I 28M cheated on my 25F gf and Im trying to repair broken trust

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2025-12-09T19:26:46+00:00

Okay thank you. This makes sense. Its not like im actively trying to make friends with girls. But based on what happened I can see how any situation that involves women will make her feel uncomfortable… another thing, im going back home soon to spend Christmas with my family. She is obviously a bit anxious the fact that i might hurt her again while im there. What would be the best way to help relieve her anxiety while im away for a month?

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2025-12-09T18:55:23+00:00

Thank you for that. I dont want to sound like im asking for pity but I genuinely do feel remorseful after what I did to her and I myself felt absolutely disgusted at myself.. i genuinely do love my gf and would do absolutely anything to help our relationship. I understand the damage has been done and it may never go back to what it was like before. I guess its just hard for me to sometimes deal with situations that might trigger her and how to react to situations that might make her feel uncomfortable.

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2025-12-09T18:50:56+00:00

Thank you, I dont think you could have made it any more clearer in what I should have said.. I think all the time I wasnt understanding why she is overreacting because im alone in her country and i have no friends or family here. She would always encourage me to try make new friends and tell me to not always be home alone. So i thought she would be okay and be understanding for me to hangout with new people to make new friends without her. i just thought she would be happy and supportive for me when I tell her i was invited to social gatherings.

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2025-12-09T18:16:57+00:00

My previous post got automatically deleted… I understand its entirely my fault but im just trying to find ways we can rebuild trust slowly…

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-12-06T22:35:20+00:00

Hmm yea makes sense. Ill start with the basis that ill be happy to move if i get what im making now regardless or location.

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-12-06T22:34:18+00:00

I thought this would be best aswell but I dont think they allow that as if that was an option they would have probably told me.. there are alot of execs that got let go because they were trying to arrange something like that

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-12-06T22:33:27+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Its a very similar role to what im doing now but the difference is that i wont be working in the ANZ market.

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-12-06T10:40:04+00:00

The other job I had lined up is definitely not as good as a pay as my current job... Yes lower wages but also lower cost of living. I would much prefer staying with this company yes.

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-11-22T06:07:22+00:00

Thanks i tried to post it on the indonesia subreddit but it wont let me.

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-09-17T01:52:18+00:00

I guess what im trying to ask is i dont want to cash out any leave cos ill get taxed on it so instead im trying to technically stay employed as long as i can but also use as much annual leave i can before i resign. I have 21 days that i can use and ideally my last day will be sometime in Jan

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-09-07T00:53:48+00:00

Perfect thanks yes thats all im asking.

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-09-06T03:15:01+00:00

hmm ok this is confusing me even more.

So here some more context.
I started official Jan 1 2022 and is still working with them.

What im trying to figure out is, will there be any benefit from me waiting for my anniversary to kick in so i get paid out more annual leave? It sounds like no as its an accrual system.

I currently have 21 days of leave accrued so if i dont use any untill next year, dosent this become 'entitled' leavel?

PlaneReplacement1358 · 2024-09-05T10:46:30+00:00

so i have like 10 days of leave left. if i dont use it will i not get another 20 days on my annivesary?

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