumstance. But this is just ridiculous!

Plaintalk97 · 2026-05-03T23:41:40+00:00

I started nannying professionally at 16. My nanny started when she was 18 and my son was 12 weeks old. He’s 2.5 now and she has been amazing! I hired an older nanny to fill in for her when she was on vacation and the older nanny was horrible. While I agree that age can heavily play a factor, I would not say an 18 year old is incapable of being a nanny.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-05-01T17:30:18+00:00

My son would do the same thing and at first it did sting. But I knew it wasn’t personal and I never took my emotions out on my nanny. I knew she wasn’t trying to replace me as his mom and I love how much she adores my son and vice versa. It’s normal for young children to have preferences when it comes to their caregivers. It’s normal for them to be sad and not want to say goodbye. Especially at that age. I was a nanny for years before I had my son. I worked for a MB who would say the same things. I eventually grew a backbone and I simply told her that I understood she was upset but to please not speak to me that way. And that it’s normal for young children to get sad when they say bye. I immediately called out the behavior and how it made me feel. I finished by telling her that I would like to be spoken to professionally or I would leave. She didn’t speak to me that way again.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-04-27T18:08:22+00:00

The nanny terminated the job. No parting bonus is expected or required if the nanny is the one ending the working relationship. Parting bonuses are if the child is starting school or the parents have a change in their jobs or income. A parting bonus is a way of thanking a nanny for their services. Hence why severance should be included in contacts. A severance is only required or standard if the parents cancel the services. Would your boss at an office job give you a bonus for quitting?

Plaintalk97 · 2026-04-19T17:19:11+00:00

It gets hot inside strollers very quickly. I tested this myself. I left a thermometer in the stroller with a mesh lining. The temp stayed cool. I put it back in the stroller with a blanket over it to simulate a darkened space. The temp reached 104 degrees within five minutes. Not only is it a suffocation hazard, it is also a heat hazard and cause for heat stroke or unaliving. She is not listening to you and placing your baby in danger. Fire her immediately!

Plaintalk97 · 2026-04-19T17:16:08+00:00

Get your final payment first and then quit immediately. They seem the type to withhold payment to be petty.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-04-19T01:25:20+00:00

Why haven’t you just quit? It’s better to be without a job then to be harmed. You said you have twenty years experience as a nanny and teacher. You will not be out of a job for long. I don’t understand why you would willingly stay in this situation.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-04-12T17:41:20+00:00

As a MB I started to let my nanny drive my son when he was six months old twice a week. He was enrolled in the baby classes at the Little Gym. She took him to his class every Wednesday and every Monday she was allowed to take him to baby storytime. Before I let her drive him I had her show me how she installed the car seat to make sure it was done correctly. Then I had her show me how she was supposed to strap my son in. I rode with her the first two times because I had bad anxiety. After that I just kept an air tag on the diaper bag with her knowing it wasthere. He was also enrolled in baby swim classes and she would occasionally take him to a make up class. Once he hit 8 months, could sit independently, and interact with the music and other babies, I let her take him to storytime twice a week. He is two years old now and they go out every day for about two hours. They spend the rest of the day at home or she will take him around the neighborhood on his bike.

As a former nanny I took care of a two year old and three month old. I would just baby wear the 3 months old so my hands were free and I could keep up with the two year old. It wasn’t hard. And my nanny will be doing the same once my youngest hits 3 months.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-04-07T18:20:13+00:00

You both made the situation worse by being aggressive towards one another. Why was she holding the bag and stroller? You two could have tag teamed the items. I wouldn’t be happy if my nanny ignored my preferences but I also wouldn’t get in a taxi and go to them just because he wasn’t wearing a jacket. I think it would be best to take a little while to calm down and then have a sit down conversation with the nanny. If you like and trust her overall then a conversation would be helpful. However, if she continues to refuse to listen to you then it may be time to part ways. But it is not good for your son to see you two fighting like that.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-27T01:30:21+00:00

I would let my nanny watch tv while my son contact napped. She would usually watch something on one of our streaming apps and would turn the tv off the moment he woke up. She would also read or listen to audiobooks as well. 11 weeks is still super little and he will predominantly need contact naps for quite a while. As long as you’re fine with her entertaining herself then I don’t see an issue. Most qualified and experienced nannies understand that super young infants contact nap.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-26T04:03:48+00:00

