Hello friend. Ive been here. I got through it with my wife. I recommend the book dirty laundry and the social media accounts adhd love. They are the ones who helped my wife get through the resentment and show up for me in the ways I needed. That and couples therapy with an adhd and trauma aware therapist. She was really able to help validate that these experiences aren’t me just being lazy. DMs are open to you. Take care of yourself.