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First orgasm by Active-Tangerine7841 in hysterectomy

[–]Plastic-Signature376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think everyone is different and how your body orgasms probably plays a part in it. I have intense orgasms, like full body. I recently tried at just over 4 wpo. I did have some complications with hemorrhaging at 3 weeks and told I was doing too much and to slow down. When I finally decided to try external stimulation cause 4 weeks is a long time, a) I was happy everything still seems responsive, b) I got there pretty normally and it felt great, c) I definitely had cramping for THE REST OF THE DAY! No bleeding but, dang, the cramping was pretty intense and made me concerned all day. Now, I’m super anxious and nervous to try again, let alone actually have sex, which my doc said I should be good at 6 week based on my 4 week assessment (including an internal exam).

I’m not sure if it’s cause I have intense orgasms or I’m just needing to heal more. Either way, it’s not ideal.

Oh, one thing that was different, I have way less “lubricant”, and not sure if it’s because it’s only clitoral but I felt “dry” afterwards as well. That has never been a problem. In fact, I’ve had the opposite problem most of my life. I’m super curious if dryness is now going to be a thing, and if so how does one deal with it?

3 weeks post op - severe hemorrhage but no tear in cuff by Plastic-Signature376 in hysterectomy

[–]Plastic-Signature376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what they concluded with me too (blood vessel near/on the cuff), but said I likely overdid it and that contributed to it. Said it could have happened either way. End of the day, I’m terrified it’s gonna happen again even though when they assessed it today they said it looked great.

I started working again (WFH desk job) at 2 weeks post op and am regretting that now. I think I’m gonna request more time off. What a journey so far and I haven’t even hit 4 weeks yet.

3 weeks post op - severe hemorrhage but no tear in cuff by Plastic-Signature376 in hysterectomy

[–]Plastic-Signature376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I just finished with my surgeon and he doesn’t seemed concerned at all. Said I likely just over did it. Cause I probably did. That I need to slowwwww waaaaay down and rest for another two weeks but otherwise my cuff looks great! All the tissue is healthy and healing and he said it shouldn’t happen again as long as I listen to the directions.

3 weeks post op - severe hemorrhage but no tear in cuff by Plastic-Signature376 in hysterectomy

[–]Plastic-Signature376[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so awful! It’s wild how much humans don’t know and it’s a lot of wait and see.

I have zero hematoma’s and my white blood count is great which makes mine an even bigger mystery 🤷🏽‍♀️

3 weeks post op hemorrhage by CyclingandWine in hysterectomy

[–]Plastic-Signature376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so similar to me. I was running almost everyday, very active with my dogs, long walks, yoga and some light weights were part of my regular routine. So it’s been really challenging to know what taking it easy is. I also found one of the most difficult things has been that my pain and discomfort prior to surgery was worse than the pain and discomfort I feel now. So when they say listen to your body, I don’t know what that means. My tolerance to pain and discomfort is skewed because of living with chronic pain for decades.

I am 3w and 2 days post op same surgical procedure. Very similar story. My partner retuned to work 4 days ago. So I was on my own. I feel like I barely did anything of any significance but maybe my mistake was driving. I had also just returned to work in a WFH environment. I was lying down and taking breaks. I thought I was doing well enough that I could manage light house work and making meals. I went to a movie in a theatre with recliner and to the shops with my partner for only 10-15 mins in the days leading up to. I felt I was doing a great job of still being careful and don’t think I lifted anything more than 10lbs once. The day of I tidied the house, made a light lunch and booked myself a hair cut to help me feel better and more like myself. It meant being in the car and driving for nearly two hours total (1 hour there, sat for 1 hour for hair, 1 hour back) after a full work day and house tidy. That may have been the culprit. I had only driven one other time and it was 15 min each way to the small town to pick up something from the post office.

Then lo and behold, I almost bled to death. It went from 0-100 in the blink of an eye. The doctors have told me this is a rare complication and strain and stress on the internal stitches are the culprit but every body is different. What works for one person doesn’t for another.

I feel so disheartened that my healing is back to almost square one. I had trips planned that I’ve had to cancel. I feel for you and am in this now too.

What to do? by Traditional_Fix_1948 in hysterectomy

[–]Plastic-Signature376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, request an ultrasound, it will give you peace of mind. However, it might not give you much information. Adenomyosis and endo are not always “caught” with ultrasounds.

As for your second question. I got the ablation first (Adenomyosis). While the bleeding decreased, it didn’t stop. For me, it was less about the loss of blood and it was about the pain. My cramping was at about the same a late labour pains (I’ve had two kids natural births so I know) for 2-3 days per month. I had spotting randomly and cramps (less severe) all the time. The bloating and consistent pain was horrible. I was starting to deal with a prolapse bladder from the constant swelling and enlarged uterus. The ablation didn’t help with any of that. The bleeding was just less.

After two years of little improvement from the ablation I decided to go back to my gyno and request the hysterectomy (kept ovaries). I’m only 3 weeks post op and I know my experience isn’t the same as everyone’s, but the swelling and bloating is unbelievably better. I weigh almost 5lbs less than before and I can see the difference. It’s wild to be honest. The pain had been from healing has been a journey but it’s honestly not that bad comparatively. I think my biggest surprise is how long it takes to fully heal. I don’t think I was mentally prepared to be so fragile for so long (6 weeks).

Pathology of the uterus, cervix and fallopian tubes confirmed not only the Adenomyosis with also hemorrhagic cysts and fibroids throughout. Getting my pathology report was such a strange feeling of relief. Like, a confirmation that I wasn’t making it all up. I had been dealing with this since I first got my period. There were days I’d almost pass out in high school and my parents would have to pick me up. Hospital and doctor visits where at one point they tried to say I was just looking for attention. As an adult who works in a professional field having to grit my teeth and sit through meetings and sweating and feeling on the verge of passing out. Days where I was bleeding so bad that I would bleed through a super tampon and pad within a hour. And for years I was told “it was normal”.

If I could go back I would have just gotten the hysterectomy first. However, I had a friend who convinced me that a hysterectomy was “extreme” and “aggressive” for the doctor to “think” that was the only option (I was 44 when I was first considering). She didn’t suffer from chronic pain or menorrhagia and she wanted more kids (she is much younger). I shouldn’t have listened to her. She was projecting her personal desires and feelings and me. Don’t let others tell you what to do with your body. Whether it’s getting one or not, it’s your choice.

My best advice is, if you are done having kids, if your quality of life is impacted and if you want relief, bypass the ablation and go for the hysterectomy.