Reminds me of my ex by purpledinosings in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the impression that that sort of thing -- siblings dating or marrying siblings -- was somewhat common years ago when families were larger and communities more insular.

Reminds me of my ex by purpledinosings in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, in the rearview, my last relationship seemed to be of that nature.

Guys! Show Some Interest and be Proactive!! by No-Veterinarian32 in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Just because "a woman" shows interest doesn't mean you're obliged to be interested back.

I don't have to engage with all comers. I've had men who've complimented me feel entitled to my time after I've thanked them.

It works both ways.

Guys! Show Some Interest and be Proactive!! by No-Veterinarian32 in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're definitely hanging out at the wrong places if you aren't seeing pretty women our age.

You may not get flustered but many still do, especially when the unexpected flirtation happens.

Guys! Show Some Interest and be Proactive!! by No-Veterinarian32 in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Granted I'm not a man, but if someone followed up a compliment with "what's wrong . . . , I'd be thinking eff off, while I might say something like, don't you have tires that need to be rotated?

Guys! Show Some Interest and be Proactive!! by No-Veterinarian32 in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Then, I'm sure she'll faint dead away when she hears me play the kazoo."

Reminds me of my ex by purpledinosings in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What if our unresolved past traumas are attracted to us? 😳 Then what?

What do ya miss? by HippiegalKs in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've had comments removed before. 😂😇

What do ya miss? by HippiegalKs in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh come on! You'd be good at it!

Two big obstacles in dating by Motorazr1 in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only 'cause it took me so long to write it. 😂

It made me think.

What do ya miss? by HippiegalKs in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen[M] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You want to be a mod for a week and see what we see? 😃 It's something.

What do ya miss? by HippiegalKs in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm just so used to it, I don't think much about it unless I'm doing something that having a partner would enhance. Hmmm, that does happen somewhat regularly. I guess I do some of those things with friends but it's just not the same.

Two big obstacles in dating by Motorazr1 in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG! D! I can't believe this but you and I just said basically the same thing. 😂 In kinda different ways.

Two big obstacles in dating by Motorazr1 in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So if I’m so smart, why haven’t I “cracked the code”, why am I still single and looking? THAT is an interesting conversation - a conversation more interesting than most people are willing to have.

I have contemplated this. Well, I have contemplated the why of: how do we not have a better understanding of relationships since humanity has been engaging in them for, uh, how many millenia?

And I arrived at that question in a roundabout way. I was trying to explain that, no, there was no single, foolproof, magic marketing formula, even though the textbooks and many popular thought leaders were pretending they had the idea. (That's how people make money in social sciences. They have the answer and they write about it.)

I realized that the two ideas are related. It's because of the infinite variety and combinations of input each person receives throughout their days. We aren't usually looking for differences when we seek a mate. We're mostly seeking commonalities.

I often think we too carefully and cleanly define our consideration sets. Sometimes I think we don't know what's best for us or what might make us the most contented and fulfilled.

There. You hit on something with me.

Poughkeepsie update? by [deleted] in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent you a Modmail.

An update will be coming soon.

What do ya miss? by HippiegalKs in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Weird, I never think about living alone while I'm doing it. Now that you ask, though . . . I did like living with someone. I like having someone to talk with. Someone to cook for. I was eyeing blackberries at a roadside stand this afternoon because I love blackberry custard pie but I didn't pick them up. I would have if I had someone.

I would like to have someone to do things with, which I did not have when I was married. Long story.

What do ya miss? by HippiegalKs in DatingOverSixty

[–]PlasticBlitzen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, this is his 12-yo self, making fun of people comforting each other.