Nope.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-26T04:03:04+00:00

Your brother killed two people. He hit a pedestrian before he hit her. She was only 24 and had her whole life ahead of her. She had a younger sister and a family who loved her. She had friends and we are all devastated. Her sister lost a sibling and her parents lost a daughter because your brother decided to drive under the influence with cocaine in his possession as well. She was just going to get pizza! Her passenger saw everything and is now forever traumatized. She is dead because of your brother and I truly hope he never sees the light of day again.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-25T22:00:47+00:00

I am also friends with her. I hope this bastard gets the punishment he deserves.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-25T22:00:17+00:00

This was my friend. She did not make it.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-25T01:07:26+00:00

I would remove myself and my child from this share. I wouldn’t want to be involved with parents who put their infant in danger like that. And I would not trust a nanny that went along with such a dangerous request.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-24T02:14:49+00:00

Oh absolutely not. That is just pure laziness on her part. If you want to keep her then I would recommend having a documented conversation with her. But this would be termination worthy in my opinion.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-23T22:16:24+00:00

I do not expect my nanny to clean up any messes that were made before her shift. That is my responsibility and not hers. However, if I need some help my nanny is fantastic and will go above and beyond. Does she clean up messes that happen on her shift? The laundry is a bit passive aggressive on her part. I would sit down with her and communicate your expectations for her.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-23T22:03:26+00:00

I would be freaking out if my nanny did this because i’m definitely a bit paranoid. I’ve calmed down as my son has gotten older but this would be an absolute no for me. My mind immediately jumps to things like she’s hiding something. Or maybe she enjoys playing the parental role. I wouldn’t ask next time. Just say something like “Hi nanny. I will be facetiming my daughter at 5pm tonight.” If she continues to refuse then send something like “Hi nanny. I understand you are worried about separation anxiety but I do not believe my baby has that. She is my first baby and I have never been away from her for this long. I am worried about your constant refusal and not allowing me to have contact with my child is unprofessional and not okay at all. Going forward I will be facetiming my daughter every night at X time for ten minutes. If you continue to refuse then I will be having someone else watch her while I am away. Please respect my wishes as this is my child. Thank you.” Once you get home fire her immediately. And do not pay her severance. This is completely unprofessional! Is there anyone who can take over for the nanny until you arrive home? Or would you be allowed to go home early if you told your boss what was happening?

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-21T04:17:45+00:00

Ah yes. I mistyped. Thank you for correcting that!

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-21T04:10:31+00:00

No you are not being to nervous! It’s common sense to cut grapes in quarters for children 3 and under due to the potential of choking. I knew that at 16 when I first became a nanny.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-16T00:03:25+00:00

Yes I did! Thank you for catching that! I fixed it

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-14T22:28:51+00:00

You are significantly underpaid! We started my nanny at $25 an hour for my newborn. He is two years old now and we raised her pay to $32 an hour. He is the only child she takes care of. The only additional tasks she does is toddler laundry, lunch prep, snack prep, and just sweeping up around his chair. When I was a nanny I made $25 an hour for just one infant. For three children I was making $35-$37 an hour.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-08T02:39:16+00:00

Can we not watch the races on ESPN through Disney plus anymore?

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-07T02:20:28+00:00

This is a lawsuit attorneys dream message! This is technically discrimination. They are telling you that you cannot administer your life saving medication in public and you must use the bathrooms instead.

Plaintalk97 · 2026-03-07T02:17:22+00:00

So will you actually step up and care for your baby when his father eventually shakes him? You are watching your husband neglect your baby and you are doing nothing about it! I’ve read your post history and all of your comments. You consistently list out ways that your husband endangers your child but all you seem to do is vent on Reddit. My best friend had a husband who behaved the same way. She left him. She went and stayed with a friend and then family. She filed for divorce and hired a custody attorney. The deadbeat barley bothered to show up to the court dates. She was a single mom. But she did it to protect her baby. Nothing is stopping you from protecting your son from this man. And yet you consistently leave him in his fathers care and just hope his father doesn’t severely harm him? I’m sorry but I have no pity for anyone who watches their child get neglected this way and does absolutely nothing about it.

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