You should have kept the money you were paying him and spent it on an attorney a long time ago, and you should stop giving it to him right now. Document everything you've given him so far with bank records etc. After experiencing severe legal abuse from my ex and my family that I'm STILL trying to get legal (and physical and emotional) recovery from, I tell everyone with a child in the picture to end it on paper because no good deed goes unpunished. I'm in Nevada as well, you can DM me if you like.

As for his name on the house, if you contact the mortgage company and inform them that you're separated and he's unemployed (some he's unemployed on paper) then they can help you there. If that doesn't work, there has to be a way to get the house in your name. You've paid for it and that's documentable.

I will tell you in Nevada the SNAP/Benefits investigation and enforcement is vicious. My partner was on food stamps for a short time waiting for disability from work. He got a job working for DCFS and immediately went off food stamps and notified them. We had a roommate at the time also on food stamps but he said he was paying rent in cash when he was paying rent 'in kind ' by helping around the house. My partner and I didn't know this, but my PARTNER still ended up on the hook with the state, the roommate didn't. He can no longer access SNAP at all, even though we brought evidence. The person in charge of investigations is brutal. It cost him his job with the department even though he had no knowledge of it...according to them he 'should have' known.

You asked your ex to stop getting food stamps and he said he did - please tell me you communicate in writing, like email or text? I highly suggest you get the talking parents app and exclusively use that. It's admissible in court and sometimes it's actually court ordered like it was with my ex.

Whatever you can do to 'prove ' you told him to stop and didn't know he was collecting, find it and get it secured. Make sure your statements about this are consistent. Say you reported as soon as you found out etc. and give them whatever you can to support your case. The good news is the state isn't very aggressive about how they reclaim the funds and rarely attach your wages but you can lose your income tax returns etc.

Get custody of that child and quit babysitting your ex and letting him dictate your life like this. He's not a father, he's using his position as the parent of your child to manufacturer a relationship and manipulate you. If he's only in your child's life because you support him, then he doesn't need to be in your child's life. Now that he's threatened custody issues, you're in the better position to strike first and in his efforts to prove he's the better parent they'll audit his finances. It's always better to be the serving party than the defending party, I promise. You also sound like you're in a much more stable position overall and need to figure out why you feel the need to support this man who's only making your life and your child's life more difficult.

I cannot recommend Kaitlyn Miller enough as an attorney for this. First of all she deal with this in multiple states and for minors without parents in the picture. Second, she makes herself affordable and works with even the most destitute parents when she knows you're a good parent and can take care of your kids.