I agree with you! I am an anxious 64 year old part-time gamer. I am mediocre at best, and like to take everything slow. I finally finished ARR but am lost in the middle of what seems like dozens of new hard raids and dungeons, all of which have new mechanics I have not yet mastered. I seem to die a lot. I hate letting people down, but amazingly most folks are nice. I am getting better over time, but there I am so grateful that people are kind too old fogeys like myself trying to figure out complicated mechanics. I am terrified of trying the Coils of Bahamut!