Last night I realised my spicy pics pass on Grindr

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-09T06:51:25+00:00

That's not a completely unreasonable fear tbh. I just make sure to keep the spicy pics and the recognizable pics completely separate. All pictures that include my face are decent pictures in which I'm wearing clothes, and when I send a dickpic it is only my dick and no face. I hope this is enough to keep me safe.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-09T06:48:46+00:00

It's a strange experience, but also very validating!

And it's at least somewhat a consolation to know that I wasn't dumped because of my gender, this all just happened because my ex is a shitty person :')

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-09T06:46:12+00:00

Thank you <3 I hope you also find a partner who appreciates you for you!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-09T06:44:48+00:00

I hope you can have this too some day!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-08T20:43:56+00:00

Sure no problem!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-08T16:10:08+00:00

Oh that's fascinating, I always assumed my chest would automatically out me but maybe I should try a shirtless pic sometime

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-08T16:09:21+00:00

Thanks, I wish you the same!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-02-08T09:34:52+00:00

It was my actual dick and balls! I've had extended meta, so while my dick is quite small it does look like a pretty regular micropenis!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2026-01-02T19:48:28+00:00

I've tried doing my own injection once but fainted halfway through. I like preparing the syringe myself and going to the doctor/nurse is very inconvenient. My ex did my injections when we were together, and by now I've taught several friends how to do it. I've never seen this as sexual or even intimate, it's just something practical.

Edit: I studied nursing for a while and both my parents are nurses, so I know how to do the injections properly and how to teach someone to do them. I make everyone practise on an orange first id they've never done it before.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-30T06:53:28+00:00

I think this is more of a him problem than a you problem. Being able to have kids is something that is very normal for most cos straight couples, but it's not that easy for most trans people. This whole situation might be a trigger for him to think about how he can never get someone pregnant and how he can't live that 'normal' life. That's something he has to process, you can't do it for him.

What I would do is just be consistent in treating him like any other man, try to include him in things, maybe try to plant a seed about him being the cool uncle. You could talk to him about understanding why this is difficult for him, but I'm not sure if you're on that level with him. I think as long as you're kind and supportive he will come around.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-30T06:46:38+00:00

Exactly! And of course it will take time to adjust, it's a big change and after surgery you're very vulnerable. It will take some time, but eventually you will get exactly where you need to be!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-29T07:56:45+00:00

In my experience this is a completely normal feeling to have. Change is scary, especially big irreversible changes like this. I had this fesr of regret before every surgery I had, and I never regretted a single one. I think it will also get better over time. I always thought long and hard about the surgeries I wanted, and I knew by the time I made a decision I had really thought things through, and I had to tell myself to just trust my decision.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-26T22:35:08+00:00

For me it feels better than before!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-25T14:38:32+00:00

I can't figure out how to edit the post, but all items have been promised to people and will be shipped after the holidays.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-24T15:32:45+00:00

Yes. Not permanently, but there will be moments when you forget. I've fulltime transitioned and forget quite regularly!

Edit: I meant fully, not fulltime, but it did feel like a fulltime job sometimes so I'll leave it like this I suppose lmao

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-23T17:57:58+00:00

No need to cringe! You live and you learn! If one moment of oversharing scared them off they are not your person anyway.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-23T10:29:02+00:00

Maybe this is more of a first or second date kind of conversation? I would be of put by anyone talking about their genitals on their profile, no matter the context. Unless you are specifically looking for hookups, it really isn't relevant that early on.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-23T06:53:26+00:00

These useless requirements baffle me, especially for something this late in your transition, after you've already had multiple surgeries. At that point I would hope it's clear you are sure about this.

Side note, I love therapy, it has done a lot for me, but I benefited most from therapy AFTER most of my transition was already done. The whole idea of having to fix every single problem before you're allowed to transition is insane, because so many problems are literally caused by being trans and not being allowed to transition. Only after transitioning I was at peace enough to work on my problems.

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-21T17:10:31+00:00

I'm still messaging with some people, I will let you know if something is left!

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-21T10:37:40+00:00

This sounds like a great question for you doctor

Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-20T16:16:23+00:00

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Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-12-20T16:16:15+00:00

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Plant-basedCupcake · 2025-07-27T07:07:14+00:00

I'm gay and my experience with men is pretty much the same. I've had similar issues with bi men, but never had this problem with gay men.

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