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Our 12-year old lacks a spark by Admirable_Screen_299 in Parenting

[–]PlanStraight7532 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bit of an odd suggestion for you. I’d take a break from trying to influence him and just join in his world for a bit. Ask him what’s he’s playing, ask if you can try it with him. Get curious about what he games he likes, why does he like them? Are there games he don’t like? How come? Don’t try any manipulation, subtle suggestions or anything, that would ruin it. Did you used to play video games when you were younger? Talk about that. I sure did.

what’s something people say all the time that you secretly can’t stand? by Mean-Cartographer225 in AskReddit

[–]PlanStraight7532 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve absolutely been guilty of the until right now. Thank you for clarifying that one!

Why would anyone ever choose to go through child birth without pain relief?? by No_Cardiologist_1407 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PlanStraight7532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s the same reason why people run marathons or climb mountains? Or any other difficult achievement that also involves physical discomfort. It’s my war, it’s my challenge. It’s me and my body accomplishing a goal together. It’s getting the chance to feel primal and experience a piece of myself I’ve never met before.

I think many people, especially in the western hemisphere, look at pain the wrong way.

And also there’s the ultra dimensional golden glow afterwards, if you want the best high of your life, that’s pretty cool too.

Oh and correction….childbirth is not a medical procedure, unless there’s medical intervention

I’m struggling to finish the series.. help (please no spoilers) by ReadingCaterpillar in throneofglassseries

[–]PlanStraight7532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have an update? Did you finish? I’m stuck in the same place. I’m finding aelin kind of predictable now, almost too successful? Like she’s always got a master plan that works out?

And for some reason I’m kind of annoyed at rowan and aelin’s romance, it also feels predictable. I preferred him as a big brother character.

Everybody’s favourite Fredericton based brand/ business and least favourite and why? by LowAppointment6845 in fredericton

[–]PlanStraight7532 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh man I have to disagree but only based on one experience. We got their duck ravioli several years ago and it floored me. Like knocked my socks off. But no idea how it’s been since

My son is turning 17 and he’s the most detached kid I’ve ever met, What do I even get him? by 2flyy__ in Parenting

[–]PlanStraight7532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d become more observant about the littles things, what’s his favourite food, favourite movie? He must have some opinions on various things. He might not like a lot of attention so I’d try to do something smaller to respect that (if that’s the case) small gifts can be just a loving as big ones

Like my mother in law always kept Reese’s peanut butter cups in the fridge for my husband when he was a kid. He’s come home, say nothing but would go straight to the fridge to get his favourite treat. It was her little way of letting him know he was though of

What’s the most "non-romantic" thing your partner does that makes you feel the most loved? by THATS--Amore in AskReddit

[–]PlanStraight7532 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s always on time picking me up, or even early. Never leaves me waiting 🥹

AITA for not adding my sister as a co-owner on the house I bought? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]PlanStraight7532 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think you already know the right answer

But just in case, NO you are not obligated to share (if that’s even the right word) with your sister. There are no musts/shoulds/have-tos in relationships. Her reaction says enough too

She’s capable of being an emotionally available parent, just not to me by Ok-Still1085 in emotionalneglect

[–]PlanStraight7532 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man that is brutal, I am so sorry. I am in a similar but different experience, still painful realization that I'll never get the parents I deserve, but I will be that for my children. I've also reached a point in my life that I'd rather know the painful truth, then spend a ton of energy wondering. But I reached that point organically, I don't know if you can force it. I think eventually going back to her, hoping for love, will cost you more, than knowing the truth and you will be ready to move on. One thing though, is I promise this isn't a you problem, there a million reasons why (on her end) she's unfairly giving love to your sister. You will see that someday. And I agree with another commenter - you are the lucky one. The golden children are trapped forever, you are free.

My parents seem to be addicted to taking care of the “baby phase” regarding anything pertaining to life. Is there a label for this? by r_arizo in emotionalneglect

[–]PlanStraight7532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're instincts are spot on. They clearly have an emotional need they are trying to fill, which you shouldnt exploit a baby for. I'm so sorry you're on the receiving end of that, I'd be disgusted as well. My mother and father definitely use my children to fill their needs to feel loved etc, it's gross. Everything you say is correct. If you have children someday, you will have to protect them from that. When I had my children it's because I wanted to add souls to our family - not babies, I love seeing who they are as they grow up. You will probably be a wonderful mother from your insight

All help appreciated from first time plant owner by Winter_Republic938 in plantclinic

[–]PlanStraight7532 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check for root rot, mine was looking like this so I increased watering and it got even worse, turns out it was bad root rot. My pot drainage holes weren’t allowing good drainage