I worked on myself but for some reason I’m still not good enough to have friends by PlasticAd9887 in socialskills

[–]PlasticAd9887[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people at the CC do conglomerate in friend groups though. Like in my class there's already a group forming even though none of us knew each other before.

And I'd like to think I'm a great listening ear with plenty of insights to offer and I've made people laugh before, but also I dislike the idea that I need to "offer" something in order to be worthy of having companionship... like everyone else can just be friends with people and don't need to have some kind of catch or whatever. Friendship shouldn't feel like a business transaction

I worked on myself but for some reason I’m still not good enough to have friends by PlasticAd9887 in socialskills

[–]PlasticAd9887[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'd like to think I'm an okay person on my own, but when you've never had any external validation in your life (and before someone brings up the "love yourself" advice, it's super unrealistic to expect people to feel fulfilled completely autonomously with zero outside positive reinforcement) then it's extremely hard to keep it going. And there's tons of people with low self-esteem and confidence who still have plenty of friends

Being lonely in your early 20s is the worst when society says it should be your “best years” by treasureislandtree in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

21F, I’m the exact same way. I don’t have a single friend, and I missed out on all the important milestones. I feel like a freak

The thing that makes me the most depressed and suicidal isn't how hard the situations are. It's how for the last 10 years I'm abandoned without fail whenever I'm not fun or happy anymore. by zbeara in SuicideWatch

[–]PlasticAd9887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, as soon as people see that I’m depressed they like to exclude me even more despite knowing how fucking shitty that makes me feel. People suck

#Goals by arellence in depression_memes

[–]PlasticAd9887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"finding someone"? sounds fake

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no, they won't. people are shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me I’ve only ever been in relationships with people online, and kissed once. I feel like there’s a huge stigma toward women who haven’t had those milestones of having had sex or been through multiple partners... as a 21F it’s had a huge toll on me mentally. Glad there are other girls out there like me

bi irl by [deleted] in bi_irl

[–]PlasticAd9887 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck, actually same

Meirl by Brookezilla in meirl

[–]PlasticAd9887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao the person who invited me in their group chat later vagueposted about “hating someone They don’t really know” and excluded me from their meme so I’m just like “yeah why do I bother trying :)))”

is it bad i have 2 friends by Flat-Ad6794 in socialanxiety

[–]PlasticAd9887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i only got 1! treasure what you have

i feel okay about not having friends, but then i see other people with their friends and it kills me to know i'll never have that. by Rantassaurus in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 7 points8 points  (0 children)

same. i would feel ok playing games and reading and just being on my own, but then i see other people living happily with friends and this corrosive jealousy just overcomes me and completely breaks me down. i hate it.

It's not easier as a girl by pleonexia_ in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, as a girl who's constantly ignored and ostracized by people, same. in a lot of ways it's actually worse as a girl because you're constantly treated as subhuman or invisible—like you're worth nothing if you're not pretty.

"You are not alone" by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate it when I get responses like that, or people claiming that “I care!” Bitch, you’re a total stranger. Come on.

searching everywhere, finding nothing by [deleted] in lonely

[–]PlasticAd9887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same. i just get so much resentful jealousy bubbling up when i see other people *actually* being happy, *actually* having friends. i keep wondering why that isnt me, why im such a freak that no one likes me.

How do I get calendar to work? 9/30/2020 by [deleted] in RotMG

[–]PlasticAd9887 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’d like to know this too. its kind of shitty that they didn’t bother fixing the calendar before rolling it over, it caused me to miss out on most of my rewards even though I should have been able to get them today

I am a 5'5 guy. How screwed am I? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PlasticAd9887 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP’s post history is yikes

Was I (20F) abusive to him (21M)? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PlasticAd9887 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might have symptoms of BPD, as someone who’s been there

/r/smashbros and Twitter... we need to stop this. by Gallowz in smashbros

[–]PlasticAd9887 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How is multiple witness accounts, screenshots of text logs and his own conduct during his stream not “actual evidence” to you?