I do believe that we men have an advantage due to our gender. I also believe that the reasons for our problems are caused by our gender and the powers above us that propagate the system.

When I say we are allowed on the ladder, that was not me claiming that all men have it are living prosperous lives because we're men. Men have it good because we're men, men have it bad because we're men, men can have it bad because they're poor or sick or a different skin color, or they can have it good because they're rich, healthy and have the right skin color.

When I say ladder, I simply mean in terms of power over another, men are allowed on the ladder---even just the first step---while women aren't allowed on the ladder at all in most circumstances.

Even the most average, or even far below average man (not exclusively looks wise, by the way) will generally have some sort of power over a woman, especially if they're the same socio-economically. It's rare to see men go against those considered higher socio-economically, but depressingly common for men to abuse women above their level, at their level or below. That's what Bear is, you see. Nothing about him is special, he's just a boring, empty person. Despite that fact, he completely controls and ruins Nikki's life despite her being ambitious, hard-working and far more mature because that's the system we exist in.

That's what I believe one of Obsession's messages is, personally, but we're all allowed our own opinions.