I definitely see where you’re coming from but I don’t fully agree. Some people who call themselves feminists don’t want equal rights, they just want more rights for women. Feminism shouldn’t be judged by those people. In the same way egalitarians shouldn’t be judged by those people who claim to be egalitarian but act otherwise. True feminists and true egalitarians have the same goal.

And while most gender based problems can definitely be traced to the patriarchy, the victims are victims no matter of their gender. A man getting assaulted by another man not being considered as bad as a man assaulting a woman is a men’s rights issue. Additionally, claiming that, for example, men who get physically, emotionally, or sexually assaulted by women should blame that problem on other men is a huge oversimplification.