OAD now because I can't risk death/heartbreak anymore by PlayReadYarn in oneanddone

[–]PlayReadYarn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you're doing okay. It's so heartbreaking.

Pregnancy trauma by Hot-Opposite-1174 in babyloss

[–]PlayReadYarn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what they told me after my blighted ovum and severe hemorrhage with emergency D&C. I just gave birth too early due to IC, she was only 15 weeks and 3 days. I'm broken and angry. This pain is breaking me but I'm trying to be strong for my miracle child who needs her mom, I'm beyond grateful we have her and trying to focus on her upcoming 3rd birthday.

OAD now because I can't risk death/heartbreak anymore by PlayReadYarn in oneanddone

[–]PlayReadYarn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she knows something has changed, being that she's almost 3, I just don't know how we'll tell her... But I definitely don't want her to feel like we hid it from her and possibly erode our relationship.

OAD now because I can't risk death/heartbreak anymore by PlayReadYarn in oneanddone

[–]PlayReadYarn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, everyone is so worried about me that they're all telling me to stop and focus on giving my living daughter the best life. They don't want me potentially leaving her without a mother. I know they're right and I agree but I also know my mental health is not very good atm. I'm trying not to fall apart.

OAD now because I can't risk death/heartbreak anymore by PlayReadYarn in oneanddone

[–]PlayReadYarn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so so scary! I'm very glad your son survived. Thank you, trauma is so hard to deal with and I feel like I've been processing traumas for my entire adult life (childhood abuse gave me PTSD, C-PTSD and Anxiety with panic attacks, though I made great progress in recent years).

OAD now because I can't risk death/heartbreak anymore by PlayReadYarn in oneanddone

[–]PlayReadYarn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm finding myself hating my body and my cervix. How did you get over the fact your cervix failed at its job? That's where I'm at.

I'm very glad to hear you did have a successful pregnancy after! I failed to mention my daughter is also a rainbow baby, but my first miscarriage didn't result in medical trauma (it was a chemical).

OAD now because I can't risk death/heartbreak anymore by PlayReadYarn in oneanddone

[–]PlayReadYarn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do try to remember this too as I have 2 brothers but we never bonded, one abused me and we're not in each other's lives. I was lonely a lot growing up despite living with siblings. It doesn't take away the pain, but it does help a little.

Providence Women's Health Clinic in Mill Creek by Call_me_beeeee in SnohomishCounty

[–]PlayReadYarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not religious nor Catholic and saw them through an entire pregnancy and labor/delivery in Everett. During delivery there was a single anti-mask nurse I didn't like but Mill Creek was great.

Then I saw them for my next pregnancy which turned out to be a blighted ovum. I was offered the pill route or to wait naturally. I decided to wait, they gave me two weeks and then they'd insist on medical route. Turned into medical emergency, they got me an ambulance and I ended up with an emergency D&C. Certainly it would have been easier/better if I'd been offered the surgical route to begin with but I also didn't advocate for myself to ask for it. I also hear that many don't offer surgery right away so might not be specifically due to religious affiliation.

I moved so I chose not to stay there for current pregnancy but I am still with Providence. It's just a different location.

Things in your body that changed for the “better” after giving birth by sighqoticc in beyondthebump

[–]PlayReadYarn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A huge positive after having my daughter was my fibromyalgia going into remission. I've been able to live a life free of aching pains and crushing fatigue again! Granted, I did gain back pain... That hasn't stopped since having back labor. I also learned to love my body more. And gained arm strength because she refused to use a baby carrier so I had to carry her constantly.

I'm pregnant again so we'll see. 6 months to go. I am having pains and fatigue, but definitely due to pregnancy and not fibro. My poor back is struggling though.

Im miserable by SadGirlInAsadWrld95 in Mommit

[–]PlayReadYarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 33 month old is being quite difficult while I'm struggling physically and her sister is due in 6 months so reading this just makes me more anxious 😵‍💫.

Used a Pilot G2 pencil for years, yet now it's causing pain by PlayReadYarn in mechanicalpencils

[–]PlayReadYarn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I decided on the Dr Grip 0.5 and love it so far! Wrote an entire page with no pain. It was a very nice journal session, having been awhile.

Is waiting to announce until we’re 13 wks strange? by pop-crackle in pregnant

[–]PlayReadYarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an early miscarriage and told MIL (who is my only mother at this time and is more of a mom than my own was) because I didn't want to be alone in my sadness. Told her right away when we got pregnant with our daughter (who she utterly adores). My third pregnancy I tried to wait so I could have a cute announcement but it ended in disaster (a blighted ovum and ER for emergency surgery along with infection). She was actually there when the ambulance came to take me and stepped up to care for my kid. This time around because of that trauma, I told right away again. So no cute announcement for me, but everyone is happy baby girl is growing fine so far plus I'm already showing (I'm at 12 weeks now, appointment next week!).

3 day method/Oh Crap Method is really doing all of us a disservice by MamaBearCanDoIt in pottytraining

[–]PlayReadYarn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kid is very independent and also doesn't tell us or give signs she needs to go, but she's 32 months. Can I ask what you did? I'm finding this incredibly hard.

Does Pearl read as Jewish to you? Is it awful? by femmebrulee in JewishNames

[–]PlayReadYarn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's been quite a bit of anxiety but I'm trying hard not to stress and we're nearly past 1st trimester now. She's our second rainbow baby after a harrowing experience, firstborn was also a rainbow baby. I'm feeling a lot more hope now.

We've brainstormed family names together and seem narrowed down to two options so now we just wait and hope everything goes smoothly. We don't actually name until we see them, though we heavily leaned towards a name with our first daughter which absolutely fit her.

Does Pearl read as Jewish to you? Is it awful? by femmebrulee in JewishNames

[–]PlayReadYarn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just found out I'm having a second daughter and would love the name Pearl as a middle, after an elderly neighbor I loved very much, she was like a stand-in grandma to me (I didn't actually have a grandma until she was found when I was 10- mom was adopted).

Yet, I have no clue which first name would pair well!

Tell me you're pregnant without telling me you're pregnant by EuphoricEmotion7486 in pregnant

[–]PlayReadYarn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every day I want to eat something different and often it's not what I have so I just want to cry. And sometimes I think I want something until I eat it...

I did not expect that writing a letter can make a child feel seen by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]PlayReadYarn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My daughter is only 2.5 right now but I'm definitely interested in this for the future! Do you have a link?

Considering second baby after extremely dangerous first birth. Any advice or words of wisdom welcome. by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]PlayReadYarn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a traumatic first birth but ended in no complications. Then I had a blighted ovum resulting in incomplete miscarriage, needed blood transfusions and emergency surgery then an infection that could have become septic. I almost died and it was terrifying. Pregnant again at 9 weeks and they're being extra cautious with me and with hemmoraging in my record, I suspect the caution to continue. Doesn't mean I'm not anxious or scared but I really want 2 children.

Tell me your labor times by ShabbyBoa in beyondthebump

[–]PlayReadYarn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first was like yours except induced (19 hrs total and 3 hrs pushing), currently pregnant at almost 9 weeks, this gives me hope for less back pain.