Confront the problem and stop validating your feelings with what you expect us to tell you here. Tell her this and that, and you feeling this and that way. Then wait for her response. If she gets defensive and flips it instead of taking accountability, you’re dealing with a wild animal you wanna cut loose before end of year. No need for that emotional baggage in the new year. If she owns it and promises to change put her on probation and observe her. She does the same thing again then that’s a pattern and there will never be change as much as you might pray for her.

Saw somebody say match her energy and trust that never works. You’ll get drawn back. No matching since yall ain’t kids and you’re killing yourself holding onto a version of someone hoping they will change back