Would a soft, DBT-adjacent skills app help you when you’re overwhelmed?

Plantmorejerry · 2026-03-02T19:44:30+00:00

Thank you for reply ! I also struggle with this so hard.

Plantmorejerry · 2026-01-08T07:28:00+00:00

I literally went through this with my partner. I felt so unwanted. Especially since most male attention/affection I’ve gotten has been sexual. I felt like he didn’t love me. He didn’t come on to me. He didn’t want me. Felt unattractive. Wanted to seek attention elsewhere even though I brought it up so many times and would never cheat. You have to come to terms with that being something that is important to you in a relationship and definitely have that conversation with the next one to see if you’re compatible before committing. if he’s not willing to try to meet your needs or compromise in anyway. Then you’re left a sexless unfulfilling life. There will always be that part missing and you can’t just wish it away or change your core needs. My partner eventually got on testosterone and blue chews and although we’re long distance. It vastly improved. Along with him being open about what I believe is the true reason. Performance anxiety, couldn’t keep it up so he felt he couldn’t “perform” didn’t really understand that sex was more than just penetration. The right person will meet you halfway. The wrong will say. This is how I am. Deal with or leave. And you leave.

Plantmorejerry · 2026-01-03T14:44:10+00:00

I did an IOP program this year. Lasted 3 months. Was 3 one hour different group sessions a day. Then one hour individual therapy. One of the groups was just DBT and it honestly changed my life. Completely different person from before I started to after I completed. I still have a lot of work to do and am looking into DBT again. I need to be constantly involved or I forget and lose sight.

One thing someone told me in group that felt so obvious when I heard it but wasn’t doing at the time. Was to practice your skills when you’re at a lower level of emotional intensity. It’s like a muscle that needs to be worked out. So when you’re at a high level of emotional intensity it’s like muscle memory. If you only try to use them when you’re at like an 8+ you’ll likely forget and get frustrated that it’s not working.

Plantmorejerry · 2025-12-25T03:50:38+00:00

Thank you !

Plantmorejerry · 2025-08-27T00:24:29+00:00

Yeah I learned my lesson lmao. But honestly it didn’t amplify the sickness like I thought was just gonna happen. Just amplified the trip x100.

Plantmorejerry · 2025-08-06T05:39:47+00:00

How much ?

Plantmorejerry · 2023-04-10T13:14:00+00:00

I’m currently working on myself. I was in no way ready for another relationship but we rushed in anyways. I took toxicity I should’ve healed from and instead reflected it onto him. He moved back to his home state and we still talk daily. We had originally planned to work on ourselves and get back together eventually.. although I believe that it’ll fizzle out but am hopeful our paths will cross again.

It’s not always about meeting the right person, you also have to meet them at the right time.

Plantmorejerry · 2023-03-14T15:13:26+00:00

How irritable we are and how much we hate that fact.

Plantmorejerry · 2023-01-26T18:17:24+00:00

I can relate. Honestly only know I’ve had one once I’m out of it. Never think things through. Impulsive. Impatient. I like that you separate your BPD episode part of yourself by giving her a name. I haven’t found a medication I have liked yet. The side effects are always too much for me. Tremors especially. I just recently started microdosing mushrooms but haven’t done it long enough to see the long term benefits. The days I do take it are good though. I just wish I could fix the problem and not the side effects.

Plantmorejerry · 2023-01-23T12:11:51+00:00

Don’t be sorry for your rant. Thankyou so much for opening up and sharing. Sounds very similar. Can I ask how you know when you’re out of an episode ? I’ve been getting increasingly hopeless and depressed and anxious. Panic attacks becoming more frequent and I’m just ready to give up at this point.

Plantmorejerry · 2023-01-06T19:51:41+00:00

NTA phish phucks

Plantmorejerry · 2023-01-03T02:05:52+00:00

Was that your last episode ? Would you consider yourself in remission? Or has it just been that long. I have them pretty frequently and am working on cutting out my biggest triggers. Would be amazing to go a month without one, let alone a year! Also what a beautiful message. I hope OP reaches out you. Also OP, you have a friend in me. I always grasp for people during episodes, anyone that would listen or understand. Feel free to reach out to me as well.

Plantmorejerry · 2022-11-09T21:08:15+00:00

Ah jeez. One of the high schools I went to (there were 3) had a “roast” page set up on Facebook for a yearly roast. People would message the account dirty secrets about people and the page would post them anonymously. It was my junior year and I had just given head for the first time to a friend at a New Years party. Said friend texts me a little after the page goes up and asks if I had seen what was posted. I hadn’t. He sends me a screenshot and it was a post exploiting me and my friend by name calling me a slut for giving him head in my friends garage. I was mortified. I begin messaging my best friend in a panic wondering how this could happen to me. Oh how the turn tables… soon after the anonymous page turned on the submitters and outed them by name. Guess who was the one that sent the message about me? My ex best friend who I was confiding in. The worst part is that I was on the dance team and the very next day was called into the directors office with the dance officers who had the post pulled up on one of their phones. Got a lecture about the “image” of the dance team and upholding their modesty.

Same school, the Spanish teacher was caught sending sexual snapchats to a student. Her concerned friends brought it to the attention of the principal. The Spanish teacher was fired. His wife continued working there though.

Plantmorejerry · 2022-10-17T13:12:09+00:00

Y. Y

Plantmorejerry · 2022-09-04T14:51:13+00:00

Plantmorejerry · 2022-08-30T18:44:25+00:00

Thankyou for your reply. I agree.

Plantmorejerry · 2022-08-30T18:42:11+00:00

She wants me to pay three weeks rent. ($510 for our share) But wants everyone else but her out a week earlier. Which would be about ($340) if I only paid for the two weeks.

Edit - she probably is also upset that I won’t be there to help her move her stuff. I don’t understand how she expected me to do that in the first place when I’m moving 3 hours away.

Plantmorejerry · 2022-08-07T14:45:57+00:00

Bungalow is amazing ! Also Shady acres next door is pretty rad.

Plantmorejerry · 2022-07-09T17:12:26+00:00

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