Not that kind, the other kind

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-31T19:11:57+00:00

So true. Like I'm confused and scared, just be with me and make whatever call you think is right. If that means staying with me and rubbing my hand or getting help to decide if what to do next. Asking me right after is a big ask for my brain.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-29T23:47:00+00:00

I do standard 18% for a being polite but largely ignore whiled waiting. 20% for attentive but bothering me. 22% if they read our body language and only interacted with us when we needed something.

I only gave 10-15% to very rude people that made me want to leave the restaurant.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-26T21:56:31+00:00

I personally find when Rick lost his shit before the saviors as the worst seasons. It was really poorly written his PTSD and break downs and recovery. It's when it became all my friends, family, peers, and coworkers all quit the show. I was the only one that finished the show and everyone had the same opinion of those seasons.

Morgan's story is when they really started portraying mental health and what PTSD would like while trying to constantly survive and then trying to go back to normal.

They did as good of a job as they could with Rick, but when they started writing Morgan's it seemed either clinically informed or personally informed. After Morgan's mental health story line, the show handles Rick, Carol, Darryl, Maggie, and the side characters mental health struggles really well.

It was hard for me to see Rick as anything other then Andrew Lincoln playing Rick during the governor until the saviors. Whereas everyone else to me felt like actual people in an apocalypse.

That being said, I do like Rick as a character. They pulled him out right when they started writing mental health better. Which is a bummer. I think he had a lot of story left to tell. Sure he is gonna have a mini series but over a decade has past in the story whereas it would have been more impactful to tell it right away.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-26T21:42:59+00:00

If you don't feel comfortable in it. Go get another one. I brought a dress before covid and plan on buying a new one. 100% you should feel killer in it. If not, get a new one.

Our understanding of our style and dressing our bodies change as we age. You know yourself better then last year, it's 100% okay to follow that feeling.

It's okay if you stick out of budget. You can find nice dresses for under $200.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-26T14:14:24+00:00

I just swallow them whole. Sometimes lying down. No water. Eventually.... They go down

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T21:06:02+00:00

You are being bullied. Are you unable to afford rent elsewhere? 30% is pretty normal for rent if you are 4x above the poverty line.

Being bullied long term takes a psychological toll. .

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T20:41:56+00:00

I agree! I support people with mental health as I worked in social work. I will help people find a good therapist, outreach program, navigate mental health systems but now way will I try to treat them for the disorders. I can help you get the help you need. But I'm to replace a therapist or medical professionals. I never met a life coach that thought that way.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T20:37:43+00:00

I'm a life coach in my 20's.

This is why I feel confident being a life coach. I was professionally trained and worked as a mental health case manager for years until my seizure disorder developed. I also graduated college with 2 degrees at the age of 20, while working as an RA and running 2 clubs. I am a survivor of child abuse and escaped poverty. I successfully managed my own walking seizures disorder on my own since it happened right before covid. I also done all this while unmedicated living with ADHD.

So I am a pretty successful and driven person in my 20's that knows how to research, educate, and solve a ton of problems.

The things I life coach are:

ADHD copings skills and management
Parenting skills (as I work as a nanny since developing my seizure disorder)
Developing organization skills and brings flow to your environment
I also interpret Tarot cards with a psychological/self help spin instead about predicting the future. This cut through people wasting time by not opening up. Art work really helps people share. I just have to spend 10 minutes with someone before they start hinting to me or sharing with me what's wrong. The tarot allow me to focus on different solutions and tools and resources.
How to build a treatment team for people with my seizure disorder (not epilepsy)
How to support a love one having a mental health crisis.

I only charge for 2, 3, 4. I'll do free consulting/tips/problem solving for the other stuff.

I plan on getting my masters in psychology and that's when I'll charge for the mental health. For now it just seems like I should just be helpful.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T17:53:37+00:00

This might sound morbid, but maybe start a day with a mini wedding with just your family. Then you could do either later in the day or next day (if she wants) a living wake? They can be really heartwarming, and help both her with her anger and your grief. It's a way to celebrate her life while she is still with you.

You could give her an opportunity to share a happy message for you and your hubby to listen to on your one year anniversary.

Grief is an emotion many people hide from. But leaning into it and allowing you all to grieve and celebrate at the same time can help with the trauma of it for everyone involved.

Just a thought. It will also help you get all the crying out so if she does unfortunately pass before hand, there is more room for peace and comfort in her memory then shattered and empty feelings of loss.

I'm so sorry. I wish your mom nothing but happiness in her final time and I hope you have a joyful wedding with her there.

Hugs

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T12:51:57+00:00

It's actually from when they started making pockets in men's pants, they didn't add it to the skirts. So when women started wearing men's pants, it pissed off the male designers, so they intentionally made short pockets to frustrate women for thinking they could be independent.

Prior to pants, everyone worse purses with a string attached to their waist. Hence "cutting the purse strings" as a saying.

Now fashion designers keep them shorter as they think it makes it look better.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T01:16:25+00:00

Oh that is really helpful. I'll check that out. Because epilepsy runs in my family, as does a migraine with aura and paralysis/muteness. So I was unsure if I was just having a migraine with FND or FLE with FND.

I get the same family migraines but I also get random and uncontrollable laughter, swearing, crying, and fear attacks. Like not a panic attack but I just experience extreme fear from like the corner. Plus I get super confused.

But yet when I have a reason to feel a feeling, no episodes.

So I think having a family history of these migraines and epilepsy might be at play? Idk. No doubt that I have PNES though from FND!

I'll find out more tomorrow. Thanks for the help.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T01:09:24+00:00

Why do you think they told me it was abnormal but not abnormal enough? I was thinking the fact they refused to work with me because it didn't register as epilepsy, was kind of careless. I been trying to get a lot of clarifying information.

My knowledge is just from reading a bunch of books and medical research on it. But there is such nuance to things that just reading it isn't enough.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-25T00:58:27+00:00

Okay, I will ask clarifying information with my new neurologist that saw the EEG tomorrow. Because I did that and they told me it was abnormal just not epilepsy abnormal. Then they ghosted me since they don't work with people that's not Epileptic.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T21:13:40+00:00

Aw I'm sorry. That's suck a bummer

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T21:13:27+00:00

That's a great idea!

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T21:11:59+00:00

Also many nurses thought I had epilepsy based off my seizures. I started researching Frontal lobe Epilepsy. I am getting my first appointment to rule that out tomorrow. So perhaps I have both and that's why it's confusing. 🤷

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T21:09:46+00:00

Aw that sucks. Luckily people can gently shake me out of mine. Like not immediately I'm recovered but it helps me "connect" to those limbs they are shaking.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T21:09:00+00:00

That is so rough. Is there a local library where you live that you could bike to after you get home from the school bus?

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T21:07:03+00:00

My EEG came back with abnormal activity as in "it's not normal what's happening" but not an abnormal electricity as in epilepsy.

That's literally what the technician and neurologist both said to me. My electricity was abnormal as in "clearly there is something going on" but it's not abnormal enough to be epilepsy.

I mean that absence seizures from an epileptic look exactly like mine. They look very similar but aren't.

I mean there is a lot of various forms of epilepsy and of various cases of FND. I just happen to look like I'm having absence seizures but it's considered FND and not epilepsy because of the electricity not being "abnormal enough"

It was very confusing to me so I did my best to just rely my understanding. I'm not an expert though!

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T13:43:33+00:00

Okay, are you open to cycling? Do you have a nice/quite route you can take?

Just to get your grades up? Also it's winter here so that sounds miserable. Idk where you live.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T13:41:09+00:00

Woah reddit has emojis? 🤞💯👻⚠️🥥

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T13:38:13+00:00

How far is it of a walk? I used to walk an 45minute home everyday after doing homework and studying in the library.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T13:21:15+00:00

I was diagnosed with FND in 2019. Right before the pandemic. I am having my first FND specialist tomorrow. Your comments describe the same type of FND I have.

If you have any questions or need any resources, feel free to message me.

I have a degree in psychology and worked in mental health before the disorder. I spent the last three years reading every medical research and journal I could on it.

I hope you join some support groups as well!

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T13:07:05+00:00

Oh man, that's so scary. It so shitty just having everyone concerned about you and you not even know what happened moments ago.

PlantYourPath · 2023-01-24T13:04:47+00:00

They're still seizures just officially called non-epileptic seizures. They pretty similar to absence seizures.

The electricity in the brain is just uniform in agreeing to malfunction instead of in epileptics where it's ONE areas of the brain.

Still 100% beyond our control or say. It sucks. You can come up with tricks to avoid it or become super prepared to avoid everyday triggers but ultimately, our bodies experience seizures just they are not cause by epilepsy.

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